That Guy, warning: CRAZY long! Options

[*not_your_average*]

*sigh* Here goes nothing... MAD PROPS to you if you read the whole story and reply.

Note: I'm in the 7th grade, so all the bullshit that goes on in junior high... well, here it is.

It all started in January. I had a mad crush on this guy in my Math class, (who we'll call 'Bob',) who is really cute, popular, jock-ish, etc. I, however, am not a cute, popular, preppy type. But I always acted like a total bitch to him, which gave him the signal that I hated him. I was so scared to show my real feelings for him at the time that I acted all rude and sarcastic. We had a HUGE rivalry between us.

But in February, I started thinking about it: I tried not to act all bitchy and mean to him, but I still didn't try and flirt with him. (I just don't have the confidence to do that.) And then I figured, "How about I tell him?"

I thought it was the perfect opportunity since the Valentine's Dance was coming up. But since I was scared to tell him in person, I figured I'd write a note with my screenname and number on it so it'd be kinda mysterious.

But one day, I was writing my note in English class (which he doesn't have with me, thankfully,) when the bell for 4th period rang. I immediately got up without a second thought to the note and dropped it on the floor. In 4th period (Science,) I was frantically looking for the note, scared shitless that someone would find it.

Turns out, someone did find it. They recognized my screenname on the note, and gave it to the guy before lunch, all without me knowing a damn thing. At lunch, his friends teased me relentlessly, like they always did. But after lunch, I got to know about it, and I broke down. I have Math after lunch, and the guy had that class with me. I cried the entire class, feeling so humiliated.

In 7th period (Theater) a kid asked me if I liked him, which brought back my tears. After 8th period, he saw me in the hallyway and yelled, "No way! No way in hell!" I didn't come to school the next day. That day, he IMed me and called me all these horible names (like bitch, freak, etc.) and said terrible things about me (i hate you, you're crazy, etc.) I couldn't eat the entire day.

After the "incident," I became extremely depressed and angry at myself. My friends dumped me, left mean comments on my xanga, and I had no one during that time. It was the lowest point of my life. (At least within 12 years.) I withdrew from anything and everything, feeling lonely and confused. I turned to God and spirituality at that point, which helped me out A LOT.

It's been a while since then, and he's slightly nicer to me. SLIGHTLY. He says 'hi' to me in the halls and stuff, but nothing extra-flirty. I IMed him because his friends were being pricks, and he acted all jerk-ish again. It seems like he's nice to me in public, but mean to me in private. I'm extremely unsure of my feelings for him, and I don't know how to respond.

I want to change my reputation as the "school freak" and come back next year completely different. Not for him, but for myself. Ok, I'm lying just a little bit, but still. I think I'd be happier if I changed my attitude a little bit. I'm vying for the littlest shred of approval from my peers, and I want it... BADLY.

What do I do?

edit//
He's nice to other girls, just not me. I saw him hug a girl today after school, so I guess he could just be mean to me, specifically. That just makes him even more of a jerk, though wouldn't it?

[aZNbLUMUNKEEbUTT]

awww...whatta jerk >:[ haha i think i used to do the same thing..like the whole "be rude to the guy" routine..but i think you should try not to think about it..and show people that you've moved on (even if you haven't)..try not to show interest in the guy if he's being a jerk..hope that helps..but then i hope i dont ruin anything for you =/

ps..i read it all! =)

[angelrevelation]

wow... why would your friends dump you for?? and that guy is a JERK. just show everyone that you've moved on, try to make new friends, etc. everyone will warm up to you and forget the whole thing... eventually.

and the whole 'being rude to the guy you like' thing is normal... i just pretend not to see the guys i like sometimes. i dunno why

heh it's weird i'm in 8th grade and i've NEVER experienced anything like that... nothing close

[*suddenly she*]

CONFRONTATION!! ask him why he's nice to you at school and treats you like dirt when nobody else is watching.

if he gives an unsatisfactory answer, ditch him. without calling names. make him feel guilty.

i think i've suggested confrontation on everything i've posted so far in here.

[*not_your_average*]

wow... why would your friends dump you for??

They just thought I was weird for some reason. Oh well. They're douchebags, anyhow.

ps..i read it all! =)

Thank you!

[Chii]

oh my god, that's so horrible

the same sort of thing happened to me in 9th grade, a different situation occurred for me (which was not my fault, some popular guy liked me, i had a boyfriend, i didn't like him back, jealous girls, rumors, etc) and everyone shunned me.

don't let these people bother you, don't try to make everyone like you all over again. who would want to try to salvage a friendship with people who just turn their back on you on your most vulnerable point? just be who you are, don't change for them, if they don't like you then that's on them, they're the ones who are being immature, holding onto some stupid incident...

don't worry too much though, 8th grade will be a new year and people will have forgotten this. if they don't then that's really sad that they have nothing else going on in their lives and still talk about stupid sh*t.

[aera]

you can smile and be nice to everyone (the new person)
i cant imagine why your friends would ditch you... that terrible.

hes probably nice to you because if hes mean, then there will be rumors and he probably doesnt want people to be talking about him.

[me1issaaaa]

That wasn't that long.
Anyway.

Awww that's horrible. I'm so sorry for all that you had to go through.

Okay, I'm not sure where to start, so I'll just start from... somewhere. *Gigglesnort*
So, you're 12? That's really young, but we've all been there. Believe me, at that age, we ALL go through crap like that. I guess it's just a thing most kids go through. I remember I had the BIGGEST crush on this guy, Max. I told my friend, and being the little Cupid-esque wannabe she was at the time, attempted to come to my rescue. She told him everything. Four years later, I still don't know all that happened, but I know months after pestering him, he began to show... not-very-nice feelings toward me. My friend would be like, "Say hi to her!!!" And I guess it pissed him off. We never even talked in person more than... three times, at the most.

But enough about that. My point is, guys are stupid. All guys are dumb. (Okay, there are a few exceptions. *Cough*) But at that age, I don't even think it's really possible for a guy to act... "normal" around girls. They'll grow into it, trust me. They get better. And who knows, maybe you'll actually find a guy who's kind of mature. Hopefully, you'll have better luck than I did when I was 12.

As for the attitude to him, just be nice. Act like it never happened. Of course you don't have to be all over him and flirt and stuff, but say hi and ask how he's doing and how things in school are going and everything. Just be a friend. Everybody likes a friend.

Good luck with everything!

[*iNyCxShoRT*]

psh forget about him this guys not worth your time. youre not the one who needs to change he does. and yeah we all go through that kinda pain once in our lives, in time we all have to wait for time to heal that gap<3 trust me you'll figure out who your real friends are.

[FoOd]

I know how to get you a new image.

On the last day of school, go up to 'Bob', with a whole alot of people in front, smack him and say,
"B*tch! Don't you dare treat me like that ever again!!!!"
It'll earn you the name of the scary chick in school that you would never mess around with, but I suppose you wouldn't want that huh?

Well for one thing, don't act like a mean biatch to anyone. It won't get you anywhere and you won't get very far.
Try acting nice and find some new friends. Those old friends you had did not deserve you.

Or how about, try acting yourself because you seem very insecure of yourself. I think thats why you are acting mean.

[loljuliana]

wait why did your friends leave you? that's just messed up. dont bother talking to that guy. he's a jerk. focus on your studies, make new friends, take up an afterschool activity. anything to keep your mind off things. =)

[Shattered_Hope]

I read the whole thing...
He sounds like a big jerk...
Well....if you want to not be the "school freak" anymore.... then you have to be indifferent about the situation...or just not care anymore about it. Move on...or you could just confront him about it.

[*not_your_average*]

wait why did your friends leave you? that's just messed up. dont bother talking to that guy. he's a jerk. focus on your studies, make new friends, take up an afterschool activity. anything to keep your mind off things. =)

Well, they just thought I was weird, but I have made new friends, and it's all good now. But next year...

[cookieskater2]

What an idiot, I feel sorry for those guys, they need to get lives instead ofworring about yours. A real friend would stay with you...=(

As for the new image, that's for you to decide, you just have to move on about that situation first and maybe tlak to him like Shattered_Hope said.

[sheddingtears]

wow you're a 7th grader? great writing skills. you made it really interesting.

haha anyway, you remind me of helga to arnold. your friends dumped you just because of that incident? they aren't true friends then. you really really should get over him and what happened. it's good that you turned to religion during this time, and i know God can help you move on. i really think you should forget about him since he said that.

you shouldn't have been so mean to him in the first place enough for there to be a HUGE rivalry between the two of you.

just next time, try to act how you really feel around the guy you like.

[kyuubi319]

awww, you poor girl. what an effer.
I know, I hate Midde School too. I'm so glad I'm going to High School next year.
Anyway
He seems like a total d**k. I think you should just forget him. There are better guys out there.
as for your a-hole friends, get new ones, darling. They're all @($*ers for having ditched you.

<33Sandy

[*not_your_average*]

wow you're a 7th grader? great writing skills. you made it really interesting.

haha, thanks.

[sammi rules you]

YOU SOUND JUST LIKE ME LAST YEAR.

the SAME EXACT thing happened to me. (except the turning to god part but yea) all i can tell you is to hold on and don't be sad all the time. these people are just total jerks and they need to get over themselves. during 7th and 8th grade i had completely no friends and i thought i should just end it all, and trust me, i tried. but it's really not the best alternative. you can get through it. just wait till high school; things will probably die down by then, and people in high school are just like..more easy-going. i don't know how to explain it..all through middle school EVERYONE hated me and i had no chance of getting any friends, then i step into high school and BOOM i have friends. O_o i dunno.

try having some online friends, too. that helped me a lot in middle school.

good luck

[rOckThISshYt]

Wow... That's so f*cked up. I can't believe he would do something like that! He has no right. I don't know what to tell you, though. Sorta the same thing happened to my friend but it didn't get out or anything. I just think that you should forget about him. Not only is he screwed up but so are your old friends. Anyone who would dump their friends over some guy is just really f*cked up. Move on. Find some new friends. And a boyfriend (if you must) but only one that will treat you right.

[enyceXaddiction]

what a JERK. god i hate dose guys yu shud've just told him face to face. all of your so call friends that left those nasty comments on your xanga FORGET THEM. talk to the guy as in asking him why he's acting like and so on. maybe he'll turn over a new leaf.

[*not_your_average*]

thanks for all the input guys! i appreciate it!