Trust issues, with my mom |
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 Jul 25 2005, 10:23 PM
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Senior Member  Group: Validating Posts: 34 Joined: May 2005 Member No: 133,640  |
Okay, so I dated some jerk once (who rides my bus and lives near me) and I told my mom I was going to the park by our house to walk. She caught us hanging out, holding hands, and talking (she doesn't approve of dating). This was a few months ago.
So now, I want to go walking with my friend tomorrow from 7-10 pm. Well, we just want to walk my dog, talk, and hopefully bump into my old neighbor who's in town because I havent seen him in forever and I want to catch up some. Well, now shes all: "7-10? Isn't that a little LONG to be WALKING?" "How many guys do you plan on picking up?" Blah blah blah. I mean, she doesn't know I was dating that guy before and she doesn't understand. Anyway, how could I explain we just wanted to walk? She won't believe me and I don't know if I can ever get her to trust me. Advice for anything would help... |
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Jul 25 2005, 11:00 PM
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 TOISU!! Group: Member Posts: 1,996 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 92,516 |
Tell your mom to give you a chance and to hear you out.
Then tell her. If she talks, tell her to stfu. |
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Jul 25 2005, 11:40 PM
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 The Texan Group: Member Posts: 430 Joined: May 2005 Member No: 136,431 |
You busted her trust by not telling her.
COMMUNICATION |
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Jul 25 2005, 11:57 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 2,343 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 17,767 |
QUOTE(CrazayChristian @ Jul 25 2005, 11:40 PM) You busted her trust by not telling her. COMMUNICATION  no really? anyway... what would work with my mom would probably be if I said something along the lines of "I know there's nothing I could say to gain your trust, but I can honestly say that that's all I'm going to do. If you don't want to believe me, I am entirely open to you 'checking up' on us to make sure we're not doing anything aside from what I've told you." She'll either be like "i'm not gonna go through all that trouble.. just go.", or maybe she'll actually come out to see what you guys are up to. Even if she does, you'll have a shot at earning her trust back. |
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Jul 26 2005, 10:46 AM
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 naïvety Group: Human Posts: 1,303 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 488 |
^ Agree. Pretend you don't mind her checking up on you guys (even if you do). If she sees you're confident she can check anytime, then she'll probably back off.
I guess she's not letting you out again this time because you dated behind her back last time (and got caught).. You need to earn her trust again. I dunno, talk to her more? 
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Jul 26 2005, 10:52 AM
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 show me a garden thats bursting to life Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 12,303 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 115,987 |
QUOTE(CrazayChristian @ Jul 25 2005, 11:40 PM) You busted her trust by not telling her. COMMUNICATION YOU STOLE MY LINE! YOU ^%#&$&Y#*$&$*#&$*!!!!!! i'm going to go spam you now. But seriously, you gotta gain her trust back. Be a bit more open, let her get to know him.. |
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Jul 26 2005, 11:06 AM
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CHYEAAHHH MAN Group: Member Posts: 1,255 Joined: Jul 2005 Member No: 168,013 |
QUOTE(jennypie @ Jul 26 2005, 12:57 AM) no really? anyway... what would work with my mom would probably be if I said something along the lines of "I know there's nothing I could say to gain your trust, but I can honestly say that that's all I'm going to do. If you don't want to believe me, I am entirely open to you 'checking up' on us to make sure we're not doing anything aside from what I've told you." She'll either be like "i'm not gonna go through all that trouble.. just go.", or maybe she'll actually come out to see what you guys are up to. Even if she does, you'll have a shot at earning her trust back. my mom didnt trust me i told her to check up on me she got bored after 10 minutes and went home =) |
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Jul 26 2005, 12:25 PM
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 Mr.Charismatic Group: Member Posts: 175 Joined: Jul 2005 Member No: 163,383 |
just 10 mins? wow --- haha COMMUNICATION
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Jul 26 2005, 12:32 PM
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 This bitch better work! Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 13,681 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 28,095 |
never to fear, you will get her trust back sooner or later. (most likely later rather than sooner) but anyways.......just tell her what you and your friend are REALLY going to do. you are going to go walking with the dog, talk to your friend and hopefully meet up with someone else. simple as that. if she says that you can't do it, than just deal with it.
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Jul 26 2005, 12:47 PM
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I Have to agree with the people that said to let her chck up on you, if your just gonna be hanging out with your friend, you have no need to worry, I also think you should tell your mom how you feel about her not trusting you, you may get lucky, she might understand. And even if she doesn't, you'll feel better.
Been there, done that... 
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Jul 26 2005, 07:28 PM
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CHYEAAHHH MAN Group: Member Posts: 1,255 Joined: Jul 2005 Member No: 168,013 |
QUOTE(ishowernaked @ Jul 26 2005, 1:25 PM) just 10 mins? wow --- haha COMMUNICATION communication is for losers just kidding =) but she was like OMG I TRUST YOU can i go home now? |
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Jul 26 2005, 07:37 PM
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 Dark Lord of McCandless Group: Member Posts: 2,226 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 16,761 |
Cut her throat in her sleep.
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