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 Jul 20 2005, 06:02 AM
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 okay i have this friend that smokes but i spend hours on the phone talking to her to stop smoking but she doesn't listen she said its permited...she only smokes when shes upset and shes upset a lot...she never listens and i love her to death but she won't listen to me..please help =[
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Jul 20 2005, 06:16 AM
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 (′ ･ω･｀) Group: Official Designer Posts: 6,179 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 72,477 |
u can try and tell her how much u love and care for her, and that she doing that is hurting u badly. or if u want it da hard way..
threaten to end ur friendship if she doesnt stop.. |
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| *mipadi* |
Jul 20 2005, 07:56 AM
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QUOTE(icy_wonderland @ Jul 20 2005, 7:16 AM) threaten to end ur friendship if she doesnt stop..  It's stupid to end a perfectly good friendship over something like smoking, and it's definitely not cool to use a threat of ending a relationship as a bargaining chip in any dispute. I think your best bet is to just sit down and talk to her, tell her that smoking is bad for her health, and that it is in her best interest to stop. Just show her that you are concerned for her as a friend, and you're not angry or disappointed in her, but worried about her health. |
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Jul 20 2005, 11:16 AM
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threatening to end it is the stupidest idea i've ever heard.
you can never say anything like that until you understand her situation. just like cutting--some people threaten to end the friendship if the friend continues cutting but they have no idea about the release of tension from it. you just can't say anything that biased about something--it's very unfair. so, okay, if she's upset, she smokes. we all do something when we're upset. some people it's cutting, some it's sleeping, some it's crying, and others it's smoking. just ask her to try and limit herself, but don't stop her completely. she'll hate you for it. 
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Jul 20 2005, 11:32 AM
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 My name's Katt. Nice to meet you! Group: Member Posts: 3,826 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 93,674 |
... Let her smoke. It's her effing choice. Stop forcing your opinion on her. You're not being a good friend by not respecting her opinions. If smoking helps her, so be it.
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Jul 20 2005, 12:44 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 2,087 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 36,491 |
INTERVENTION mwhahahahahahah......
well that may be a BIT extreme, but like yea tell her how you feel about her and you care about her and that you're worried for her health >< |
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Jul 20 2005, 01:57 PM
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 show me a garden thats bursting to life Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 12,303 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 115,987 |
Well. there's Intervention [already been mentioned], cold turkey, or
COMMUNICATION Talk to her. Tell her how it bugs you. Communicate. |
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Jul 20 2005, 01:59 PM
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Question: Is that "communicate" in big, bold letters always on your clipboard, or do you have the markup saved as a text file somewhere?
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Jul 20 2005, 02:14 PM
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show me a garden thats bursting to life Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 12,303 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 115,987 |
Nah. I rewrite it and make it big all the time. Some people can't grasp the faboulas art of communication.
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Jul 20 2005, 02:16 PM
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You should save it as a text file so you can just copy/paste.
Or better yet, get the admins to make a PHP function...say, something like "show_communication()" and then you can just include a BB code tag that will call that PHP function... |
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Jul 20 2005, 02:17 PM
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show me a garden thats bursting to life Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 12,303 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 115,987 |
I was thinking of just writing a whole thread about communication and begging a mod or someone to pin it. Everytime i say communication it would be huge.
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Jul 20 2005, 02:17 PM
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 Mr.Charismatic Group: Member Posts: 175 Joined: Jul 2005 Member No: 163,383 |
haha i say let them smoke or go out and rent some movies about people who smoke with those bad voices and all that stuff --- just let her see it :)
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Jul 20 2005, 02:24 PM
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 *scribble scribble* Group: Member Posts: 1,314 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 119,610 |
track down some of those old 'smoking is bad' movies and worksheets from old health classes... if she doesnt listen then just let her smoke. just dont say "i told you so" when she gets cancer or something.
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Jul 20 2005, 02:47 PM
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 november 25th,, <3 Group: Member Posts: 473 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 50,226 |
you cant really do anything about it, if you have already talked to her about it, and she seems to pay you no mind. maybe you should take a break and stop talkin` to her for a while, and see if she really cares about your friendship she`ll come back to you, or stop smokin`. the outcome may not be what you want it to be, but truth hurts.
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Jul 20 2005, 07:28 PM
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try talking to her and if it doesnt work just respect their choices.
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Jul 20 2005, 07:40 PM
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QUOTE(teeners__15 @ Jul 20 2005, 9:44 AM) INTERVENTION mwhahahahahahah...... well that may be a BIT extreme, but like yea tell her how you feel about her and you care about her and that you're worried for her health >< I agree. If she still doesn't listen after that, leave her alone. She obviusly won't change her opinion because of you if she hasn't after youv'e tried to persuade her many times. You have to let her realize that smoking is bad for her health, aditude, and depression all by herself. She obviously doens't want to listen to anyone else telling her that. |
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Jul 20 2005, 08:43 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Official Member Posts: 6,953 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 52,702 |
you can just let her smoke...she is old enough to make her decisions..evern though you know this will effect her badly...let her make her own mistakes
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Jul 21 2005, 12:14 PM
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I hate when some of the people I hang out with smoke...the people who do smoke I don't really talk to them much!!...soOo I wouldn't know about a person you love smoking, but my Mom...& I love her & I want her to stop too...& if the only way yur friend will stop is by stop stressing...do something special for her that'll make her feel relaxed & comfortable..& get her to call a quit smoking hotline or explain to her everything that could happen..Tell her you could die from second-hand smoke too..Ask her how she would feel if she was responsible for your death!!...& if she gets upset about all this tell her your sorry, but you care for her way to much to see her puff away her life like it's nothing...cause it's not nothing it's something to you & you want to be something to her...
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Jul 21 2005, 01:21 PM
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 This bitch better work! Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 13,681 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 28,095 |
there's nothing you can do. it's her decision. just tell her to talk to someone or a doctor.
but let it be known: smoking is hard habit to break.
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Jul 21 2005, 09:22 PM
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 Blasian, Asian, INVASION! Group: Official Member Posts: 4,288 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 16,769 |
Let her smoke. once she finds out she got cancer, then she will regret it all. let her live her life and make her live through her mistakes
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Jul 21 2005, 09:25 PM
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POWAPOSTA Group: Member Posts: 3,169 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 30,725 |
smoking is bad?
i didnt know that 
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Jul 23 2005, 01:38 AM
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you get her on a 3-way phone call with people as practical as yourself and all yammer on at once about how it's bad with lots of advrbs untl you hit a nreve. at the very least, it's fun
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Jul 23 2005, 08:56 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 1,220 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 81,808 |
QUOTE(airam @ Jul 21 2005, 9:25 PM) smoking is bad? i didnt know that wth.... okay, idk what to say if your friend wont listen to you... sadly he/she is slowy killing herself with smoke
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Jul 24 2005, 02:27 AM
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Do research and watch some viedos.
take notes and prepare to make statements encourage your friends with your statements. Show some life to life viedos. |
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Jul 24 2005, 04:25 PM
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 *lurks around* Group: Member Posts: 624 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 15,932 |
Tell her that smoking kills, and you don't want to see her chances of living a long and happy life go to waste. Then give her some statistics, or better, give her the shock effect. Actually SHOW her pictures of what happens to you when you smoke..
And if it doesn't work, seek help. There are tons of hotlines out there that'll help you. |
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