it's just hard to express your feelings... |
 Dec 5 2004, 02:58 PM
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ok i don't know how many of you are like me but...
see, since me and my grandparents live one ocean away, whenever we call my grandmother, she always go: "I really miss you, do you miss me?" And well, I really do miss her too but i just can't bring myself to say these words that truely expresses my feeling and i end up saying: "um... ahem..." you know.. these kinds of situation.. I mean, i think that i would really regret it later on since.. afterall my grandparents are senile and you get the point, it's just hard to say what you mean. |
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Dec 5 2004, 03:03 PM
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 old school member Group: Member Posts: 1,796 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 843 |
Bleh. I get what you mean. But I'm not that kind of person, cause most of the time I just want to say STFU.
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Dec 5 2004, 03:04 PM
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I love you <33333 Group: Member Posts: 2,928 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 30,404 |
yea, i know what ur saying. for some reason, i have a hard time telling my parents/grandparents i love them, even though i really truly do.
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Dec 5 2004, 03:06 PM
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QUOTE(sunissed14127 @ Dec 5 2004, 3:04 PM) yea, i know what ur saying. for some reason, i have a hard time telling my parents/grandparents i love them, even though i really truly do. exactly, and then my dad backfires and thinks i am not respectful, and for some reasons he always thinks that i will abandon them when i become successful.. |
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Dec 5 2004, 03:09 PM
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actually, yes. and then my dad sent me to counseling for it. ehhhhhhh f**k you. ehem. this is a remarkably decent topic. good job *pats head*
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Dec 5 2004, 03:23 PM
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 RiKACHANtEL Group: Member Posts: 3,876 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 51,230 |
thats kind of how i feel about my grandparents on my daddys side. i dont ever think i have told them i love them...
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Dec 5 2004, 04:25 PM
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QUOTE exactly, and then my dad backfires and thinks i am not respectful, and for some reasons he always thinks that i will abandon them when i become successful.. Yeah yeah yeah. He'd be like You won't love us when you turn 18.  Take your grandparents out to lunch or whatever and tell them about your day and compliment them on something and ask about how they were like back in then and yeah. Be very interested 
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Dec 5 2004, 04:28 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 3,957 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 51,665 |
QUOTE(1--GIRL @ Dec 5 2004, 4:25 PM) Take your grandparents out to lunch or whatever and tell them about your day and compliment them on something and ask about how they were like back in then and yeah. Be very interested no offense but.. did u read the part i said about they live an ocean away from me?? |
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Dec 5 2004, 04:30 PM
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I used to be really bad with that. I used to never be able to express my feelings. I used to keep everything all bottled in. I got better with it though. Just try to put something into words
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Dec 5 2004, 04:40 PM
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 durian Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 13,124 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 3,860 |
My grandparents died when I was very young. So did my godparents, I believe. I think I saw him the day before he died. I didn't know what happened. I barely knew him. His life died I believe, a week later. She cried everyday. They were very old though, but still active. I believe he went to the doctor and then he got some shot or something and died from it a few days later... I'm not for sure though. I was only 3-4 years old.
I never got to say that I missed them. I never got to tell my godmother that I missed her wonderful baked butterfly cookies nor did I get to tell her that I missed how she would hug me and always put a smile on my face. She was so cheerful. I asked why she was sad, the day her husband died, she didn't tell me why. She put ona fake smile, and yet, I fell for it. I thought she was just happy with tears of joy. I didn't know what was going on... I still think of her often... I remember my mom and dad taking me over there to visit and they would just talk to her and I would just eat the delicious cookies and food that she cooked. When we couldn't visit anymore since she died, I missed her, a great deal.. I remember asking what happened to her, how come we couldn't visit anymore... My dad said she died as well later on, and that we weren't able to see her anymore. Back then, I wasn't old enough to comprehend what "death" or "died" meant. But as I got older, I learned and remembered. I still miss her and wish I got to tell her. :[ I knew the words "I missed you" and yet, I could never bring myself to say it. So from now on, Yea I do tell people that I missed them, whether they're friends or family... I miss my half sister that lives in London, the one that lives in new hampshire, even the one that lives in palm springs, even though she is the one that treats me like I'm her daughter (in a bad way) sometimes. Tell them you miss them, no matter what. You never know what will happen. |
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Dec 5 2004, 04:49 PM
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QUOTE(Just_Dream @ Dec 5 2004, 4:40 PM) My grandparents died when I was very young. So did my godparents, I believe. I think I saw him the day before he died. I didn't know what happened. I barely knew him. His life died I believe, a week later. She cried everyday. They were very old though, but still active. I believe he went to the doctor and then he got some shot or something and died from it a few days later... I'm not for sure though. I was only 3-4 years old. I never got to say that I missed them. I never got to tell my godmother that I missed her wonderful baked butterfly cookies nor did I get to tell her that I missed how she would hug me and always put a smile on my face. She was so cheerful. I asked why she was sad, the day her husband died, she didn't tell me why. She put ona fake smile, and yet, I fell for it. I thought she was just happy with tears of joy. I didn't know what was going on... I still think of her often... I remember my mom and dad taking me over there to visit and they would just talk to her and I would just eat the delicious cookies and food that she cooked. When we couldn't visit anymore since she died, I missed her, a great deal.. I remember asking what happened to her, how come we couldn't visit anymore... My dad said she died as well later on, and that we weren't able to see her anymore. Back then, I wasn't old enough to comprehend what "death" or "died" meant. But as I got older, I learned and remembered. I still miss her and wish I got to tell her. :[ I knew the words "I missed you" and yet, I could never bring myself to say it. So from now on, Yea I do tell people that I missed them, whether they're friends or family... I miss my half sister that lives in London, the one that lives in new hampshire, even the one that lives in palm springs, even though she is the one that treats me like I'm her daughter (in a bad way) sometimes. Tell them you miss them, no matter what. You never know what will happen. wow that's so touching.... i was a really spoiled brat.. and i remember at my grandmother (my mom's side)'s funeral, i had flashbacks of how i was being a brat and that i only went to grandmother's house so i can play with my cousins, and never went there because of her.. and i remember how my grandmother used to nurse me when i was a baby... i am really mad at myself for that. and when my mom's godfather, my other grandfather died, i didn't even get a chance to go to his funeral because it was a school day, and because that was the very first time when my relative passed away, i didn't know how to react, i think i was too scared to go to the funeral... Even though my grandfather didn't talk a lot, but he was one of my favorite relatives... i really wish that i had been less selfish and told them how great they are. |
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Dec 5 2004, 05:24 PM
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 i'm susan Group: Official Member Posts: 13,875 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 5,029 |
hm yeah i WAS like that whe i was in 6th grade, but not anymore... i didnt care to show it... i just let go my cries to them heh
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Dec 5 2004, 05:26 PM
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 Ah, mon Dieu ! Group: Member Posts: 2,274 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 16,587 |
take a deep breath, say quickly: I LOVE YOU
and then hang up. no biggie 
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Dec 5 2004, 05:29 PM
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 kristin Group: Member Posts: 5,705 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 3,985 |
sometimes..but normally i get myself to say it. in that situation i would probably go "yah.." or something...just to avoid repeating it.
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Dec 5 2004, 05:30 PM
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yeah saying 'i love you' to grandparents isn't so bad...i'm actually pretty good with being able to express my feelings. it just depends on what feeling it and to whom.
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Dec 5 2004, 05:38 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 3,957 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 51,665 |
maybe i didn't clarify enough but, whenever we call my grandparents, my parents stand like 3 inches away from me.. and that makes it harder for me to express my feelings.
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Dec 5 2004, 05:45 PM
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 and they say imitation is flattering Group: Member Posts: 1,337 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 27,269 |
QUOTE(Yemmerz @ Dec 5 2004, 3:03 PM) Bleh. I get what you mean. But I'm not that kind of person, cause most of the time I just want to say STFU. To your grandparents? I get uncomfortable when I'm on the phone with my grandparents =x And they live thousands of miles away, so.. They don't really miss me that much... |
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Dec 5 2004, 05:45 PM
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i'm susan Group: Official Member Posts: 13,875 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 5,029 |
well actually it's hard to say i love you to my dad because he lied to me way too much and betrayed my mom a lot... like my dad take me and my sister to korea and took all the stuff from our apartment that i didnt even know about... and my mom was left there sleeping in the street... i was so mad very mad, i never wanted to forgive my dad but im glad that im here right now with my mom heh...we're not living in the street..we're living in a 3 bedroom apartment. but im still not forgiving my dad so yeah it's very hard to say i love you. one time i did said that but i didnt really mean it because so much anger was in me i just wanted to throw everything everywhere... so yeah it's very hard to say it and mean those words to my dad.
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Dec 5 2004, 05:54 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 1,498 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 25,711 |
yah, sometimes i havent talked to my grandparents in a while its sort of hard to talk about things because ur not really "close" not like i dun love them but its just i havent seen them in a whilee
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Dec 5 2004, 06:17 PM
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 Smile Like a Retard =D Group: Member Posts: 1,350 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 63,186 |
well, my grandparents live in hong kong and i am in america. Whenever my parents call them and tell me to talk to them, i donno what to say. It's just i don't even know what's going on with their life right now and whatever i say will not be meaningful. I really like my grandma, and i don't want to regret something when i am older because of what i didn't do.
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Dec 6 2004, 12:28 AM
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QUOTE(xj_liana_tx @ Dec 5 2004, 5:38 PM) maybe i didn't clarify enough but, whenever we call my grandparents, my parents stand like 3 inches away from me.. and that makes it harder for me to express my feelings. maybe ask your parents for a little privacy bc you don't feel comfortable talking to your grandparents. 
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Dec 6 2004, 08:09 PM
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QUOTE(x uHoH iTs Lo x @ Dec 6 2004, 12:28 AM) maybe ask your parents for a little privacy bc you don't feel comfortable talking to your grandparents. my parents don't trust me.. |
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Dec 6 2004, 09:44 PM
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 yeah. i'm kevin. Group: Member Posts: 1,399 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 38,782 |
i used to say good morning to my family when i woke up back when i was like in 5th or 4th grade. now im in 8th and i dont at all. and when i think of saying i love you to my family. it feels kinda weird even though i love them
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Dec 6 2004, 09:46 PM
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 Day's Nearly Over Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 4,553 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 45,183 |
It was never easy to tell someone how you feel about them.
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Dec 6 2004, 09:51 PM
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whoa kim, back to the old name?!
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