Help me!!!!!!!! i dont no wat 2 do, relationship problems |
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 Mar 28 2005, 02:49 PM
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i am in love w/ my b/f. we've been dating for about 4 months.
  but resently, we've been having alot of fights. i love him and i dont want 2 break-up w/ him so i need some advice.  see, wat happens is, that i guess im getting bored in this relationship. its just the same old same old and it gets boring. he never really does nething, all he really does is kiss and hold me. thats good on some ocations but not all the time. so when i want 2 play around and be lustful, he never does anything. its like hes scared r sumthing and i get bored. i want him 2 be more aggressive and playful and not be afriad and i've told him that. he still doesnt do anything tho. im even getting bored w/ kissing him. i told him that, but he says hes not getting bored w/ it. i just cant do the same thing over and over cuz it gets boring, its like going 2 skool. i feel so bad becuz i mad him feel bad and becuz i want more out of this relationship and hes fine the way it is. please help me. tell me wat 2 do!!!!!!!!!!  i love him and i dont want the relationship 2 end.
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Mar 28 2005, 03:33 PM
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Well check this out,
When did you talk to him about your problem. If its just recently you cant just expect him to surrender his ... Tool... Give it some more time. Love isnt exactly about lust either... |
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Mar 28 2005, 03:51 PM
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i talked 2 him about it about a month ago....its not about lust, i no that, its just that when it is lust, i want him to lust 2 , just not do nothing
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Mar 28 2005, 03:57 PM
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Oh damn, Hmm. I dont know then. I guess theres a reason he's scared to do anything. Maybe he never got to go pass 1st base. Maybe he's your first. Some guys when they like a girl A LOT they usually still freez. Well i'm guessing.
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Mar 28 2005, 04:38 PM
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Thats the way it is with me and my boyfriend.. only its the other way around & I'm the one thats less "lust-full" I would say just give it some time & maybe he'll come around.
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Mar 28 2005, 04:43 PM
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 i've never wanted anything rationale. Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 8,449 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 19,045 |
well first off, you have only been dating for four months. i find it hard to believe you are "in love". and obviously you don't love him that much because you are bored with the relationship, you don't even like kissing him. girl-you need to break up and just have fun
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Mar 28 2005, 05:17 PM
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c[: Group: Member Posts: 2,302 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 2,876 |
maybe he's umm...waiting for the right moment...maybe he's one of those (awesome) guys that like to wait...lols...you cant just rush things...thas not very lady like...hahaha ;] but heck...if you really want to lust or wutever....then why dont you make the move? some guys think its hot when girls make the move...haha.. ;]
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Mar 28 2005, 05:18 PM
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 Blasian, Asian, INVASION! Group: Official Member Posts: 4,288 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 16,769 |
wow just because he doesnt wanna get freaky like you dont mean he dont love you. If you loved him, then lust wouldnt really care
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Mar 28 2005, 05:28 PM
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it has nothing to do w/ lust.........its just that im getting bored doing the same thing over and over again.......i no he loves me cuz the way he acts.........i just need help dealing w/ the fact that he's not as fast as me
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Mar 28 2005, 05:36 PM
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Blasian, Asian, INVASION! Group: Official Member Posts: 4,288 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 16,769 |
then tell him that.
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Mar 28 2005, 05:41 PM
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just grab him pull his pants off and and give him the best oral ever.... then hell want to be more agressive
swallow too that helps hahahaha |
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Mar 28 2005, 06:53 PM
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 ...and this is me.. Group: Member Posts: 3,518 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 57,899 |
QUOTE(xxcrazyjewxx @ Mar 28 2005, 5:43 PM) well first off, you have only been dating for four months. i find it hard to believe you are "in love". and obviously you don't love him that much because you are bored with the relationship, you don't even like kissing him.  Agreed, if he bores you so much...break up with him. You can't make someone change if they don't want to... |
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Mar 28 2005, 07:22 PM
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 highfive. Group: Member Posts: 1,301 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 32,951 |
IT seems like you're not in love with him. If you don't have any interest with him... then break up with him; or just wait for him to come around.
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Mar 28 2005, 08:18 PM
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welll...if you really love him... than maybe.. instead of trying to get him to speed things up....you could try to slow down for him?....if u truely love someone... wouldn't you do ANYTHING for them ?....
coommmmmpprrriiiimiiiizzzinngggg =) --(comprimizing ). or at least talk to him..not jus tell him how you feel, but ask how HE feels...and see if you can try to help him get over his nervousness or w/e hope that helps. good luck <3 |
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Mar 29 2005, 10:39 AM
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its me agn of course...............all i can say is problems problems and problems.............thats all my life consist of right now. last nite i almost broke up w/ tj................wow that was a fun nite........but then about a minute r maybe 5 i calmed down breath and then everything was fine.........dont ask how but w/e.......if it happens one more time........then that is deffinaly will be the end of this relationship.......i dont want it to be, but r relationship is becoming unhealthy.........very unhealthy. its hard to admit it, but its true. its better 4 the both of us if we just break-up next time. i love him, its just that........the only time i seem 2 be happy w/ him, is when im acctully with him. it used 2 be that i was happy on the phone with him 2..........but now its not even that. i dont no wats going on. he thinks that the only reason im with him is cause im afraid to break up w/ him. i have no idea wat im going to do...............sum1 plz help me........my friend spent the nite last nite, she hates herself....i have 2 fix that 2...........i always have to fix everything..............so stressful.
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Mar 29 2005, 10:55 AM
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 to be loved by someone you love is.. everything Group: Member Posts: 1,207 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 51,205 |
QUOTE(Shattered_Hope @ Mar 28 2005, 6:53 PM) Agreed, if he bores you so much...break up with him. You can't make someone change if they don't want to... i agree my b/f is a bit tooo playful 
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Mar 29 2005, 01:18 PM
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everything is okay for now...........we talk and everything is fixed......i hope it stays that way.
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Mar 29 2005, 06:43 PM
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 You can't keep running from what you're trying to find. Group: Official Member Posts: 5,030 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 54,096 |
*sigh* ppl STOP using LOVE so lightly!!!
i dont think you love him if you're bored with him  try doing new things together. maybe he's just not that type of playful guy. just break up if you feel like it's not going anywhere |
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Mar 29 2005, 07:28 PM
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life is so ironic... Group: Member Posts: 73 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 112,671 |
Most relationships get boring by the 3rd month and feel the urge to break up. That happened to me many times during my 2 year relationship. i had this feeling like i can do better and hes so boring but truth is i'd rather be w. him than any other hot, funny, charming guy or even stars.
About the fights: talk about it with him first, let him know how much ever u guys fight u can work/talk it out. let him know that when u guys fight u still love him A LOT. When your playing around being lustful, some guys dont do anything because they expect the grl to do everything. some guys like the grl to be incontrol when playful actions occur If you do love him you wouldnt think he was that boring. He thinks ur great n hes not bored cuz he still loves you. |
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Mar 29 2005, 08:43 PM
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lilshelil Most relationships get boring by the 3rd month and feel the urge to break up. That happened to me many times during my 2 year relationship. i had this feeling like i can do better and hes so boring but truth is i'd rather be w. him than any other hot, funny, charming guy or even stars.
thx u soooooo much u acctully made since to me i wish some one else would have told me that..........we did work it out, and the only reason he wont do anything.............is cuz hes afraid he will hurt me........thx u so much my friend gave me the same advice u did so thx.
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