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 May 16 2005, 06:46 PM
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 ticktock.  Group: Member Posts: 1,138 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 118,235  |
props to whoever reads it all
 well i've been going out with this boy for about 3˝ months. things were okay during the first month or so, but he sometimes seemed to choose basketball over me. he would sometimes break plans just so he could play basketball with a few of his friends. i talked to him about it and i guess he started to stop doing that and hang out with me more. things were going fine until things started, i dunno, i guess changing? he started getting irratating sometimes. for example, he would ask me where i was going. i would say that i didnt know. and 2 seconds later, he would go "where you going" and once again i would reply "i dont know." then he would continue to repeat the question. and sometimes he would be mean to my friends. sometimes in the morning, i would go up to him with a few of my friends, and he would be in his own group of friends, and i would just be standing there waiting for him to notice me there. but he would just look at me, and then turn back to his friends acting like he never saw me. and sometimes whenever i talk to him, i get grouchy everytime i talked to him. i would be giving him an attitude and all that. then i would apologize and everything would be back to normal. and then the next day, whenever i get online and am about to talk to him, he goes "im going to go outside". he does it basically almost everytime we dont see each other for that day and almost right after i get online. what i'm trying to ask is. .should i break up with him? or should i just wait to see how things turn out? i tried talking to him about it countless times but things would just go back to the way they used to be. nothing ever changes really whenever we talk about something. the only thing that he really changed was the situation about basketball. so if you were me, what would you do? leave or wait? |
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| *iNyCxShoRT* |
May 16 2005, 06:52 PM
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wow that is confusing, well maybe you should wait a few days see how he reacts, if you can't handle it anymore break it off with him. Maybe you should give him another chance perhaps another week or so, you don't wanna regret it later on.
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May 16 2005, 07:06 PM
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 Shutup before I smack you. Group: Member Posts: 119 Joined: May 2005 Member No: 136,015 |
no juliana. you've been through so much cuz of this fool. lols. i say don't just do those regular online talks you've been doing with him or even your real life talks with him. talk to him for like.. a LONG time, tell him everything thats on your mind; try to give him some ideas of how to change..
i know you might think that you already did that, but this time, do it for real and if he doesnt say anything, don't just walk away and go to a friend and say, he's not talking, forget it.. go to him and say, "why aren't you saying anything back? why don't you say something? not to be roud or anything but i'm sort of tired of waiting all the time for a reply yet you never give one back. Just tell me what's on your mind or something. Say something." and if he still doesn't answer... give up hope. that will just mean that he's thinking or he doesn't want to answer, or he doesn't know how to answer to that. Then, just go like, "forget it then since you dont want to answer. just get my point." then, way another day and see how he acts the next day or 2. If he hasn't changed... i guess my cool friend, you just have to let him go. ;[ |
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May 16 2005, 07:08 PM
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Shutup before I smack you. Group: Member Posts: 119 Joined: May 2005 Member No: 136,015 |
for the
" then, way another day, and see how he acts the next day or 2." i meant WAIT. not way. |
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May 16 2005, 07:15 PM
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ticktock. Group: Member Posts: 1,138 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 118,235 |
but things are so different on&off line. online, things are so complicated, and there's always something wrong. but offline, sometimes things are like. .really great and i forget about things. =\
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May 16 2005, 07:40 PM
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 *scribble scribble* Group: Member Posts: 1,314 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 119,610 |
he doesnt even smile or wave to you if he sees you? thats a horrible way to treat a gf/bf. you should talk to him about it because it seems like hes having some mood swings.
if he keeps on repeating a question over and over, ask him if he really did hear the answer. |
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| *iNyCxShoRT* |
May 16 2005, 07:45 PM
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Nancy on cb it's not good to double post o_O just edit next time, and yeah i agree with what nancy said.
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May 16 2005, 07:47 PM
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ticktock. Group: Member Posts: 1,138 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 118,235 |
QUOTE(akinachan @ May 16 2005, 8:40 PM) he doesnt even smile or wave to you if he sees you? thats a horrible way to treat a gf/bf. you should talk to him about it because it seems like hes having some mood swings. if he keeps on repeating a question over and over, ask him if he really did hear the answer.  sometimes he waves / says hi. other times, he looks at me, and when i look at him, he turns away and acts as if he doesnt see me. |
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May 16 2005, 07:53 PM
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 ART is everything. Group: Member Posts: 230 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 45,166 |
erm..why did you answered him with "i don't know" when he asked where were you going? you don't know where are you going off to? o.O
^oh and..I think he was trying to act cool infront of his friends...like most guys do that.. 
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May 16 2005, 07:53 PM
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 Tasty. Group: Member Posts: 471 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 21,784 |
time to leave him. from the moment he "chose basketball over you", that should've been clue #1 to get out. a bf should devot most of his time to you (mind you he does have a life outside the relationship!), and he should want to be with YOU and not his friends. it sounds like HE'S the one not ready for a real relationship. he's prolly too immature and hasn't grown up yet. i say let him go off, u're soo much better without him and with someone who will cherish you the way a bf should.
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May 16 2005, 08:07 PM
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ticktock. Group: Member Posts: 1,138 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 118,235 |
QUOTE(yuna* @ May 16 2005, 8:53 PM) erm..why did you answered him with "i don't know" when he asked where were you going? you don't know where are you going off to? o.O ^oh and..I think he was trying to act cool infront of his friends...like most guys do that.. i said that because we were just walking down the street, and it was after school. we didnt really have any plans of where to go yet. so i just said i dont know. QUOTE time to leave him. from the moment he "chose basketball over you", that should've been clue #1 to get out. a bf should devot most of his time to you (mind you he does have a life outside the relationship!), and he should want to be with YOU and not his friends. it sounds like HE'S the one not ready for a real relationship. he's prolly too immature and hasn't grown up yet. i say let him go off, u're soo much better without him and with someone who will cherish you the way a bf should. i was thinking about that, and i dont want to do something that i would regret. because out of all my relationships, he was really the best boyfriend i've ever had. sometimes he's really sweet and all that, but there's just these times where. .the things he does; just upsets me. i'm scared that if i break up with him, i'm going to regret it. |
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May 16 2005, 08:10 PM
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ART is everything. Group: Member Posts: 230 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 45,166 |
^oooh then..it makes more sense now...I guess you should wait to see how it goes..it seems like he's annoyed at you...probably cause you want him spend more time with you.
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May 16 2005, 08:22 PM
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c[: Group: Member Posts: 2,302 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 2,876 |
lols...grrr i hate it when guys try to act hard in front of their friends!!!
 its so freaking annoying!! lols...if you cant talk to him about all the stuff that's going on in your mind then why are you with him? if he's no trying to make it work...then...why should you? arent there more men out there that you could be trying to holler at...dont devote yourself to one guy..exspecially some guy that (according to you) gets on your nerves or makes you act differently(your attitude, etc.) if he really wanted to make it work...dont you think he would have had that conversation that you was wanting to have about this situation? lols...i mean sometimes its hard to come into realization...but you have to one day....but that's only what i would do...because i've done so...recently...and things are going great....we're better as friends...lols...so maybe you guys could just be friends...hehehe....all things happen for a reason...nothing is a mistake...things happen...hehehe...=] good luck buddy!
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May 16 2005, 08:51 PM
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 between your smiles and regrets Group: Member Posts: 43 Joined: May 2005 Member No: 139,217 |
wait for 1-3 days. if he does the same thing, then you should break up with him. you def. deserve so much better!!
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May 16 2005, 09:29 PM
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well i think you should break up with him because he doesn't deserves you. Just break up with him because he is hurting you and pissing you off so wat's the use of having a boyfriend, also that is not the first time he broke your heart and make him feel sorry for everything that he did wrong with you. Do what your heart tells you to do but that's my opinion. Also that just saying that he is sorry for being mean to all your friends. Also that he is kinda shy when you are with your friends and he has nothing to do because sometimes you leave him out of convo abouth other people with your friend , so he just go play basketball. Not saying that he is right and you are wrong, but he is just feeling lonely at times. So do whatever your heart desires because you know that you always have room in his heart, since you are like the first girl that he went out with and he loved every single second with you. But dont believe him it might be a lie.
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May 16 2005, 10:12 PM
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 ...and this is me.. Group: Member Posts: 3,518 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 57,899 |
If you're in a relationship and things are not working out...or you've found a solution but it doesn't last....then I think it's time for you to give up this relationship and break up with him...maybe this will show him that you don't need him and that you can only take so much...maybe it'll even show him that you want to be respected and loved....like you deserve to be. Good luck.
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May 16 2005, 11:18 PM
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 Call me Lauren d=] Group: Member Posts: 278 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 113,118 |
There's definetely something wrong with this picture.. Make him talk otherwise.. I think it's time to let go.
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