*needs help please* Options

[the minority]

hey, i have a problem and was wondering if anyone could give me some advice, or help me...

The situation is that me and my best friend both really like this guy, she's going out with him at the moment but she's gone on holiday for 4 weeks, and she's already been gone for 2 weeks. In that time me and the boy have got close and he's told me he really likes me too, we've been flirting loads and now i feel bad about all this, could any body help me on what to do?

thanks

[monxcheri]

i say don't go for the guy. friendship is definitely MORE important than a guy. plus, your friend is gonna think that you betrayed her `cause you hooked up with her guy specially since she was on vay-kay.. there are more hot fish in the sea

[yummy_delight]

Stop it. NOW.

Chicks before d*cks, honey. You can't steal him from your best friend because that would make you a really crappy friend. You're just going to have to put your feelings on hold. It's not fair to her.

[mouse_3k]

wow back off or your a slut. its your best friend she trust u and u shouldnt do tht crap to her...

[technicolour]

COMMUNICATION. I swear.Sing it with me.

Tell your friend what you've been doing, hopefully nothing stupid. Remind the guy that he's going out with your FRIEND not YOU. Pray that she doesnt get mad.

[*anubis*]

uhh... i wouldn't tell her if i were you.

but. you knew all along that he was taken, so why would you mess with him? especially when he's your friend's boyfriend!!!. that's almost wrong on so many levels.

first of all, why the hell would you do that? you knew either way, it was a lose/lose situation.

win the guy --> lose the friend
keep the friend --> lose the guy (you know.. the one you never had)

i guess it depends on your personality. you can't depend on everyone else to tell you what to do. if you're the kind of person who just doesn't give a shit about your friends, then go for it. but if you're a loyal type or whatnot that values friendship, then don't.

just... damn.

she is on VACATION!. how unfair it that?

that's like.. a major backstab.

shooting someone when they have their back turned. stabbing them in the back. not to be harsh, but that's just what it is.

[elaboratedream]

back off for now. Friends ALWAYS come before guys... that's not to say that later you can't think about going out with him... but only after they break up... and awhile after that or your friend will think you're a backstabbing bitch

[JessBur1981]

Yeah don't tell her. Just leave it alone. Good friends are hard to come by these days, and we fellers are a dime a dozen.

[*iNyCxShoRT*]

Stop it, thats rude. He's in a relationship at least wait til he's single!

[megan_x3]

What do you think ? Would you rather break up your friendship for a guy?? Is it that worth it ? Do you think he really like you? If you went out with him and then suddenly, he dumped you, and your friend knew everything .. congrats ! you've just lost a best friend that proballly meant a lot to you. (sorry if she doesnt mean a lot) freinds are first and relationships are second .. that is what my friends say to me.

[Paradox of Life]

This guy is not trustworthy. He's cheating on your friend and taking advantage of her absence.

[aera]

her boyfriends flirting with you... her best friend is flirting with her boyfriend....

end it now. and hope she never finds out.

[yukichan]

BACK OFF..
That is one of the worsest thing you can do to your friend..She trusts you and you do that?That's cruel and rude..
End it..Even if your friend and her boyfriend breaks up, you shouldn't get together..He isn't a person you can trust..

[lKVNiiKINKYl]

seriously back off like everyone said
you moved in or at least u let something being to stir when your friends gone? gosh bad friend shame on you

[angelrevelation]

when your best friend finds out (and ooo she will) she is going to be really mad, and it'll be even worse if she doesn't hear about it from you. as everyone else said, stop the flirting now, and set the guy straight that he's going out with HER not you

[pyrochick19770]

That's pretty bad.
I've been in a sitch like that.
Ended up TERRIBLY.
Just leave him alone & be a LOYAL friend.

[*suddenly she*]

we fellers are a dime a dozen.

taking back sunday! except replace the lyrics with communication, shall we?
tell your friend you did, and that you're sorry. but only if you're sorry. and that you're a terrible friend and that you'll never do it again, anything you can to tell her what happened without losing her. and don't hook up with the guy.

communicationcommunication

[whooooshy]

she's your friend, and he's just a guy. and might i point out that if he's willing to do this to his gf while she's gone, he's not very trustworthy.

[sheepy]

okay, if the guy is your friend's already, just back off please.

[Spirited Away]

don't let it go to your head. his flirting with you is proving the kind of guy he is: player, backstabber, cheater... etc. these kind of dudes will flirt with anything two-legged in a skirt.

if he is truly interested in you, he is the one who should gently break up with your friend with your support. meaning, you're in the background unless your friend wants to confront you about it. only then should you respond to her. why? because whether you like it or not, you are somewhat, if not completely, at fault.

like someone else said, don't apologize to your friend unless you mean it. if you don't care, i say go for it... but remember: what goes around, comes around AND NOBODY likes a backstabber--which is what you would be if you continue this farce.

[demolished]

^
face, fate or force?

Anyways, i sort of agreed with fae.
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you'll more of a backstabber but you can stop it now.

Does your friend ever matter to you ? Do you care about her? does she care about you ? Did she ever waited for you to come out ? Does she took her time out of her life to do something for you such as gifts, buy you food, and etc. Did she ever done anything that made you special or have very good connection between friends? If so, dont ruin it. Mostly, friends usually last longer than bf and gf. Friendship is alot less stress than having bg/gf.

Thats what i think.

[Spirited Away]

^
face, fate or force?

Farce.

farce (färs) n.
A light dramatic work in which highly improbable plot situations, exaggerated characters, and often slapstick elements are used for humorous effect.
The branch of literature constituting such works.
The broad or spirited humor characteristic of such works.
A ludicrous, empty show; a mockery: The fixed election was a farce.
A seasoned stuffing, as for roasted turkey.

When in doubt, dictionary.com

[demolished]

Oh. i didnt know that is a word. i have bad vocabulary.


Wow, i read your post again. i finally understood it better. =D

[*mishyerr*]

Both ditch the boy. If he even considers cheating on her, than he'll do it to you.

[xFaith]

Dont go for him, hes kinda using you and your friend.. dont risk your friendship for that guy