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Rejection & Forgiving
seremela_culnamo
post Mar 1 2005, 10:58 PM
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What do you think is worse: Rejecting someone or being rejected? & are you a "forgiver" and someone who pretends that it never happened afterwards? (In terms of knowing them as friends, close or not, before it all happened. & in terms of "forgiving", you become great friends after a long while).

I seriously think both of them are quite bad.

- Being rejected: Been through that, but guys at my age, are still immature compared to us girls. So they just ignore you, which totally crushes me.

- Rejected a friend: It kills me, too. Especially if they try to flirt with you (even in front of your friends and you don't want to say anything mean to him. him coming up and asking you for a hug when you just gave one of your girl friends one is quite weird, especially in front of your friends!).

- I'm a forgiving person: You can't control your emotions & if you're real true friends, you wouldn't stop your relationship just because of these things. But yea, it still slightly changes my point of view of him whenever I look at him or talk. O-well. One day you will get over it.
 
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post Mar 1 2005, 11:03 PM
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rejecting someone may hurt them, i know but it's better to kno that you don't have to worry about that person anymore, bothering you and what not. being rejected comes along with many rumors and hurt feelings, but i guess it just depends on what kind of person you are =/ i don't kno because both are leaving me to feel bad.
 
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post Mar 1 2005, 11:12 PM
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^^ kinda agree..it depends on what you're rejecting someone for, though, doesn't it? it's good to get your feelings out beforehand than get it out of control, i guess..
 
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post Mar 1 2005, 11:22 PM
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Meh, I've been rejected and rejected before. Being rejected does suck and so does having to reject someone. And they both turned out the same- we just ignored each other... But now, the guy I rejected and I are friends again and it's like we kinda forgot what happened between us.
 
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post Mar 1 2005, 11:28 PM
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i think being rejected is worse, especially when it happens to you a lot.
you just crumble. =/
 
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post Mar 2 2005, 12:14 AM
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being rejected is much worse.especially if you liked that one person for a long time.when i first got rejected i wanted to cry.
 
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post Mar 2 2005, 12:39 AM
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i'd rather be rejected than have to reject someone...i hate doing that sad.gif i hate hurting people's feelings...i've rejected people a lot... pinch.gif

i'd rather hurt myself than hurt someone else
 
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post Mar 2 2005, 12:53 AM
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being rejected --- very not good. i hate getting rejections especially asking someone to the school dances.
rejecting someone --- worse.... i hate doing that. well depends on what personality/physically he is hehe.
forgiving someone --- i think that's ok because im good at forgiving hehe.

I think getting rejected is a very huge thing to me. that's like the worse thing for me. Like when you're in american idol or america next top model... you get rejected...you know how that feels, as if you're not good enough to be in the public area heh... gives you that depression look. i hate getting rejection hhehh.
 
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post Mar 2 2005, 01:37 AM
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- Being rejected: i dunno.. never been through that.

- Rejected a friend: o_O i don't have any guy friends... =/ they're... too into sports and...stuff. stubborn.gif

- Forgiving someone: i always forgive.. but i sometimes hold grudges.. but anyways, i don't think its good to forgive.. because then.. everytime i forgive someone, they always end up making me forgive them a second time.. or even a third. people always tend to do things twice.. ><
 
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post Mar 2 2005, 10:43 AM
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Well, I've never been in a realationship to experience either, so, I think both are just as bad, if you have a heart. I mean, if you break someones heart, and have no feelings for them, you're heartless, and ofcourse, if you get regected, yeah, your gonna feel like crap, unless it was a mutual decison.
 
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post Mar 2 2005, 10:58 AM
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i'm very forgiving and get rejected alot, and everything bad has happened to me. i've rejected alot and been rejected, so i guess that it's ok, i just take it well. *sighs* but it does suck!
 
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post Mar 2 2005, 03:14 PM
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Getting rejected is worst, I think. I'm a forgetter. I pretend it never happened, and meanwhile hold a grudge. Ahaha, I'm so mean. =3
 
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post Mar 2 2005, 05:00 PM
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getting rejected is way worse,
 
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post Mar 2 2005, 05:02 PM
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being rejected is bad.
 
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post Mar 5 2005, 08:24 PM
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its better reject them then to not, and then break up with them later and play with their feelings
 
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post Mar 5 2005, 08:26 PM
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I think being rejected is worse. But they both suck..
 
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post Mar 5 2005, 09:37 PM
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moved to relationships =]
 
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post Mar 5 2005, 09:40 PM
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well im too shy..so i wouldnt get rejected cuz id never ask someone out..but i guess that would suck. but i would hate to have to reject someone and hurt thier feelings..people always tell me im too nice, but it makes me fel really bad when i hurt someones feelings, even when were in a fight or something.
 
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post Mar 6 2005, 01:14 AM
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QUOTE(chii @ Mar 1 2005, 7:39 PM)
i'd rather be rejected than have to reject someone...i hate doing that sad.gif i hate hurting people's feelings...i've rejected people a lot... pinch.gif

i'd rather hurt myself than hurt someone else
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yeah same here
 
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post Mar 6 2005, 10:11 AM
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I think rejecting someone else is harder cause you don't want to hurt a person..w/ youself when you get rejected you know you can just get over it and if you werein there position you would understand how hard it is...for me I just don't like rejecting a guy cause you think they really care but they get over it soO fast...soOo don't worry about it ifyou have to reject a guy soon or later everyone has to a certain time...
 
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post Mar 6 2005, 10:28 AM
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I've yet to been rejected but I think that when I reject someone, that would be harder.....heck, I'm a boy, so a girl would ask me out?????......wow......being rejected will be something I'll forget
 
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post Mar 6 2005, 10:34 AM
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i remembered once i got rejected by this guy and now we're best friends... hes going out with one of mah best friends, i was the one that set them up.. even tho in the beginning it hurt, im just happiii foo them nowww.. cus i love both of them =D...
 
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post Mar 6 2005, 12:12 PM
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i rather rather reject someone than be rejected because i don't really CANNOT reject someone...i'm not that strong...i'm soo weak huh.gif

i suck...
 
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post Mar 6 2005, 07:09 PM
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both suck. but...i'd probably rather reject someone as horrible as it sounds.
 
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post Mar 6 2005, 07:09 PM
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Been to both situations, and I think that being rejected hurts more. When my ex broke off with me, aka, rejection, it hurt like hell. But now I'm over it.

As for forgiving...the guys that I've rejected, we're friends, but with my ex...well let's just say...I don't really know if I want to be his friend.
 
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