should i stay or should i go???, two different guys... crap |
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 Apr 7 2005, 07:47 PM
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okay so i have a bf and hes in love with me and really cares about me, but i don't like him at all... we've been goin' out for 3 days and I WANT OUT! but yu see my ex that i'm still in love with won't go out with me again, and he's the ONLY guy i want... and i mean he's not perfect he treated me horribly when we went out and we both ended up cheatin' on eachother, but hes an amazin' person and i love him... so what i'm askin' is do yu people think that i should leave my bf now (erik) and continue to mess with my ex (edgar) and try to get him to take me back, or should i stay with erik and forget about edgar.. or well what??
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Apr 7 2005, 07:58 PM
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 dakishimetainoni... Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 4,322 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 75,318 |
i think that you should just be single, you're not ready for a relationship, you already want out on a relationship that's important to one person but not you. plus you want to be back with your ex who treated you like crap and cheated on you and you cheated on him.
you're just going to end up hurting yourself all over again, being stuck in this cycle the cycle sucks, you're all in love with a guy, he turns out to be a monster, then enough is enough so you break up, "move on" to another guy, but you're still in love, you go back to him, he's a monster so on and so on trust me, just stay single |
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Apr 7 2005, 07:59 PM
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 Hah! Its funny cause its true... Group: Member Posts: 640 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 89,954 |
Well don't stay with this Erik guy at all. I don't even see why you are dating him. I would use the phrase "in love with" because it's too strong. Just forget BOTH of them and move on with your life. If your ex doesn't like you than that is that and you just have to forget about him.
Please just focus on your school work or something. |
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Apr 7 2005, 08:17 PM
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 ...and this is me.. Group: Member Posts: 3,518 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 57,899 |
I don't think you should stay in your relationship with Erik because you've only been dating him three days and you don't want to be with him anymore....I also don't think you should go back with your Ex...that is if he'll take you back...because you said so yourself: he treated you horribly..and so you both ended up cheating on each other and then breaking up..Just move on...and forget about your Edgar....and just break it to Erik easily that you just don't see him as anything more than a friend...once you've done this.....find another person who you actually like.
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Apr 8 2005, 07:56 AM
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i don't think you should be dating. you should just be single, i mean erik loves you so much and yet you don't even feel a thing for him and went to break it off with him. weirdly enough you want your ex back, and he treated you badly when you were together. O_o
you should just forget bout the both of them |
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Apr 8 2005, 08:10 AM
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 evelyn* <3 Group: Member Posts: 38 Joined: Apr 2005 Member No: 123,438 |
try that erik guy for some more time and see if he turns out better than you expected =]
if he's really that crappiey, then phone that edgar up and apologize and confess. an honest relationship never does any harm =] |
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Apr 8 2005, 08:15 AM
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Member Group: Member Posts: 21 Joined: Apr 2005 Member No: 123,448 |
thanks for the advice everyone... i'm still all well er... blah >.< ... but it helped me think more about it hearin' so many ppl tell me their opinions so thanx =]
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Apr 8 2005, 08:20 AM
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forget both of them. Leave erik because u dont like him, dont get back with edgar because he treated u badly.
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Apr 8 2005, 03:30 PM
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 I can't believe its not "Ryan" Group: Member Posts: 1,981 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 21,368 |
U know since you can't decide what you want, you deserve to have a boyfriend. You should of never go into the relationship if you felt that way!
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Apr 29 2005, 11:16 AM
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break up with the guy now before you smash his heart even more. and i think you should just stay single. I mean you can`t always get what you want. stay single and just fly solo for now.
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Apr 29 2005, 11:25 AM
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 Perfectionist, Loner, Confident, Mysterious, Imperfect, Kevyn Group: Member Posts: 370 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 11,095 |
QUOTE("") okay so i have a bf and hes in love with me and really cares about me, but i don't like him at all... we've been goin' out for 3 days and I WANT OUT! 2-3 days and he loves you? I can't blame you for not liking him much after 2-3 days... ...there goes another case of that "I love you" gone tragedy. Just tell him you want out. Tell him up front.. -Tell him why -Tell him eye to eye -Tell him in a nice toned -Do NOT let him interrupt you -Don't give in to his sob stories and sympathy stories. 2-3 days and saying their in love is not what TRUE love is about. Move on honeh~ (if you ask me..I agree with a few people up there..stay single until you KNOW you are ready.) -Kevyn |
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Apr 29 2005, 11:31 AM
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QUOTE(Kneuklid Romance @ Apr 29 2005, 11:25 AM) QUOTE("") okay so i have a bf and hes in love with me and really cares about me, but i don't like him at all... we've been goin' out for 3 days and I WANT OUT! 2-3 days and he loves you? I can't blame you for not liking him much after 2-3 days... ...there goes another case of that "I love you" gone tragedy. Just tell him you want out. Tell him up front.. -Tell him why -Tell him eye to eye -Tell him in a nice toned -Do NOT let him interrupt you -Don't give in to his sob stories and sympathy stories. 2-3 days and saying their in love is not what TRUE love is about. Move on honeh~ (if you ask me..I agree with a few people up there..stay single until you KNOW you are ready.) -Kevyn  werrd, i like your posts (: 3 days? get out of it before its too late, trust me. the longer you drag it, the harder it is. |
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Apr 29 2005, 11:36 AM
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 im addicted to my car<3 Group: Member Posts: 635 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 92,236 |
you dont need this. what are you like 12? or something. sorry if im worng but i dont think your ready for this.
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Apr 29 2005, 01:30 PM
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I'm Cattt. :] Group: Validating Posts: 1,722 Joined: Apr 2005 Member No: 130,831 |
dump the dude and try to make it up with your ex
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Apr 29 2005, 07:32 PM
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 whaaaaaaat? Group: Member Posts: 2,293 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 16,660 |
QUOTE(eternalxpain @ Apr 7 2005, 8:47 PM) okay so i have a bf and hes in love with me and really cares about me, but i don't like him at all... we've been goin' out for 3 days and I WANT OUT! but yu see my ex that i'm still in love with won't go out with me again, and he's the ONLY guy i want... and i mean he's not perfect he treated me horribly when we went out and we both ended up cheatin' on eachother, but hes an amazin' person and i love him... so what i'm askin' is do yu people think that i should leave my bf now (erik) and continue to mess with my ex (edgar) and try to get him to take me back, or should i stay with erik and forget about edgar.. or well what?? u should stay single and not go out with any of them until u get ur thoughts straight. here are my reasons: 1. u've been going out for 3 days and u want out. that's pitiful to some extent. ur not ready for a relationship. 2. ur still in love with ur ex who treated u horribly, cheated on u, and u cheated on him. ur in love with poison. it's suicidal. get someone better. 3. u got into a relationship when u still had strong feelings for someone else. that's extremely unfair to the ur current bf. it's rude, it's hurtful, and just plain immature. 4. ur ex doesn't want u back. so back off. no one likes a clingy girl. 5. ur bf loves u so dearly. and u would just throw it all away and stomp all over his heart just so u can attempt to get back with ur ex who was crap. how lovely of u. shame on u. shame. so there's my two cents. hope it helps. |
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Apr 30 2005, 01:05 AM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 1,831 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 20,324 |
why did you get with erik in the first place?
it's so unfair that he has to get hurt when you leave him when you never liked him in the first place. if you love edgar so much you shouldn't have gone out with someone. it's best if you ended the relationship with erik and told him your feelings. |
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Apr 30 2005, 02:47 PM
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 Live Your Own Party Group: Member Posts: 1,261 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 7,489 |
First, don't go out with Erik. If you don't have feelings for someone, you shouldn't pretend like you do.
Second, don't go out with Edgar. First reason.. his name is Edgar. Someone should shoot his parents. Also, if he treated you like crap, how is he a good person? Honestly...  They both seem like bad people for you to date.
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Apr 30 2005, 04:02 PM
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 ticktock. Group: Member Posts: 1,138 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 118,235 |
you dont like him at all? then why did you go out with him in the first place? i dont think you should attempt to get back with your ex. if he treated you badly, then there's no point in trying again, because he will probably treat you badly again, if not worse. are you really sure you dont like erik? you shouldnt have went out with him in the first place. if you really dont like him, just break up with him. and dont bother with edgar.
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Apr 30 2005, 04:07 PM
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c[: Group: Member Posts: 2,302 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 2,876 |
lets see here...you and your ex cheated on eachother...and you still want to go out with him? looks like it to me...that if you really "loved" him then you wouldnt have cheated on him....and you and your current bf have been going out for 3 days...and you say that he loves and and such already? goodness....now that's just messed up right there....i think maybe you should just stay single...because apparently...from what i can see...you're not really ready for a relationship anyways...maybe you shouldn't focus so much on love and such....
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Apr 30 2005, 10:17 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 2,881 Joined: Apr 2005 Member No: 132,134 |
if your really dont like erik then tell him so. and after you two break up or something i dont htink you should bother wit edgar; afterall you two did break up for some apparent reason. Just find some other guy
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Apr 30 2005, 10:19 PM
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 memories live FOREVER<3 Group: Member Posts: 1,150 Joined: Apr 2005 Member No: 132,793 |
dump your boyfriend (erik) NOW and take it slow with your ex
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Apr 30 2005, 10:24 PM
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 I'll never be who I was again.. Group: Member Posts: 2,886 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 77,981 |
sheesh..uve only been going out for 3 days..seems like u arent ready for a relationship...and dont go back to ur ex...u guys arent together for a reason..
i think u should stay single..i did what u did before..(except for the cheating part, and i was hated after that...) |
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May 1 2005, 10:31 PM
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 You can't keep running from what you're trying to find. Group: Official Member Posts: 5,030 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 54,096 |
if he treated you horribly... then how's he an amazing person? stay with erik. it's only been 3 days. see how it goes. maybe you're just feeling post break up feelings.
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May 2 2005, 01:32 AM
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AsianUniQ Group: Member Posts: 77 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 50,713 |
first of all.......you went out for 3 days and call him your bf alredy? second of all....if anything, i learn that nobody will ever change, only if something raelly dramatic hapens. ..lastly
you can break up with eric, its better to do it now, or you'll regret it later, I mean if you break up witlh him later......he could get hurt. Stay as freinds.....but as for the other guy, your ex, don't bother going out with him. I don't see him as a changed guy. If you said he used to cheat on you, chances are, he could do it again. Guys seem to like their explorations, different people ,different challenges. But Its better loving him and wanting him, than having him back and loosing that love. ps: Its your attention towards Egar that made Eric looks like nothing interesting.Trust me, if you are ever over Edgar, Eric would/might seem like an interesting person, becasue you got a chance to give him that attention. |
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May 2 2005, 01:34 AM
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AsianUniQ Group: Member Posts: 77 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 50,713 |
oh and one more thing.....i would suspect that...after going through this stage...in the end. I really think you would want to stay single.
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