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[hypnotique]

thank you.

p.s. i don't even get what the point is in pretending you're just friends and trying to treat you like one. that seems stupid/a waste of time if he intends to get back with you anyway.

When he first decided to do this, thats exactly what I said. And yeah I don't buy into the need to focus on school deal because as you stated if you really really wanted to one could easily make it work.

he can kiss my half rican ass at point </endrage>

[Just_Dream]

p.s. i don't even get what the point is in pretending you're just friends and trying to treat you like one. that seems stupid/a waste of time if he intends to get back with you anyway.

Agreed. He should have just said "I need some space", if he still cares about you and wants to "stay with you" (or get back together with you later). It's the same shit, except he's still committed and "attached". Nothing wrong with asking for space. Plus, Diana, you're not the type of chick to go psycho over "needing space", and he should understand that. Trust me, there's a lot of psycho bitches out there that go nuts when the guy says "I need some space". They'll think their guys are cheating on them or some shit. Especially the crazy Vietnamese ones... LUL.

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[hypnotique]

Agreed. He should have just said "I need some space", if he still cares about you and wants to "stay with you" (or get back together with you later). It's the same shit, except he's still committed and "attached". Nothing wrong with asking for space. Plus, Diana, you're not the type of chick to go psycho over "needing space", and he should understand that. Trust me, there's a lot of psycho bitches out there that go nuts when the guy says "I need some space". They'll think their guys are cheating on them or some shit. Especially the crazy Vietnamese ones... LUL.

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I know right.

So as i went on my movie date today, apparently he felt the urge to harass my IM and my myspace mail with messages asking about where was i and why i wasn't online or something because he "needed to talk to me" and then I get back and say i went to a movie he starts asking me shit about who i went and I kept it simple and said some friends, he sits there and acts all pissy and shit

[batman]

i don't believe in the focus on school stuff. i guess maybe that's a legit reason for some people, i don't know. my girlfriend has never made it impossible for me to "focus on school" or vise versa. that's just my situation though, you guys are probably way different from my relationship. i still feel like people could make it work if they wanted to that badly you know?

agree w/ dr

i think we've had this conversation before a while back. tbh taking a break because of school or work is just ridiculous. if he needs to focus on school, then maybe give him some space or let him study when he needs to study. it doesn't mean you guys need to actually "break up but not break up" and go through all that unnecessary drama.

[brooklyneast05]

it doesn't mean you guys need to actually "break up but not break up" and go through all that unnecessary drama.

yeah exactly. i think having a break up makes it harder to focus on school/work/anything than staying together.

[DoubleJ]

what do you mean lost homie

Like idk I don't usually go for girls like this. I think that I am pressing too hard!

[smash]

there's this guy i'm interested in, he's friend's with one of my friends. i was going to ask my friend about him because i knew he would be honest and i could get some info on him before i decided to make any kind of move. me and my friend were supposed to meet up at the movies last weekend so i figured that would be a good time to ask him. but when we were walking around after the movie he tried to hold my hand. i thought to myself "oh crap, he likes me. this is going to be awkward." how do you think i should handle this? should i still pursue his friend or not?

[redfred]

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This post has been edited by Cristy: Aug 15 2009, 12:12 PM

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[brooklyneast05]

there's this guy i'm interested in, he's friend's with one of my friends. i was going to ask my friend about him because i knew he would be honest and i could get some info on him before i decided to make any kind of move. me and my friend were supposed to meet up at the movies last weekend so i figured that would be a good time to ask him. but when we were walking around after the movie he tried to hold my hand. i thought to myself "oh crap, he likes me. this is going to be awkward." how do you think i should handle this? should i still pursue his friend or not?

that's sucky. well you shouldn't go through him anymore to find out info i suppose. however if you still really like the friend, i think you should pursue it. it's too bad that it's probably not gonna go over well with this other guy, but that's just how it is sometimes. if you really want that dude you shouldn't have to ignore that for the sake of not hurting this guys feelings. also you shouldn't just give it up if you're real interested becasue this friend might not even care that much. him trying to hold your hand doesn't necessarily mean he's madly in love with you or anything. maybe he was just testing the water. i duno the whole thing kinda depends on how much your friend likes you i suppose.

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sorry, it seems you're so delusional that you're far beyond the help of Dr.

This post has been edited by Cristy: Aug 15 2009, 12:13 PM

Reason for edit: Removed redfred's link from your quote. - Cristy

[Maccabee]

Time to bring a little still in school action up in here.

Here is my situation doc. I wont go into to much detail. I have been in this situations many times. I have given out really strong messages and now im stuck in a corner and cant back out without braking some hearts. I think im gonna stick to it, but I need a backup plan to get out that doesnt involve crying. I hate the sound of crying girls...

[tokyo-rose]

Time to bring a little still in school action up in here.

Here is my situation doc. I wont go into to much detail. I have been in this situations many times. I have given out really strong messages and now im stuck in a corner and cant back out without braking some hearts. I think im gonna stick to it, but I need a backup plan to get out that doesnt involve crying. I hate the sound of crying girls...

1. How is supposed to help you if you're going to provide that little detail?

2. So do what you did all those other times. I'm sure you've lost count of all the girls whose hearts you've broken by now; another one won't matter.

[datass]

lol @ jcp breaking girls' hearts

[gojira]

am i a creeper for wanting to know more about relationship :3

BIO???

[brooklyneast05]

Time to bring a little still in school action up in here.

Here is my situation doc. I wont go into to much detail. I have been in this situations many times. I have given out really strong messages and now im stuck in a corner and cant back out without braking some hearts. I think im gonna stick to it, but I need a backup plan to get out that doesnt involve crying. I hate the sound of crying girls...

well like cristy already said i don't really know how to answer something so vague. i don't think anyone likes crying girls that much. girls cry though, it's just what they do. give me more info and i'll give you a better answer.

am i a creeper for wanting to know more about relationship :3
BIO???

what we've talked about this in cbc a biography of my relationship could fill a novel though, for real. more specific question

[Mikeplyts]

lol @ jcp breaking girls' hearts

[Maccabee]

lol @ jcp breaking girls' hearts

Im 14?

well like cristy already said i don't really know how to answer something so vague. i don't think anyone likes crying girls that much. girls cry though, it's just what they do. give me more info and i'll give you a better answer.
what we've talked about this in cbc a biography of my relationship could fill a novel though, for real. more specific question

Well for a start she is 13 and im 14. I had a crush on her the year before at a camp and I knew she liked me. I saw two months ago and then I started talking to her strictly via texting/messaging/stupid stuff. So basically I was talking to the 12 year old erin. (the fact that she was 12 a year ago kind of freaks me out) Well I told her I hd a crush on her and of course I was right about her having a crush on me
Well she has a very complicated family and she was staying with her mom in Idaho for a month so we talked a lot over ext during that time and we talked on the phone like every three days or something. And by talked a lot I mean, she texted me every hour of every day for the whole month. So I just rolled with it, but I could tell she was getting really attached and liked me. Of course when I start talking to girls I get into the swing and start flirting a lot, but of course I still havent seen her for months. So finally she gets back and I see her. For a start she looks very different. You know about my chin fetish, well. her chin sucks. hahaha. And she is always with her friends but all of her friends annoy the crap, out of me! So basically I gave her the idea I really loved when I didnt even know her! And now if it gets any worse I need away to back out. This is why I think dating before 16 is stupid. And I did something like this before. I told a girl I loved her over the phone but then of course she turned out to be a needy bi... brat. So I cut it, and now she is my stalker. I promised myself I wouldnt tell a girl I loved her or anything like that over the phone again. But I cant help flirting.

That was long. Hope you dont mind, ahaha. Typing on this mac is the bomb!

[brooklyneast05]

Im 14?
Well for a start she is 13 and im 14. I had a crush on her the year before at a camp and I knew she liked me. I saw two months ago and then I started talking to her strictly via texting/messaging/stupid stuff. So basically I was talking to the 12 year old erin. (the fact that she was 12 a year ago kind of freaks me out) Well I told her I hd a crush on her and of course I was right about her having a crush on me
Well she has a very complicated family and she was staying with her mom in Idaho for a month so we talked a lot over ext during that time and we talked on the phone like every three days or something. And by talked a lot I mean, she texted me every hour of every day for the whole month. So I just rolled with it, but I could tell she was getting really attached and liked me. Of course when I start talking to girls I get into the swing and start flirting a lot, but of course I still havent seen her for months. So finally she gets back and I see her. For a start she looks very different. You know about my chin fetish, well. her chin sucks. hahaha. And she is always with her friends but all of her friends annoy the crap, out of me! So basically I gave her the idea I really loved when I didnt even know her! And now if it gets any worse I need away to back out. This is why I think dating before 16 is stupid. And I did something like this before. I told a girl I loved her over the phone but then of course she turned out to be a needy bi... brat. So I cut it, and now she is my stalker. I promised myself I wouldnt tell a girl I loved her or anything like that over the phone again. But I cant help flirting.

That was long. Hope you dont mind, ahaha. Typing on this mac is the bomb!

there isn't anything to do besides back out. you can't just keep going along with it and pretending like you like her when you don't and being around her annoys you. you can just try to back out slowly rather than saying cya bitch and ignoring her. if she cries then she cries, there's not much to do about it. just tell her you don't wanna get too serious because you're only 14. you really should stop telling them you love them though. that's not going to get you anywhere good. you can flirt without telling her you love her...

[Maccabee]

I havent told her I love her. But she thinks I do.

[brooklyneast05]

I havent told her I love her. But she thinks I do.

well that's her own fault then i guess i mean she's not your girlfriend so you shouldn't have so many obligations to her. do you still text her a lot?

[Maccabee]

I should probably stop holding her hand then, huh.

O and she just called me crying

[brooklyneast05]

yeah holding her hand doesn't fall under the "backing off" category

[Maccabee]

guilty... Just when im alone with her, shes great but I just dont like her friends nd stuff.

[brooklyneast05]

well dr. says you have to choose one or the other. the longer you keep doing what you're doing the more drawn out and difficult it will be and the more crying for you to listen to.

[none345678]

slap her

[Just_Dream]

slap her

I like you