guys these days.., do the weirdest things.. Options

[ThePrincessofTKD]

it all started in january...as a resolution...i was not going to be shy and afraid of rejection to admit my feelings toward the guy i like...(richard)..

all of a sudden...the only friend that knew i liked richard, TOLD richard and he didn`t say or do anything about it..

then LOTS of people started asking richard if he liked me or not..he would say "i dunno" or nothing at all...

then in february, on valentine`s day...i sent him a carnation saying "will you be my valentine?"

my friend(same girl that only knew) asked him what he did to the carnation and he told her that he threw it away... ...so i got all my girlfriends to jump him but he yelled out "I DIDN`T THROW IT AWAY!!!"...but he gave it away to his friend and his friend said richard didn`t want to hold it all day..but richard didn`t care what happened to the carnation...so i secretly put it in his backpack...but he never knew it was there..

on the same day i asked him "why don`t you like me?"...he just shook his head and WALKED AWAY..

weeks later..a good friend of mine that happened to be a good friend of richard`s asked richard if he liked me or not...and richard (FOR THE FIRST TIME) said "maybe"...i started to get all hopeful...

then to be sure he asked again...and richard said "yes"...

so one day i asked him and he kept on asking me "why do you like me?" and i would respond "because!"...he>>"why??"...me>>"don`t answer my question with another question!" and he laughed...finally he said "yes"...

when i told all my friends (you know how girls are..hehe..) the girl that first knew i liked richard she was like "no...he doesn`t like you mariel..he`s just saying that to make you leave him alone"...harsh right..?and a friend of richard`s also said that..

so i went up to richard again...and told him what i heard..he was "do you believe them?"...i said "well...i kinda do...because they said they know you more than i do.." then i asked him "so you do like me..?" and he just nodds..then i asked him out..and he said "i can`t" i said "why not..?" "because my mom and dad won`t let me" and i said "they don`t really have to know.." and he just shrugs like he always does..

as the days go by i made him a cd...he said he "didn`t know what a cd was.." but took it anyways...i asked him if he enjoyed it and he nodded but a friend of mine wanted that cd and i was like "are you going to give it to him??" and he laughs and nodds...but he didn`t give the cd away..

before spring break started...i gave him a note giving my phone number...he said he didn`t like notes and he was illiterate.. ...i had to hold onto his backpack and say "i thought you liked me..?" and THEN he took the note...but he was trying to get some of his friends to take it...but i was watching him..

i didn`t watch him enough..

things started to get worse after spring break..

first thing i asked richard was "why didn`t you call me over spring break?"..then all his friends started blocking me away from him..

one day, before spring break...i found a pictures of a girl in his backpack...so i asked him about it..and he said it was just a friend...but he told other guys a different story...that it was his sister..

then i heard from someone that overheard richard talking to his friend that richard didn`t like the cd i gave him...that the songs sucked..

then when i passed by his locker with all my friends nearby i asked richard about everything i knew..first about the cd...and he was like "WHAT?!" and looked around for the guy told me..then i asked him about the note..and he said he gave it to his friend!!!i slapped him and called him a son of a b!tch and walked off...and everyone was like "ooohhh!!!"...i found out from that friend that richard gave the note to him, said "hold this for me over spring break", and RAN OFF..and at lunch when he FINALLY read the note...he was IMITATING me..and his friends were laughing..

then when i was STALKING after richard after school, with a smile on his face, "i`m not talking to you anymore"..

i thought he didn`t mean it...but he did..

completely IGNORED me...no matter how close i was to him..i even grabbed his arm but he would give me this look back at me...as if we`re playing games..

but that good friend of mine asked richard why was he doing that and richard said he forgot the reason.. ..but my friend said richard still has the note i gave him and the cd...

i don`t know if he still likes me or not..when it was my birthday he didn`t say "happy birthday" to me...i mean...his birthday was 2 days after mine..

now i`m really afraid that all this time he didn`t like me...cause one of my friends insists he doesn`t like me...the other says 90% chance he still likes me..

how can i give up on richard..?he was the first guy to "like" me back...if that`s what he really meant..

i can`t communicate with him online cause he doesn`t go online...i don`t think he would call me...i don`t know his phone number..

sorry for the long post..

[juliar]

Ugh, forget him and go for someone else. He's not worth any girl if he acts like that.

[ThePrincessofTKD]

i could...forget him...i don`t know what`s making me cling onto him...the fact that he told me he liked me..?

[NawtyLilAznChic]

im a lil confused bout ur story but from wat i got from it, that richard guy is a such a lil bitch

and at lunch when he FINALLY read the note...he was IMITATING me..and his friends were laughing..

that is jus so f**ked up

how can i give up on richard..?he was the first guy to "like" me back...if that`s what he really meant..

i noe its hard n that fa sum reason u still really lyk him but u havta really think bout this, look at tha way he treats u!!! u havta jus lyk phase him out, stop lykin him lil by lil, cuz this cant go on n e longer....u really havta realize that

gl sweetie

[DrNick311]

What a prick...
That guy is an a-hole even by my standards - don't waste your time.

[ThePrincessofTKD]

(NawtyLilAznChic Posted on Apr 18 2004, 3:33 PM)

i noe its hard n that fa sum reason u still really lyk him but u havta really think bout this, look at tha way he treats u!!! u havta jus lyk phase him out, stop lykin him lil by lil, cuz this cant go on n e longer....u really havta realize that

gl sweetie

thanks NawtyLilAznChic...(it would be nice if i knew your real name...i`m mariel..hehe..)

before i liked richard...there were alternatives...but i didn`t see them as much as i see richard...i see richard practically everday...so i started to like richard even more...but just the sight of him now bugs me...i just have to look down than at him..

[Mireh]

1) You shouldn't have got people to jump him
2) DON"T stalk...thats a big turn off/annoyance

Anyways.

Looks like this Richard dude doensn't like you, sorry to say. He was probably too chicken to tell you that he didn't like you back. You should have moved on after he said for the first time that he didn't like you.

If he's ignoring you, why must you cling onto him so? Guys don't like clingy girls.

My Point : MOVE ON. This kids too immature, and he's probably not ready for a girl friend yet. Chaces are, your too good for him.

[cleec]

i really don't think you should waste any more time on him, he seems like a real jerk who seems to only want to mess around with a nice girl's head. suddenly just ignore him right back and watch him start crawling back, but don't, ever. man i hate him and i don't even know him

[ThePrincessofTKD]

should i talk to him still..?or talk to him about it..?

i asked him why he won`t talk to me but he just shrugs his shoulders..or just ignores me..

[NawtyLilAznChic]

lol im maggie, u dont necessarily havta look down instead of at him cuz sumday wen he sees wat he missed out on, u'll b able ta look at him n not care, that will b lyk tha best feelin lol
"ur eyes r in tha front of ur head so u look forwards, not backwards" u need ta b strong n put him in tha past, dont resolve ta hate cuz that doesnt really solve n e thing in tha long run

u tried ta talk ta him so many times n apparently hes too pussy ta talk ta u, he already had his chance, start movin on

[ThePrincessofTKD]

(NawtyLilAznChic Posted on Apr 18 2004, 3:58 PM)

lol im maggie, u dont necessarily havta look down instead of at him cuz sumday wen he sees wat he missed out on, u'll b able ta look at him n not care, that will b lyk tha best feelin lol
"ur eyes r in tha front of ur head so u look forwards, not backwards" u need ta b strong n put him in tha past, dont resolve ta hate cuz that doesnt really solve n e thing in tha long run

u tried ta talk ta him so many times n apparently hes too pussy ta talk ta u, he already had his chance, start movin on

thanks maggie...maybe i could just talk to him just one more time...and tell him how i feel NOW...and he doesn`t have to respond...whether he likes it or not...hmm..

[whomps]

I've clunged onto a guy just because he liked me back.. But I knew he interested in other girls. He was a jerkass.. He wasn't playing games with me like Richard is to you, but he was a MOFO. A desperate MOFO.

Now going into the subject of the Richard dude.. This boy is weird. It sounds like he's either lying to you or lying to everyone else.. He needs to get his priorities straight.. x_x (what a weird guy..) I think you can do better,

[ThePrincessofTKD]

could he be lying because of his friends..?

i mean...they were making fun of him liking me..

`cause in his "guy group"...he`s the toughest, strongest, yet the quietest...he barely talks out...

none of his friends have girlfriends...and i guess they`re using this opportunity to make fun of him since he`s the first..?

my friend told me that maybe it was his friends influencing his decisions...*sigh*

i remember seeing his dad...and he was practically smiling at me...directly at me...i was like "does he know??"haha...

[whomps]

I think.. if he really liked you he wouldn't really care what his friends said.. But that's just my opinion. If he DOES like you and he's lying just because of his friends, you should forget about him x_X

[ThePrincessofTKD]

(x_angawhomps Posted on Apr 18 2004, 8:54 PM)

I think.. if he really liked you he wouldn't really care what his friends said.. But that's just my opinion. If he DOES like you and he's lying just because of his friends, you should forget about him x_X

...i`ll see what`s goin` on tomorrow...i could talk to him.. ...or just plain ignore him..

[Ghost_Knyght]

This guy really sounds like a jerk, and is givin all the rest of us bad names. If hes worth anything he would stop screwin with his friends and focus on you. If the friends come first then drop it.

[ThePrincessofTKD]

*sigh*

i found out from that good friend of mine that richard still likes me..

thing is...richard`s friends always make fun of him liking me.. ..so when they make fun of me...he acts along with it too..

today...when his friend "accidentally" hit me with a card (he was flicking cards, making them glide like in yugi oh..) and richard started to hide from me WHILE he was laughing...my girl-friend called it "flirting"..

when richard was "flirting" with me...he called my camera a piece of sh!t and i was like "richard.....!did you just call my camera a piece of sh!t..?" and he started to hide behind a little 7th grader even though richard is already tall...haha...good times..

i wish richard`s friends wouldn`t make fun of him...

haha..i got a pic of him...taken in march i think..?

click here...the guy in the middle.. ..hehe..not the right..

richard kinda looks fruity in there..

but he`s still my no.1...

[Mireh]

Definatly imaturity...

...I'm just gunna say this. If he chooses his guy friends over you:

Dump him. Ditch him. Leave him.

[xjjajeengx]

right on Mireh!
but better yet,
KILL HIM. Throw him, over the ocean. Dust off your hands. smile and then go find another man i tell you!! he's so #$%^&#%!!! he needs his mommy to spank him for such a stupid, inconsiderate, 3 year old act.

[ThePrincessofTKD]

but he likes me..

it`s just...he`s not the kind of person to express his feelings..if i do something with him AROUND his friends...his friends would probably snicker and laugh..

and that good friend of mine told me to STAY AWAY from richard...cause "guys don`t like that"...

one way i can figure this out...is to talk to him..ALONE..if i EVER can...cause he is always with someone...he`s never by himself..i could tell him how i feel...but that good friend of mine said AGAIN.."guys don`t like that...trust me.."...

i mean...i was too open with my feelings...and that good friend of mine said "that`s the reason why richard isn`t talking to you..you make it a big deal.."

*sigh*

[Just_Dream]

It seems that, like everyone mainly said, that he must've been toying with you. Often, guys who don't like you in return, feel sort of glad and such that there's a girl that likes him. They end up trying to lead the girl on and flirting with them (but in your case, he really didn't do that), but often, guys do toy with girls. I've seen them and it breaks my friends' hearts. You seem really devoted to him, becuase you liked him so much. Honey, don't waste your time on a jack-arse like him. You know you can get better. Yea, girls tend to cling onto ones that the once loved or that they once really like alot, but as each day passes, you have to cop with the fact taht he prolly won't like you back.

Look, mariel, the way you describe how he acts, he does seem like he is too much of a "guy who tries to act all ahrd and tough" and tries to make a joke or something. He could be lying about everything ot your face. You should just ditch him becuase it's seems like it is his fault that he didn't try to contact you. He shouldn't have made his friends hold everything for him.

But, since he still DOES have that cd and letter and such, maybe deep down he does sort of like you. You should try to like someone else or try to slowly slip away from him. I'm not telling you to just GO and forget about him in a day. Maybe if you show him that you are not really interested in him anymore, he'll start to show his true colors.

That's the ultimate test you can give to him. If he doesn't give a rat's arse, then at least you won't cling to him that much anymore...

Hope that helped ^_^

[huihead]

omg something similar happened to me, except that it was the guy that liked me and then i ended up liking him too, but i think that was after got over me, but when he liked me he would flirt and stuff, but i wouldn't flirt back, you know what i mean? then we started getting distant, i don't know why, and we started not talking much.. like once or twice a month, which was a clear contrast from when we used to talk every minute of the day. then one day, i find that he blocked my sn and he wouldn't tell me why. i asked my friend to ask him and he said that he wouldn't answer me. "tell her i'm sorry but this is just the way i feel." it hurt a lot because we had been really good friends. right now i wanna hate him for hurting me so much. every time i bump into him, i think he can see the coldness and hurt in my eyes. hMm.. i should write my own topic about this lol =x

[kraziegrl]

hm. maybe ur clinging on because he's good looking, and acts nice/cool/or watever around his frends. but if he acts a certan way with or without his frends, then i think he cares more about what his frends think then of you. plus, all those might be rumors.. :/ well like the ones his frends said, since you said he was imitating you.. and his friends were laughing..

[ThePrincessofTKD]

(Just_Dream Posted on Apr 19 2004, 10:14 PM)

It seems that, like everyone mainly said, that he must've been toying with you. Often, guys who don't like you in return, feel sort of glad and such that there's a girl that likes him. They end up trying to lead the girl on and flirting with them (but in your case, he really didn't do that), but often, guys do toy with girls. I've seen them and it breaks my friends' hearts. You seem really devoted to him, becuase you liked him so much. Honey, don't waste your time on a jack-arse like him. You know you can get better. Yea, girls tend to cling onto ones that the once loved or that they once really like alot, but as each day passes, you have to cop with the fact taht he prolly won't like you back.

Look, mariel, the way you describe how he acts, he does seem like he is too much of a "guy who tries to act all ahrd and tough" and tries to make a joke or something. He could be lying about everything ot your face. You should just ditch him becuase it's seems like it is his fault that he didn't try to contact you. He shouldn't have made his friends hold everything for him.

But, since he still DOES have that cd and letter and such, maybe deep down he does sort of like you. You should try to like someone else or try to slowly slip away from him. I'm not telling you to just GO and forget about him in a day. Maybe if you show him that you are not really interested in him anymore, he'll start to show his true colors.

That's the ultimate test you can give to him. If he doesn't give a rat's arse, then at least you won't cling to him that much anymore...

Hope that helped ^_^

i felt that really helped alot...inside...i felt enlightened.. ...i hope he does change...i`m not really interested in other guys...there are some guys i think that are HOT...but...they`re UNTOUCHABLE..hehehe..

[waccoon]

but he likes me..

question.

do you like him?

or do you only like him because he likes you?
sort of an act of desperation?
i've done it before.

it sucked.