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 Feb 11 2005, 05:05 PM
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do you have low self-esteem? if so, why? if you did, how did u got rid of it? if you don't, good.
yall'd probably say i'm shallow, but it does affect my self-esteem |
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Feb 11 2005, 05:12 PM
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 The Eurasian Concert Master Group: Member Posts: 484 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 54,826 |
I have low self esteem, many of my friends that are girls say I'm ugly or fat, but a lot of my guy friends say I'm pretty and everything, so they make me feel better cause they are better friends. I guess you could convince yourself that you're not, and if you are still not satisfied you could get plastic surgury, but I'm sure you're not ugly of fat, just don't listen to people, I have learned to block them out. Goodluck and feel better.
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Feb 11 2005, 05:12 PM
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yeah i do. I just.. leave it there. sometimes I can be very... confidentional. other days, I push myself to believe I can't live my dream. I guess you have to find your own way to fix it. you know about yourself more than anyone else.. so I guess you're the only one who will know how to fix it the way that you can.
if that made sense. psh. |
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Feb 11 2005, 05:17 PM
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depends, sometimes I can be the person with the lowest self esteem, other times I'm perfectly satisfied with myself. Usually it has to do with my appearence, though
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Feb 11 2005, 05:38 PM
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 This Life Has Been A Test... Group: Member Posts: 241 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 71,729 |
i have really really low self esteem...i'm fat and i always feel like everyone i thinking stuff about me...it really screws me up and my relationships w/ ppl...
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Feb 11 2005, 06:04 PM
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me too, it's all about the appearance. and well, my grades too.
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| *Kathleen* |
Feb 11 2005, 06:08 PM
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I have an extremely low self-esteem. I always feel like I'm not good enough for people and I shake before debate tournaments because I'm not confident in myself at all. And just with my appearance in general...no one in real life...ever compliments me on my looks. I always got picked on for being Asian and whantot as a kid, so yeah...it kind of stuck and I feel so...outcast-ish.
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Feb 11 2005, 06:12 PM
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 tower over me Group: Member Posts: 1,190 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 77,717 |
I used to have supreme low self esteem. I just lost it though. Just believe in yourself.
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Feb 11 2005, 06:20 PM
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define our lives for us. Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 11,656 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 43,293 |
QUOTE(Kathleen @ Feb 11 2005, 6:08 PM) I have an extremely low self-esteem. I always feel like I'm not good enough for people and I shake before debate tournaments because I'm not confident in myself at all. And just with my appearance in general...no one in real life...ever compliments me on my looks. I always got picked on for being Asian and whantot as a kid, so yeah...it kind of stuck and I feel so...outcast-ish.  Totally off topic, but, you're asian?!!!  And you seem like you're confident of yourself... |
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| *salcha* |
Feb 11 2005, 07:36 PM
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everyone gets low self-esteem once in a while. i know i certainly have. iut might be your appearance, you not being able to live up to someone else's standards, or if your life is just going down the drain (hey, that's happening to me). any self-esteem i had was shattered.
but you know, i always found something to be proud of. i had friends, i had my God, i had a life to live. so instead of putting myself down, i looked on the other side of life.. take cares : / |
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Feb 11 2005, 09:00 PM
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QUOTE you not being able to live up to someone else's standards, yes!! that's how i feel!! |
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Feb 11 2005, 09:26 PM
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well you can dress diffrent to make you look better. thats what i did and then my self esteem went up alot... last year i dressed like a tomboy but now i dress like a girl so its all good now ^_^ mabye try shopping at pac sun...thats what i did but its just a suggestion
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Feb 11 2005, 09:51 PM
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I've got low self-esteem too. I'm always looking at what I can't do.
Why do I have Low Self-Esteem?: Appearence: i've got tons of frizzy, culry, ugly hair. I'm short and i always get picked on for that. My sister is 2 years younger than me and looks like shes 5 years older than me. And I always hate it when people tell me that my sister looks older or people mistake my sister for being older. I'm really not a good looking person. And thats what brings my slef-esteem down even more. which weekens my chance of high slef-esteem Athletic and Girly: I'm not athletic either. I just love volleyball though!! But that isn't enough cause people apparently find that you don't need skill to play volleyball. (which is stupid!) And they say volleyball is a girly sport and that auomatically makes me a girly-girl. And girly-girls aren't excepted in my homeroom.... again, more low self-esteem. Talents: I also feel like I'm not good at anything. That someone is always better at even the one thing Im good at. People tell me I'm a great dancer, then they turn around and say im a slut for dancing the way I do. So I never win. And I think this Really does cause low self-esteem, because your not sure if people are being honest with you. And if they aren't, I feel like I'm NOT good at anything. I think people is what cause low self-esteem. And I definately need to work on that. Those are just few of the reasons why I have low self esteem. And thats not good. You don't want to be concieted, but people AND especially ME need to lern that you also have to know that your not a waste of something. And i agree that maybe most people who have low self esteem, just need to lern how to like themselves on their own. People who have tried to help me have all failed. Some even made it worse on how they said the words. (sorry some of this may seem a bit off topic) |
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Feb 11 2005, 10:53 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 2,087 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 36,491 |
yea i know what you mean. i mean sometimes im like self-conscious of how i look and i think "what if i lost 10 more pounds?" or like "why did i not work out yesterday and the day before? what if i did, would it make a difference?" i mean im' not fat like extremely overweight, but i could lose a few pounds here and there. and im definatley not a Size 0
 apparently my face fools people  i have to say im pretty self-conscious. but usually when im with my friends i dont even notice it anymore. it's just when im by myself and i get to thinking.....
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| *Kathleen* |
Feb 11 2005, 11:02 PM
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QUOTE Totally off topic, but, you're asian?!!! And you seem like you're confident of yourself... Yes...  And I'm confident about other things - not my appearance or with guys.
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Feb 12 2005, 12:03 AM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 2,087 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 36,491 |
QUOTE(Kathleen @ Feb 11 2005, 11:02 PM) Yes... And I'm confident about other things - not my appearance or with guys.but you're so pretty! 
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Feb 12 2005, 12:20 AM
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 Oh babyy. :d Group: Member Posts: 616 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 30,708 |
Yeah I have really low self-esteem.. on looks and I'm not confident on boys.. Boyfriends help you get rid of low self-esteem. Cause my boyfriend makes me feel better about that stuff...
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Feb 12 2005, 01:06 AM
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 You can't keep running from what you're trying to find. Group: Official Member Posts: 5,030 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 54,096 |
QUOTE(xj_liana_tx @ Feb 11 2005, 6:04 PM) me too, it's all about the appearance. and well, my grades too. yup appearance and grades for me too. but my friends always say like not to worry about grades so much and that i'm not ugly but sometimes you cant help but hate yourself... so i'd say you'll always have up and down days. just have to 'go with the flow'
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Feb 12 2005, 01:23 AM
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I used to, but not anymore. I guess it's because of my height that gives me more confidence than everyone else since their really short... *shrug* Either way, it doesn't matter that much to me. :]
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| *stephinika* |
Feb 12 2005, 02:46 AM
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i used to have really low self-esteem, but i've brought it up quite a bit in the last year though it still can get low. i guess i just grew to be more confident and i found the most amazing people in my life.
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Feb 12 2005, 02:40 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 212 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 59,075 |
QUOTE Boyfriends help you get rid of low self-esteem. Cause my boyfriend makes me feel better about that stuff... ooo so true!! but sometimes.. he could accidently put you down.  there's a lot of things i feel bad about.. |
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Feb 12 2005, 02:44 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 212 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 59,075 |
QUOTE Boyfriends help you get rid of low self-esteem. Cause my boyfriend makes me feel better about that stuff... ooo so true!! but sometimes.. he could accidently put you down. there's a lot of things i feel bad about.. --edit--- uhh can u delete a post? i thought i didn't post because it froze. |
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Feb 12 2005, 02:46 PM
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Oh babyy. :d Group: Member Posts: 616 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 30,708 |
QUOTE ooo so true!! but sometimes.. he could accidently put you down. Yeah.. my boyfriend has put me down before by accident, but he felt really bad and tried to make up for it
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Feb 12 2005, 03:44 PM
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QUOTE but you're so pretty! Eh, but no one has ever told me that in real life. Haha. It's funny, everyone on here thinks so, but...guys never approach me in real life. Eh and I suppose my confidence was bumped a bit when I was going out with Dave for that short amount of time, but...after we broke up, he said some things that made me feel...lower than dirt. Eh.
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| *mzkandi* |
Feb 12 2005, 03:56 PM
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sometimes i have low self esteem and when i do i frind talking to my mom is the best way to make me feel better....god i love my mom!!
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