"juss friends", is anybody able to do it? |
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"juss friends", is anybody able to do it? |
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me -n- my bf broke up recently...-n- it was a mutual thing since we're both happy -n- whtnot...-n- we promised to remain "juss friends" but we're like....ignoring each other...has this happened to neone else out there? neone able to accomplish to still remain friends? ---
P.S. we broke up 'boutz two days ago after going out for a lil ova 6 months...if that helps ![]() |
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![]() whaaaaaaat? ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 2,293 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 16,660 ![]() |
aww, don't worry. it's natural to feel a little iffy about each other right now. u two just broke up, and u both need a little distance. i'm trying to be friends with my ex, but she avoids me like the plague because according to her "that's how i deal with it". so whatever. a little distance is all good.
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#3
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![]() Member ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 16 Joined: Apr 2005 Member No: 128,746 ![]() |
oh..dun worry. he's probably feeling the same way as you. It's all very normal. ButI HAVE seen a few who has managed to be really friends. Most of us aren't like them.
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![]() I can't believe its not "Ryan" ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 1,981 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 21,368 ![]() |
Well thats just how it is! After sharing so much with each other, its hard to just be friends all over again. Just give each other time to not be so awkward.
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#5
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something like that happened to my exbf and i. we broke up after a 4 month relationship and we ignored each other for quite some time but now we're friends and kinda close ones too =) but its just not the same..
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![]() HAAAAAAAA. ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 4,472 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 75,068 ![]() |
![]() One phrase that guys hate most is "lets just be friends". |
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![]() kristin ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 5,705 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 3,985 ![]() |
Wow. I can understand 2 weeks and then ignoring...but 6 months?
Yeah it happened for me htough. We ignored eachother for like 2 weeks then just got over it. And it's not a good way to go, you should just confront him. |
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#8
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![]() reluctantly gazing ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 472 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 120,555 ![]() |
who broke up with who?
i mean, if you dumped him, then its natural that he might wanna ignore you... if he dumped you...then if u still wanna be friends... i spose he should allow it. ah, i dont know what im saying, but i hope it all works out for you two ![]() |
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#9
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![]() Senior Member ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 349 Joined: Apr 2005 Member No: 124,513 ![]() |
Its hard to have the same friendship you have before you go out, its possible, never happened to me yet, but its takes adjustment and after that the friendship can blossom....
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#10
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![]() dakishimetainoni... ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 4,322 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 75,318 ![]() |
my ex and i have broken up for like 2 years by now, we went out for about 8 months and he still doesn't talk to me. he blocked me awhile ago too.
i'd like to be friends again but from the way he talks those rare times we talk, i guess he's not over me -__-* i think he's just ridiculous, it's been 2 f*cking years ![]() well since you both were in a relationship for half a year, you can't really bounce down to friends that fast...give him some time, he'll probably come around...if not then just let it go. |
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![]() ...and this is me.. ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 3,518 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 57,899 ![]() |
After a while, I think it'll be ok again....give it a while more....don't worry...
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#12
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![]() <3 ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 3,657 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 64,493 ![]() |
my ex (i've been with him for only one week, so he doens't really count as my real bf) broke up 10 months ago, we didn't talk for like a month but now we're like best friends
give it time, it feels awkward after breaking up, soon everything will be back to normal again |
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![]() .bubblicious inspirations. @ www.bubbliciousoul.com ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 466 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 112,228 ![]() |
being just friends is possible... but it takes time, i am still friends with alot of my ex bfs. just let the pain heal first and you have to take it slow if not it'll jsut complicate things.
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#14
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Senior Member ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 73 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 53,163 ![]() |
thanks to everybody that posted! well...as it turns out we are able to remain friends..and very good ones actually! ^_^ lol...I'm glad I'm able to adjust eaisly! haha...but yea...thanks again guys!
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![]() The windmills of your mind .. ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 1,317 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 83,699 ![]() |
My sister Frankie, had a boyfriend and they were dating for 2 years and a half, they broke up, they remained friends for about a week and then he started slagging her off, saying stuff about her and she didnt know hy he was doing it. It was pretty sad, cause she still loved him even though they had broken up.
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#16
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![]() RAWR. ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 2,585 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 102,641 ![]() |
it works best if you guys were friends first. I know any bf I had that I was really good friends with, I stay friends with after we broke up. So yeah. It works for me.
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#17
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![]() Like i care. ♥ ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 780 Joined: Apr 2005 Member No: 124,706 ![]() |
well it kinda depends.. i had a gay friend, and i was just friends with him (duh) untill it seemed that he wasnt gay and he actually likes me, when i dont feel a thing for him, so i just ignore him a bit.. because i dont want to give him the feeling i like him.. its really sad o.O
ok that was a pointless story :P I can be friends with a boy, as long im not even a bit atracted to him.. :) |
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#18
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![]() atleast pretend to care? ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 262 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 104,176 ![]() |
well.. in the beginning.. it might be hard for both of you to be "just friends" cuz after everything that just happened.. it might take a while to settle down and get over those feelings between each other.. When my Bf && I broke up.. we talked a little.. but it was really akward around each other for awhile.. Just take it slowly and show that u want to be friends`.. try not to avoid him ^_________^
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#19
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![]() Perfectionist, Loner, Confident, Mysterious, Imperfect, Kevyn ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 370 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 11,095 ![]() |
to break up after going out for six months? That would definitely be difficult. I can't give a definite answer because I've never been in that situation before...
-Kevyn |
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#20
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![]() <-[RaWR]-> ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 180 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 102,133 ![]() |
yeah thats kind of hard.To go on still being frinds after you were "involved" with someone.Mainly because it feels wierd to think of someone you thought you liked as a friend so you'd rather ignore eachother then talk and risk the fact that it might have been wrong.
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#21
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![]() Hah! Its funny cause its true... ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 640 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 89,954 ![]() |
It always depends on how you break up. Ifit's a fight you two won't ever talk to eachother anymore. If you both agreed it was time to end you will probably stay friends.
But sorry to hear that. My ex is a total jerk to me!! Atleast your ex doesn't call you a dumb f**k because you misunderstood him. |
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#22
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yeah it happened to me, it's cause i guess you dislike them since you guys broke up. and it causes less pain for you.
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#23
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![]() baby, be good to me ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 592 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 4,358 ![]() |
Same thing happened to me, it's hard, I'm not gonna lie. The problem is since it was mutual there is no one to blame, if there was someone to blame than it would be easier to just get pissed off at the dumper and move on. But since it's mutal, neither of you quite know what to think of the sitatuion. Things are always awkward after a relationship, especially a six-monther. If you two are truly meant to be friends then you just have to give it time to heal, it's still too soon. The feelings don't just magically go away just because you broke up, sure they are faded, but you still care about eachother a lot and it's hard to make the transition from boyfriend&girlfriend to just friends. You'll both get over it soon enough, just be nice to eachother.
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#24
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![]() brandon demarin ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 287 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 81,512 ![]() |
bleh
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![]() Member ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 25 Joined: May 2005 Member No: 135,570 ![]() |
I know how you feel, I'm friends with TWO of my ex's...One I was with for 4 years and its hard just being friends with him. But I cant stand to have him completely out of my life.
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