Keep the friendship? |
 Apr 24 2005, 02:46 PM
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 i luv kyle  Group: Member Posts: 64 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 32,135  |
Ok, my best friend is Raquel, we have been b.f.f's for 4 years now. I don't even know why I call her my best friend. We go to different schools, but still keep in touch on the phone.
Anytime we are talking on the phone, she always makes up some stupid excuse to hang up. I feel she doesn't want to talk to me anymore. It also bugs me that whenever I tell her a story (like once were my personal items were stolen in school) she would either be quiet and not say anything or she would change the subject. It happens all the time, and she is VERY immature. She acts like she is 2 yrs old!!! She makes these really annoying sounds and acts all crazy. I am also bothered about her making fun of other people and what they look like, when I resemble that person she is making fun of! I have tried to tell her that I don't want to be dealing with this all the time, but once again she changes the subject. Help |
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Apr 24 2005, 02:58 PM
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 whaaaaaaat? Group: Member Posts: 2,293 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 16,660 |
times change. so do people. u can't help it sometimes.
and ur not exactly helping either. ur not exactly being the most mature either. u don't just hang up and get pissed off over it. u talk to her about it. the way u brought it up with her, about how u don't want to always be dealing with it. well, of course she's not gonna be too happy. who would? that's a pretty offensive way to say something. it's like saying, "ew, i hate what you do, and i'm sick of ur shit. so stfu and change." some people are like that. some people change the subject cause they don't have anything to really say or talk about. ur personal story might not relate to her, and so, she can't really say anything about it. iono. when she makes fun of people, stand ur ground and calmly tell her that u don't like it when she does that. and she's not making fun of u. so don't get too offended. just bring it up and if she gets all pmsy, shoot her for me. don't avoid the problem by shutting off the phone. try to save ur relationship with her. good friends are hard to come by these days. |
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Apr 24 2005, 03:16 PM
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QUOTE(dahding @ Apr 24 2005, 3:58 PM) times change. so do people. u can't help it sometimes.  agreed. I had a lot of friends in middle school that I grew apart from because we had our differences. Thats is apart of life. If you feel this way about your friend currently then maybe you should find a friend will actually listen to you. I had a friend like that once. She would always expected me to listen to her problems but when it came to mine she wasnt interested. Those are the type of friendships that once you let person know how you feel and they still dont change you let go of. |
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Apr 24 2005, 03:20 PM
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 I'll never be who I was again.. Group: Member Posts: 2,886 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 77,981 |
like someone said above, times change, people change..if u want to be best friends with someone like that continue..but to me it sounds like she doesnt really care anymore...
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Apr 24 2005, 03:57 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 4,357 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 28,115 |
You guys don't really sound like friends. I mean, maybe you were 4 years ago, but it seems like you've both changed and got different interests. She has her friends from her town and you have your own. If you guys are friends, you wouldn't have to put on a fake smile. If you decide not to be her friend, don't just one day go "let's not be friends." Just stop calling her. Even you say she wants to hang up everytime. And don't invite each other places and stuff. I wouldn't want to be friends with someone like that.
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Apr 24 2005, 04:50 PM
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 rwar (; Group: Member Posts: 590 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 103,308 |
ooohh.. wow..
i have like the same exact situation as you -__-;; -used to be best friends -she acts immature -makes weird ass noises that frcks me out o_o -asks the stupidest question, and i know she knows the answer. [she jst wants attention] -great friends in fifth -both in eigth now -fights over guys, she claims im "flirting" with the guys she likes. even though i jst asked him what he got on his hwork o.O and i suppose the only answer to that is.. well you can jst not be her friend anymore. try to drift away from her. i know it might be hard, but you can try =] bsides, its not like you guys go to the same school.. or you can do exactly what she does to you -change the subj on her -dont respond -hang up the phone on the most randomest reasons -make funky noises like you`re constipated or something -whine like a little baby i.e. "ahhh nooooooo, i dont wannnnaaa go onnlinneee" but make sure if you go that way, not to get used it. or ppl will start to hate you 
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Apr 24 2005, 04:55 PM
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 ...and this is me.. Group: Member Posts: 3,518 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 57,899 |
Times cause many to change.....people change....which means friendship does too....
 The only thing you can do is talk to her about this....confront her about the situation and be blunt...be really blunt...the in-your-face blunt....sometimes people won't really get you unless you make it very clear. And if she continues to be like this....then....by all means forget about her... 
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Apr 24 2005, 07:54 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 63 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 90,611 |
you put on a fake smile....that doesnt tell you anything?
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Apr 24 2005, 09:58 PM
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 *scribble scribble* Group: Member Posts: 1,314 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 119,610 |
i dont think that her immaturity has anything to do with it, because acting all crazy is... like me and a few of my friends. but we still know to be serious.
i dont think shes the kind of friend you can talk about problems to. she doesnt seem to want to talk about it, and she might make fun of people to have something to talk about, because she feels that you two dont have a connection anymore. you two dont seem to be very close at all, and if you have to put on a fake smile, talk to her and decided whether or not you should continue being friends based on her responses. |
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Apr 24 2005, 11:31 PM
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 You can't keep running from what you're trying to find. Group: Official Member Posts: 5,030 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 54,096 |
i think you should let her go. i mean, you may have been best friends before but it doesnt mean you should stick to the term, just to keep the 'bond.' she won't listen to you, and she doesnt really seem like a nice person
 maybe she'll realize how mean she's been, and change
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Apr 25 2005, 12:06 AM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 349 Joined: Apr 2005 Member No: 124,513 |
I say forget about her, you both seem to be on 2 different pages and it doesn't seem like either of you actually want to talk like mature young adults.
I've had the same problem, my best friend of like 9 years moved away like 3 years ago, and when she came back, she acted really stupid and talked bad about people that were my friends now, and I used to tell her you don't know them and you have no place to say anything bad, and yeah we used to argue, and I found out a lot of stuff about her, that she was a really bad pothead and she was compulsively cheating on my best friend and I just let her go, and I didn't want anymore to do with her, and then she tried to fix things up but by then it was too late. People change, and there's nothing you can do to stop that, and they can onl change if they want to, so with that being said if you both really feel like this friend ship is worth saving then by all means save it, if not, 4get about it, and move on... |
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Apr 25 2005, 01:41 AM
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 cacaboii. [SAN FRAN is where... Group: Member Posts: 566 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 7,562 |
well..
everyone changes.. and she change.. seem you guys aren't very similar anymore.. well like i said everyone change.. and you have to let it go.. there's something you have to let go.. and one of it is this. |
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Apr 29 2005, 08:56 AM
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 Grrrrrrr Group: Member Posts: 801 Joined: Apr 2005 Member No: 123,696 |
QUOTE(dahding @ Apr 24 2005, 1:58 PM) times change. so do people. u can't help it sometimes. and ur not exactly helping either. ur not exactly being the most mature either. u don't just hang up and get pissed off over it. u talk to her about it. the way u brought it up with her, about how u don't want to always be dealing with it. well, of course she's not gonna be too happy. who would? that's a pretty offensive way to say something. it's like saying, "ew, i hate what you do, and i'm sick of ur shit. so stfu and change." some people are like that. some people change the subject cause they don't have anything to really say or talk about. ur personal story might not relate to her, and so, she can't really say anything about it. iono. when she makes fun of people, stand ur ground and calmly tell her that u don't like it when she does that. and she's not making fun of u. so don't get too offended. just bring it up and if she gets all pmsy, shoot her for me. don't avoid the problem by shutting off the phone. try to save ur relationship with her. good friends are hard to come by these days. i agree. im going through the same thing with my friend raechel |
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Apr 29 2005, 10:54 AM
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You shouldn`t let 4 years of BFF go to waste, tell her how you feel and if she changes the subject look at her and say "NO not this time, i need to talk to you and you`re not gonna wriggle outta this one." it`s best if yu tess her in person than on the phone, (better chance of not getting hung up on.) and then ask what`s going on.
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Apr 29 2005, 10:57 AM
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 ticktock. Group: Member Posts: 1,138 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 118,235 |
i guess you people should spend time away from each other. meet new people, yada yada. still remain friends, but just not "best" friends.
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Apr 29 2005, 12:40 PM
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I'm Cattt. :] Group: Validating Posts: 1,722 Joined: Apr 2005 Member No: 130,831 |
if she really doesnt like to talk to you then quit being friends with her
~Cat |
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Apr 29 2005, 01:32 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 2,881 Joined: Apr 2005 Member No: 132,134 |
tell her how you feel and if she tries to change the topic; speak to her in adultis/serious voice and tell her tostop changing the topic
or go face to face with her; and tell her exactly how yu feeland saythat if yu still wanna have this bffl relationship; then she better get her act together |
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Apr 29 2005, 05:10 PM
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 Hah! Its funny cause its true... Group: Member Posts: 640 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 89,954 |
Screw her she is horrible and doesn't care about you at all. She shouldn't be your b.f.f. Talk to her to see what is going on and if she changes the subject just forget about her.
Or send her a virus. |
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