Controlling boyfriend, Taking away my style |
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 Mar 3 2005, 06:51 PM
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I have a problem, my boyfriend doesn't like the way I dress, cause I'm gothic. He told i HAVE to start wearing more 'girly" clothes. I don't mind changing a little of my wardrobe for him, but saying no more leather braclets, chains, spikes, and No black clothes what so ever is a little overboard. To me, clothing is just what i like to wear, it doesn't change who i am, i don't see why he can't see that. I really don't want to give everything up, but i want him to be happy. Can anyone help me out here?
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Mar 3 2005, 06:57 PM
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 rwar (; Group: Member Posts: 590 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 103,308 |
dont listen to him. do what you want ! it`s your body & you can wear whatever you want regardless of what anyone says ! (:
your boyfriend should like you for who you are, not what you wear or wtevr., |
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Mar 3 2005, 07:07 PM
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 Change Gon Come Group: Member Posts: 2,286 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 18,822 |
tell him, if he truly likes you, then he wouldn't care what you look like on the outside, cuz on the inside, you should be beautiful to him.
If he keeps it up, break it off. |
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Mar 3 2005, 07:23 PM
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I'm a sexy beast Group: Member Posts: 410 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 78,103 |
Why is he dating you if he doesn't like the way you dress? If he truely liked you, he wouldn't care what you wore. I agree with the others; if he keeps telling you to change, dump him.
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Mar 3 2005, 07:24 PM
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 the Ray... it filters through Group: Member Posts: 575 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 76,081 |
Yea, it doesn't make sense to go out with you if he absolutely can't stand your style.
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Mar 3 2005, 08:02 PM
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 insanitys contagious. Group: Official Member Posts: 4,210 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 99,707 |
Well , if he doesnt like how you dress , why is he with you anyways , when he got you he got the whole package..tell him that!
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Mar 3 2005, 08:26 PM
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wow....that is controling...its not like you tell him what to wear...its your clothes...if he wants different....it shouldnt matter what you wear...but instead what you are...you know? that is so not cool.
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Mar 3 2005, 08:31 PM
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 Ah, mon Dieu ! Group: Member Posts: 2,274 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 16,587 |
don't let anybody else try to change the way you are.
how we dress is a part of who we are, you know? and there's your boyfriend, who thinks that he has control over you. don't do it. before you know it, he'd probably try to change your complete life... confront him that you want to dress the way you want, because you're in control of your life. if he has a problem with that, then screw him. there are plenty of other fishes in the sea. |
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Mar 3 2005, 08:47 PM
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thats ridiculous. he should like you, regardless of what you wear. if he has a problem - thats his problem.
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Mar 3 2005, 08:51 PM
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^Agreed. You should dump him. Seriously.
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Mar 3 2005, 08:53 PM
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 dakishimetainoni... Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 4,322 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 75,318 |
this is really stupid, get out of the relationship now. if he didn't like your style he wouldn't have liked you in the first place, i think he wants you for something...like he's going to use you for something...
tell him to go f*ck himself 
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Mar 3 2005, 09:28 PM
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 <3 Group: Member Posts: 3,657 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 64,493 |
QUOTE(stephinika @ Mar 3 2005, 8:47 PM) thats ridiculous. he should like you, regardless of what you wear. if he has a problem - thats his problem.  ^ agreed. he should like you for who you are not what you wear |
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Mar 3 2005, 09:39 PM
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gRaCiE Group: Member Posts: 350 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 96,997 |
he should be with u for who u are. if he wanted to get with u just so he can change u then u should just dump his ass although i know wat ur going through. u want to make him happy and i understand that hundred percent. i mean it would be nice for HIM for u to dress up every once in a while but he should accept u the way u are. if he doesnt then he's not the one for u. talk to him about first tho. let him know how ur feeling
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Mar 3 2005, 09:50 PM
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Member Group: Member Posts: 17 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 108,938 |
Thanx, that helped, i'm gonna talked to him, if he doesn't like the way i dress, that's his problem
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Mar 3 2005, 09:57 PM
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 This is all my luck, it's all I got. Group: Member Posts: 1,373 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 76,532 |
He really shouldnt care how you dress. Isnt the reason he started to date you because he likes your personality and the way you are?
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Mar 3 2005, 10:05 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 3,957 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 51,665 |
i think... well he just wants you to look better for him. i don't think now is the extreme, but he is dangerous. confront him when things look out of hand
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Mar 3 2005, 10:07 PM
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if he truly loves you, he wouldn't ask for you to change your style of clothes
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Mar 3 2005, 10:10 PM
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 make yourself Group: Member Posts: 109 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 98,123 |
don't let him control you, women are supposed to be in control of the relationship, if it isn't that way, something is wrong. lol
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Mar 3 2005, 10:16 PM
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 ^-^ Group: Member Posts: 1,676 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 107,668 |
QUOTE(Emmaliev @ Mar 3 2005, 5:02 PM) Well , if he doesnt like how you dress , why is he with you anyways , when he got you he got the whole package..tell him that! nope. not really. I think cars are hot too!! ...oh, I mean guys..yeah..right... P.S. robots are hotter!! 
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Mar 3 2005, 10:23 PM
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 go go power rangers<3 Group: Member Posts: 321 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 76,457 |
He should love everything about you. After all, it's appearances that initially attract people (I think so, anyway). I'd say to drop him.
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Mar 3 2005, 11:52 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 1,531 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 18,624 |
Why are you still with him? A guy should like you for who you are..not what you wear.
Don't let him control you like that. |
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Mar 4 2005, 12:05 AM
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gigi =p Group: Member Posts: 3,679 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 41,206 |
Tell him to screw off - he's supposed to like you for who you are, not for what you wear.
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Mar 4 2005, 12:09 AM
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Brie Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 10,172 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 20,548 |
QUOTE tell him, if he truly likes you, then he wouldn't care what you look like on the outside, cuz on the inside, you should be beautiful to him. If he keeps it up, break it off. Agreed. I'm sorry, but WOW...what an ass. He can't control you like that. If you like how you dress, then continue to dress the way you have been. Who cares what he says. If he confronts you about it, tell him you have the right to wear whatever you want. If he doesn't think that is correct, then dump his ass. He's not worth it if he won't even "allow" you to dress the way you want to. |
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Mar 4 2005, 01:17 AM
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yeah he's an ass if he thinks he can tell you how to dress. just shows that he only likes you for the way you dress or somethin.. tell him to lay off and give him an example of how it would feel for him if you did the same to him.
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Mar 4 2005, 02:03 AM
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 I'll never be who I was again.. Group: Member Posts: 2,886 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 77,981 |
if he does like u, then he shouldnt be saying that...he should accept u for hu u r...tell him to back off...and if he cant accept u for hu u r then hes not worth it...
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