how do i .. break it ><, and go back to how it was b4 .. Options

[m&m]

ive been thinking abt breaking up wif my bf .. but the thing is.. its not that easy. i mean nofings wrong. i jus wana break it. like i still like him. but i jus dont really want a relationship. like i preferred it b4 we went out. how we'd jus flirt aimlessly and talk for hours .. i still feel im not ready and that im not mature for this relationship. i mean like i feel really nervous and stuff wen ppl are around us. i can never imagine us like those couples u c in skool making out. then theres ppl in my class who always laugh, make comments at us wen ever they see us. i always end up blushing, hiding .. ><
i just duno wat to say. i mean i stil wana b good friends. i told my friend that .. but she sed most ppl end relationships like that but they rarely do get back 2 how they were b4 they went out.
any tips?
how about
"hey.. u no how we've been going out for a while.. i was thinking .. that we shood just be friends.."
that sounds so retarted

[_sarcastic_]

your friend could be right, its very hard for an ex bf/gf to go back to the way they were once they have broken up.
just tell him you're not ready for this relationship and suggest that you guys should break up and still remain good friends.

[aznangel4eva]

awah...sry honey, things like that are always hard. but if you give it time...you guys should be able to go back to how things were. Just tell him straight ou how you feel....he'll probably return the favor.

[WrathOfOnigo]

Tell him exactly how you feel. That you don't think you can be in a relationship but that you still like him. but before you do tell him how much you loved being his friend before you guys went out. But whatever you do DON'T let him get away. You'll have to do your best to talk to him whenever possible.

[Shattered_Hope]

There really is no easy way to break up with someone and your friend is right......few ever go back to what they once had before they went out.....so I guess......you just have to blame yourself for pretending you were ready when you weren't.....just tell him what you're thinking.....and just...hope for the best...hope that he'll forgive you for breaking up with him and become friends with you again...

[fuzz4]

like i preferred it b4 we went out. how we'd jus flirt aimlessly and talk for hours ..    i still feel im not ready and that im not mature for this relationship. i mean like i feel really nervous and stuff wen ppl are around us.

Tell him exactly that. Tell him you wanna slow down and take a step back because you don't feel your ready for a relationship. Then you can ease into it. Hope I could help!

[brand0n]

think about it..he loves u..how would HE feel??

[*suddenly she*]

just tell him that you were more comfortable when you both just talked for hours and "flirted aimlessly." that way he'll know that you still like being his friend or whatnot.

[*iNyCxShoRT*]

tell him that you still like him and all and you want it to be like before, tell hiim the way you just told us.

[Kneuklid Romance]

....I don't get it...why enter a relationship you KNOW you aren't ready to commit yourself to? That doesn't make any sense to me.

Why not enter a relationship when you're ready? When you know you'll feel comfortable around people.

-Kevyn

[m&m]

^ .. >< i no i no.. but .. i dint know at the time. well 2 tell the truth, he never really asked me out. it was just one day we went out after an excursion .. then at the end of the week we were a couple. wierd i know.
but omfg. i am like so sad rite now. i feel like crying
i did it yesterday T__T i told him. i did wat u guys told me to. he was fine and really nice abt it. at the time i was so relaxed and happii..

but 2dai at skool .. was the worst. the word sum how spread and everyone was like "y u break up? ur so mean." and stuff.. i feel so terrible. u know wats worse? he got a friend to give me back a foto of me (he put in his wallet) that he 'stole" b4 we went out. i felt soo hurt .. i duno y. im such an idiot . i broke it. and now i feel so hurt wen it was me who broke it.

i miss him like hell >< i wana talk 2 him. every time i c him with other gurls.. it hurts. inside i mean. but after he gave me the foto.. i coodnt talk or look at him.

far out. theres this biatch in year 8 who is a family "friend' and 2dai on the train he went up 2 me and yelled "HE DUMPED U ALREADY!??!?!!" fark i nearly started bawling my eyes out. he had 2 yell so loud. but omg lucky these gurls from my year who i never talk to were there and told him off for being slack.

i duno. i feel like its my fault.

wahaaa.. i wana go back in time. T__T

[vampireduster]

Tell him exactly how you feel.  That you don't think you can be in a relationship but that you still like him.  but before you do tell him how much you loved being his friend before you guys went out.  But whatever you do DON'T let him get away.  You'll have to do your best to talk to him whenever possible.

i agree

[heyyfrankie]

everything you said up there...tell her!
just tell her EXACTLY how you feel and hopefully she will understand. just tell her that you liked it better whenever y'all were really good friends and maybe, if it is meant to be, y'all can try to get back together. =)

[SimplicityGirl]

Well...if you still want to be friends with him, you have to give him some time. Also, it's very hard for ex bf/gf to get back to what they were before they went out. I know this because me and my ex were friends before we went out...we flirted with each other, laughed and talked just about anything with each other. Then he asked me out and I said yes. The only glitch was it turned out that he wasn't ready for a relationship with another girl...so he broke it off with him. And it's been half a year already and we're still not talking to each other. And I don't think we'll ever be friends.

If you still want to be friends...talk to him. But remember, don't force him to. It'll only hurt you more if he rejects it.

[yukichan]

once u break up with someone, its usually over..and sorry to tell u, but things rnt going to be the same as how it was before u went out with him...and just ignore the ppl hu ask u about what happened unless u want to tell them...even though u probably hurt him and ur hurting ur self, u probably did the right thing..

[m&m]

to robb0 .. uh yea im 15 in highskool year 10 atm. not that young am i?
i duno really how we became a couple. its like one day one of his friends was asking me if we were going out. i asked him wat shood i say and he sed "just tell him. i dun mind" and i had no idea if he meant yes we are or no we arent. so i was like "u tell him" and he told him we were. i was like hapii.. kinda.
ok ok .. i wish i new that if u went out with sumone and broke up, u can never go back to how u were b4.. i woondt of gone out and spend the rest of my life flirting till im like 30.
last nite .. we talked a bit.. and i realised how much i still wana be with him. then he asked "alrite. wats the real reason u broke up with me" i was gona tell him.. but he had to go.

ack. ok im gona ask him out agen.. and .. mayb tell him the real reason and mayb he wil understand ..

[enyceXaddiction]

yeah it usually doesnt end up the same as before...

[Azn_Angel13]

i hope things work out for the best!