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 May 9 2005, 09:31 PM
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do u think its wrong to bring up old things that have been bothering u for a while, but that uve talked about with your bf/gf but never actually really got the answers wanted?
in other words do u think its bad, when in a relationship, to bring up things again, just so ur reassured of something? |
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May 9 2005, 09:57 PM
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 dakishimetainoni... Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 4,322 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 75,318 |
i don't think it's bad...but like, you shouldn't have let your problems go unsolved...
it's fine to talk about things again, just don't talk about it again and again, because that not only gets boring  but it's also annoying 
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May 9 2005, 10:07 PM
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 I'll never be who I was again.. Group: Member Posts: 2,886 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 77,981 |
i agree with chii..u shouldnt leave ur problems unsolved..even though it may be to late, u should try to change or fix whatever the problem is..
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May 9 2005, 10:24 PM
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 hi. call me linda. Group: Official Member Posts: 8,187 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 3,475 |
Well, I don't think it's necesarily bad- I do it a lot with my boyfriend, sometimes unknowingly. But it always gets us into a fight, and bleh. But I agree, you shouldn't leave your problems unresolved. But don't just bring it up out of nowhere.
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May 10 2005, 08:31 PM
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 *scribble scribble* Group: Member Posts: 1,314 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 119,610 |
dont bring it up too many times that it becomes annoying... just ask for the answers once and then leave it alone.
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May 10 2005, 08:37 PM
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 Hah! Its funny cause its true... Group: Member Posts: 640 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 89,954 |
Yeah just bring it up again but not too many more times or that will get really annoying. You should just leave things hanging without filling in the gaps.
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May 10 2005, 09:05 PM
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i don't think it's bad that you're bring up stuff like that, it just shows that you don't want anything to be unsolved. just don't bring it up too many times.
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May 10 2005, 10:09 PM
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QUOTE(chii @ May 9 2005, 7:57 PM) i don't think it's bad...but like, you shouldn't have let your problems go unsolved... it's fine to talk about things again, just don't talk about it again and again, because that not only gets boring but it's also annoying  exactly. if you felt uncomfortable not solving such a problem, then yeah bring it up but once you get your answer, leave it be. |
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May 11 2005, 04:57 PM
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 This bitch better work! Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 13,681 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 28,095 |
i don't think that it is wrong. i think that if you aren't sure of something, than there is no harm in bringing it back up just to be sure.
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May 11 2005, 10:16 PM
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 rwar (; Group: Member Posts: 590 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 103,308 |
nahh, no way.
i agree with chii. dont leave your problems unsolved, but sometimes it can be quite irritating for that person, cause she might think that it's already solved or wtevr. .. am i making sense? 
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May 14 2005, 07:13 PM
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 ...and this is me.. Group: Member Posts: 3,518 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 57,899 |
Well....I don't think you should bring it up if it was already solved...and you're just bringing it up to be reassured...but..I guess you could bring it up if.....it wasn't solved....and you find yourself thinking about it alot....
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| *iNyCxShoRT* |
May 14 2005, 07:31 PM
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well it's okay if you do bring it up but don't say things that compare them to your ex or something. it might make them feel bad =\
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May 15 2005, 05:34 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 1,220 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 81,808 |
of course -- even he does it himself
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