My boifriend and I, What to do??? |
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 Apr 4 2005, 09:59 PM
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 theres no i in slut...but there is a u  Group: Member Posts: 208 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 86,257  |
OK so me and my boifriend justin have been going out for a few weeks...onlying seeing each other on weekends cuz we go to different schools this year...well im virgen and hes not...and the way hes been talking latly...i feel like hes gonna presure me into sex...and i dont wanna do that...the last guy i said no to broke up with me...and i dont want him to break up with me cuz its happend to a friend of mine and she was heartbroken...and i really like justin...so i dont wanna say yes and i dont wanna say no...both for good reasons...so sum1 plz help me out...
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Apr 4 2005, 10:02 PM
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 i've never wanted anything rationale. Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 8,449 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 19,045 |
Wow, take a typing lesson and get better taste in guys.
If he will dump you for not having sex, then he is not worth it. |
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Apr 4 2005, 10:04 PM
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 Entropic Group: Member Posts: 216 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 3,522 |
it's BOYfriend for one thing and Virgin for another...
And if you really must ask this question, (btw, it has been asked like 1000 times already on cB) the answer is simple, if you don't want to do it, don't do it. Simple as that! If he breaks up with you he isn't a good guy anyway and you don't want to be with him... |
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Apr 4 2005, 10:36 PM
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 Being happy...is all that matters Group: Member Posts: 765 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 102,284 |
If he loves you for you, then he won't make you have sex with him. If he only wants you for sex, then he's not worth it.
And...do you want a boyfriend just for the sake of having one? I mean...it's only been few weeks...it's WAY too early into a relationship to have sex. Don't do something that you're going to end up regretting later. If he dumps you because you won't have sex with him, then he really isn't worth anything. Have sex with someone that means something to you... |
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Apr 4 2005, 10:50 PM
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 You can't keep running from what you're trying to find. Group: Official Member Posts: 5,030 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 54,096 |
i agree with everyone ^^^ dont do anything that you dont feel comfortable doing. especially with this kind of thing... and he isn't worth it if he just wants you for sex
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Apr 4 2005, 10:52 PM
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 highfive. Group: Member Posts: 1,301 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 32,951 |
QUOTE(SimplicityGirl @ Apr 4 2005, 10:36 PM) If he loves you for you, then he won't make you have sex with him. If he only wants you for sex, then he's not worth it. And...do you want a boyfriend just for the sake of having one? I mean...it's only been few weeks...it's WAY too early into a relationship to have sex. Don't do something that you're going to end up regretting later. If he dumps you because you won't have sex with him, then he really isn't worth anything. Have sex with someone that means something to you...  Agreed. If he pressures you to have sex with him, he's not worth your time. I mean. I guess just talk to him. And tell him you're not ready. If he's willing to wait, he's a keeper. If he's not; dump him before he dumps you. |
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Apr 4 2005, 11:26 PM
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 ...and this is me.. Group: Member Posts: 3,518 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 57,899 |
If you don't want to have sex with him then don't do it...if he really loved you he would respect your decision....besides..any guy that would break up with a girl because she didn't want to have sex with him probably only wanted her for sex to begin with.
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Apr 4 2005, 11:32 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 2,541 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 44,332 |
Clearly if he loved and respected you, he wouldn't pressure you into having sex. He would wait until you're ready.
If he wants you just for sex, then he's not worthy of you or your time. |
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Apr 5 2005, 12:55 AM
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 Hi! I'm Dani :) Group: Member Posts: 5,637 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 3,369 |
Just tell him you dont want to have sex yet. If he's a good bf to you then he would respect what you want and not only what he wants.
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Apr 5 2005, 01:08 AM
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 so give me all your posion and give me all your pills Group: Member Posts: 100 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 59,345 |
chica, if he really loved u he wouldnt MAKE U HAVE SEX..and if u decide to have sex with him use protection.. other then that he isnt really worth it..dont let anyone make u do something u dont want to do..or talk to him and tell him ur not ready for sex ... he isnt worth it if he wants to just have sex with u
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Apr 5 2005, 02:27 AM
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 I'll never be who I was again.. Group: Member Posts: 2,886 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 77,981 |
if u dont want to, dont..
if he dumps u b/c of that he wasnt worth ur time.. and if he really loves and cares about u, he wouldnt pressure u to do things u dont want to do.. |
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Apr 5 2005, 03:31 AM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 40 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 113,032 |
boys only wants sex.. if you dnt let him have it with you.. he's just wanna dump you for sure.. wwelll if he do.. dnt cry
because .. dnt cry over a guy who wnt cry over you so........theres advice.. |
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Apr 5 2005, 03:39 AM
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tell him how you are feeling =) i am sure he has no idea you feel this way
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Apr 5 2005, 05:22 AM
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if he pressures you for sex, dump him.
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Apr 5 2005, 06:55 AM
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don't have sex with him because you want to save the relationship, it's not worth it.
and if he dumps you cause you don't wanna have sex with him, then he's not worth it if he keeps pressuring you for sex, then dump him |
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Apr 8 2005, 06:08 PM
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 Grrrrrrr Group: Member Posts: 801 Joined: Apr 2005 Member No: 123,696 |
if he dumps you for not having sex with him then say screw it and move on. There will be someone out there who will respect your wishes and say okay we can wait until youre ready
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Apr 8 2005, 06:11 PM
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s w e e t e s t Group: Member Posts: 808 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 46,149 |
if he really do love you for who you are. then he shouldn't be rushing you to have sex. sex is something that i basically think that all guys are only interested in girls. they're so eefing weird ! . how can guys be so interested in sex when you only enter your pen** into the girls vi*****. how fun can that be ??
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Apr 8 2005, 06:18 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 558 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 102,872 |
Thats kinda how it is with my bf now. I think I'm gunna dump him.
If he trys to presure you into it and you really do want to you should kick him in the balls and say "No MEANS No!" lmao 
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Apr 8 2005, 06:27 PM
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 This bitch better work! Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 13,681 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 28,095 |
if he breaks up with you because you won't have sex with him, than don't worry about it. if he does that, he just wanted the sex and not the relationship. but if you are stupid enough to say yes for "love", go right ahead.
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Apr 8 2005, 11:11 PM
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 blah Group: Member Posts: 313 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 16,360 |
You hafta say no right? Well, if he dumps you, that's good for you. You know why??? Obviously, he wanted you for sex. Do you want a guy like that for you? Don't think so.
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Apr 8 2005, 11:38 PM
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 Newbie Group: Member Posts: 9 Joined: Apr 2005 Member No: 124,164 |
i know that you may like him alot, but you should never date anyone who would take advantage of you. If he truly cares about you he will understand and wait until you are ready. Just talk to him and reasure him that you do in fact like him but just arent ready for it now. Dont keep anything inside, speak to him and open up. trust is what makes relationships last.
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Apr 9 2005, 05:32 AM
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 evelyn* <3 Group: Member Posts: 38 Joined: Apr 2005 Member No: 123,438 |
QUOTE(xxcrazyjewxx @ Apr 5 2005, 11:02 AM) If he will dump you for not having sex, then he is not worth it. i agree wif this one. he shud love you for you. if you dun wanna do it, he shud understand if he rly does love you. |
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Apr 9 2005, 07:36 PM
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 *scribble scribble* Group: Member Posts: 1,314 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 119,610 |
if hes going to dump you for not having sex, then hes using you. if he tries to pressure you, dump him first.
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Apr 9 2005, 07:55 PM
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gRaCiE Group: Member Posts: 350 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 96,997 |
if he cant respect u n ur body especially wen u dont wanna give it away until ur sure then he's not worth it. i know its hard but...if he dumps u cuz u wont do stuff with him then its his loss. dont give it away cuz ur pressured. do it wen u KNOW ur ready.
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Apr 9 2005, 08:00 PM
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 F**k me Beautiful Group: Member Posts: 3,126 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 30,124 |
make up ur mind, think about it, whats more important, a relationship thats only lasted for a couple of weeks or ur self respect ? If you want him to be ur first go ahead, if u want to wait for that special time and person, date longer than a few weeks ... If hes gonna dump u cuz u wont put out, f**k it, u deserve better.
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