Sexuality Confusion., Needs some opinions. |
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 Apr 21 2005, 07:40 PM
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 You can call me Jon  Group: Duplicate Posts: 878 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 9,806  |
IF YOU HAVE A PERSONAL PROBLEM, HOMOPHOBES, YOU DON'T NEED TO READ THIS.
I need to know a correct and socially acceptable answer to this question. Very lately, I have been questioning my sexual orientation. For the last...Four years, I felt I was homosexual. Purely. But now, I'm not so sure anymore. Here's what I mean: Males - There is a physical and sexual tension here. I find guys attractive. However, there are a few points about this that I'm not sure about. I can't exactly see myself living with another guy for the rest of my life. So that's a problem. Hi. Sex. Boom. Gone. Females - This is a mentality and personality ed-ordo here. If I wanted to spend my life with someone for the rest of my life, to have someone to go to and to come to, it would be a female. But, I don't find the female anatomy attractive. At...all. (Sorry, Ladies). Having a relationship with a woman means one of pure emotion, and barely any physical attraction. Hi. Sex? Nah, love. Sex? Nah, emotion. STILL NO SEX? Nope. Gone. This is where I need cB's opinion. I am not sure what I am anymore. It's brooding. Suggestions? |
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Apr 21 2005, 07:44 PM
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 This bitch better work! Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 13,681 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 28,095 |
well, if guys are the only sex that turn you on, sexually, than you are probably gay. but not for sure because i have this book about growing up and it says that it is normal for guys to find other guys attractive in their teen years.
QUOTE Hi. Sex. Boom. Gone. that is how alot of guys are about girls...but with you - guys. this may also point to you be homosexual. but being gay is not bad...well, to me anyway. i guess the only way to be FOR SURE would be to experiment. 
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Apr 21 2005, 07:46 PM
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You can call me Jon Group: Duplicate Posts: 878 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 9,806 |
I was pretty sure I was homosexual for a while (about 4 years). But I think being gay, lesbian, bi has more to do than physical attraction now. This is where my dillemma comes up.
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Apr 21 2005, 07:49 PM
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 kristin Group: Member Posts: 5,705 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 3,985 |
I guess I have to agree with Frankie..on the experimenting. It's hard for me to reply to this, because theres really no straight answer to this question..I see what you mean though. But I think to have love..I think love is physical and mental attraction (thankyou Dr.Phil)..because part of love is sex. So I guess you'll just have to wait and see what hormones hit on what person. Maybe one day you will meet a guy who you can see yourself with in the future, or a girl who you can see with sexually. I don't know, this was a hard one =/, but I hope things turn out well.
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Apr 21 2005, 07:50 PM
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 RAWR. Group: Member Posts: 2,585 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 102,641 |
hmm.. I suppose you have to find one person who can fulfill both of those spots. Whether it be male or female. Until then, I suppose just get to kow more people and see where it goes. Or you could get with a female body builder. That could do the trick
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Apr 21 2005, 07:51 PM
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This bitch better work! Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 13,681 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 28,095 |
^ are you talking about the fact that you can't see yourself spending the rest of your life with a guy? well, i don't really know exactly what to say to that...
maybe it is just something psycological. (i'm not saying it is but...that is all i have as of now.)
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Apr 21 2005, 07:53 PM
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You can call me Jon Group: Duplicate Posts: 878 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 9,806 |
QUOTE Or you could get with a femal body builder. I'm desperate, but not that desperate yet. QUOTE part of love is sex. True. Very true. Sex, I believe is the strongest form of affection for one another. Well, I suppose it would have to be. But then again, there are different aspects of it. So I am not sure. |
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Apr 21 2005, 08:01 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 1,220 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 81,808 |
thats funny -- hi. sex. boom. gone lol ---but hey thats reall true
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Apr 21 2005, 08:08 PM
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 Hi! I'm Dani :) Group: Member Posts: 5,637 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 3,369 |
Hmm I think you might be bisexual. IDK im just guessing from what i've read
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Apr 21 2005, 08:09 PM
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You can call me Jon Group: Duplicate Posts: 878 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 9,806 |
Apparantly, there isn't only one way to be bi.
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Apr 21 2005, 08:16 PM
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 *scribble scribble* Group: Member Posts: 1,314 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 119,610 |
QUOTE(dani41790 @ Apr 21 2005, 9:08 PM) Hmm I think you might be bisexual. IDK im just guessing from what i've read  i think so too. afterall, youre attracted to both. kind of. |
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Apr 21 2005, 08:27 PM
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 dakishimetainoni... Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 4,322 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 75,318 |
that's a lot like me, with the whole "Hi. Sex. Boom. Gone." thing except with women for me...i wouldn't want to live with a woman or carry on a relationship with one because i love my boyfriend and i want to marry him and etc etc.
maybe you're just nervous about all the crap that comes with being homosexual, after all you're attracted to men and not women... but after all, you're 15 (i snuck a peek at your xanga) you have a lot of growing up to do...you could be nervous about looking at a nude woman... maybe you're just bisexual, that's the conclusion i've drawn for myself |
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Apr 21 2005, 08:28 PM
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This bitch better work! Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 13,681 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 28,095 |
QUOTE(pinayprincess @ Apr 21 2005, 7:01 PM) thats funny -- hi. sex. boom. gone lol ---but hey thats reall true how about you actually contributing to the topic on hand. |
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Apr 21 2005, 08:30 PM
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 livin up to the name. Group: Member Posts: 1,594 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 54,539 |
I don't really think there's a straight answer to it. It's kind aof a hard topic to talk about. All I can say is experiment. It worked for me. But maybe, over time, you may attract more to girls. And spend the rest of your life with one. I could't see myself living with another girl the rest of my life, so I can relate there.
Sorry I'm no help or anything. |
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Apr 21 2005, 08:35 PM
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 ...and this is me.. Group: Member Posts: 3,518 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 57,899 |
Umm...in this situation....I'd say you were gay.
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Apr 21 2005, 08:38 PM
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You can call me Jon Group: Duplicate Posts: 878 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 9,806 |
QUOTE(Shattered_Hope @ Apr 21 2005, 8:35 PM) Umm...in this situation....I'd say you were gay. No need to be off about it. 
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Apr 21 2005, 08:42 PM
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anyways, i have guy friend, who is gay, go through the same questions you are asking yourself. He was going through that time in his life when he was finding out who he was, and what he liked, and what he did and did not want out of life. He was ashamed, yes ashamed, to say he was gay to anyone at. me and my best friend was the first person he came out to. But even then he was confused because mentally speaking he still found girls attractive and had in his mind that a female would be the person he would spend the rest of his life with. On the other hand, he was highly attracted to males on both the phyiscal and mental level. In the end males was his choice. He actually cant stand to many females now. But anyways I guess the point is you have to go with your heart on this one. No one can really tell you what you think you should do because deep down you know what you really want.
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Apr 21 2005, 08:57 PM
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 Chtaime Group: Member Posts: 609 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 117,918 |
One of my friends is going through the exact same thing.
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Apr 21 2005, 09:20 PM
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 i've never wanted anything rationale. Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 8,449 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 19,045 |
I'd say you should experiment...Maybe hooking up with some girls would help you settle. Also, you are young! Give yourself some time to grow into yourself/sexuality. I'm sure by your college years you will be more sure and ready to have fun!
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Apr 21 2005, 09:33 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 913 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 101,212 |
QUOTE(xxcrazyjewxx @ Apr 21 2005, 7:20 PM) I'd say you should experiment...Maybe hooking up with some girls would help you settle. Also, you are young! Give yourself some time to grow into yourself/sexuality. I'm sure by your college years you will be more sure and ready to have fun! Ditto  Like other people said, try experimenting. You may never truly know if you don't try.  My friend is going through the exact same problem. So don't worry, you are not the only one going through this.
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Apr 21 2005, 10:49 PM
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You can call me Jon Group: Duplicate Posts: 878 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 9,806 |
I think my prayers have been answered.
Thanks guys. I suppose Fate finds its way around everything. |
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Apr 21 2005, 10:59 PM
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 dripping destruction Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 7,282 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 21,929 |
care to share?
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Apr 22 2005, 04:51 AM
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 boo Group: Member Posts: 5,512 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 71,765 |
Uhh, I suggest you see a councelor because I don't really know how to answer that.
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Apr 22 2005, 07:51 PM
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gRaCiE Group: Member Posts: 350 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 96,997 |
question: have u ever TRIED having sex with a woman? i mean...maybe u should try it n see how it turns out. but yea i agree that maybe u should see a professional about this. hard to say n e thing.
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Apr 22 2005, 08:06 PM
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i've never wanted anything rationale. Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 8,449 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 19,045 |
QUOTE(saMieRa @ Apr 22 2005, 2:51 AM) Uhh, I suggest you see a councelor because I don't really know how to answer that. How would a counselor know what is going on with his sexuality! Besides he already stated that his prayers have been answered. Mmmkay, go away =) |
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