What do you do when your mother is suicidal? |
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What do you do when your mother is suicidal? |
Nov 23 2004, 08:22 PM
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My mom is my life. She's my best friend...my confidant, a huge part of me! Lately, life in our house is horrible. She's not happy with my dad anymore, but stays in the marriage for me and my brothers, we are high in debt and I am about to go to college, so she feels guilty about the fact that she had nothing to contribute, financially, to my education (though I told her I was happy I was paying for college myself). Everyday she talks about drowning herself, or driving off a bridge, and it scares me. I tell her everyday that I love her and need her, but when I go to sleep I'm scared she'll leave in the middle of the night and never come back. What should I do? What would you do?
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Nov 23 2004, 11:30 PM
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omg...!.. that'd scare me soooo much.... =[.... try to talk to her.. make things in life more simple or more fun. do stuff for her so her life isn't so complicated..... aww.. i wouldn't know what i would do without my mom... tell her how much you care and stuff... keep telling her that you love her and need her.. then she'll realize what tha good things in her life are =]
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Nov 24 2004, 05:03 AM
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Senior Member ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 300 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 21,855 |
call a social worker or psych consult to talk to her
take every suicide threat seriously |
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Nov 24 2004, 07:12 AM
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![]() Senior Member ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Official Member Posts: 4,882 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 47,064 |
QUOTE(bigpoppaproppy @ Nov 24 2004, 5:03 AM) call a social worker or psych consult to talk to her take every suicide threat seriously exactly. Get help immediantly before it's too late. She needs to realize that there are people who care about her. Don't waste another minute! |
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| *jooleeah* |
Nov 24 2004, 10:36 AM
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Don't waste time by standing on the side watching her make suicidal threats. Talk to her about it, or ask a counsler for help.
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Nov 24 2004, 12:22 PM
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![]() ...and this is me.. ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 3,518 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 57,899 |
why don u tell her what u told the people of creatblog? she mgiht think twice if she knew.
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Nov 25 2004, 11:50 AM
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![]() dizzy me up. ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 3,191 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 11,139 |
wow one of my best friend's mom is .. like that too :[
i really dunt know :[ but i'll pray for you |
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Nov 25 2004, 01:19 PM
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![]() Blasian, Asian, INVASION! ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Official Member Posts: 4,288 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 16,769 |
QUOTE My mom is my life. She's my best friend...my confidant, a huge part of me! go up to her and tell her that. |
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Nov 25 2004, 04:25 PM
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![]() Clawdia/Violette wants ur eyeballs ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 2,116 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 8,477 |
i dont live with my mom but..that must be hard. um...i really dont think you can do much except just tell her how much she means to you and encourage her to get a job?
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Nov 26 2004, 12:47 AM
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I am Sandy. Hear me roar. ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 1,152 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 15,896 |
My mother has done that too. She's left a lot during the night and not come back until a few days later. but besides my sad story, you should tell her how much you love her and you should DEFFINITELY get a social worker.
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Nov 27 2004, 01:42 PM
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*sigh*.. my mom was like that.. i felt really bad for adding more pressure to her..
thanks.. u reminded me once more how much i love her. take her to the dr.. she's probably depress.. |
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Nov 27 2004, 02:52 PM
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I know what you all are saying. Thank you for your advice. The thing is, I always tell her how much she means to me. That I can't live without her...and that my brothers and I need her. Then the conversation will end there. There are lots of times when she talks to me and apologizes for the things she says. She really feels lost, but she won't do it (at least she says), because she does have three children.
She doesn't want to seek some kind of psychological help because it DOES actually affect your consideration for jobs in the future. The more she thinks about it, the more depressed she gets and the more closed off she becomes. I appreciate you all trying to help. I really do. Thank you all so much. This really was a great way to let off some steam without fear of being judged. It's people like you who help me stay strong for her and the rest of my family. |
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Nov 27 2004, 08:58 PM
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wow....
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Nov 27 2004, 09:12 PM
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![]() Want fries with that? ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 692 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 50,652 |
Just be happy she's alive right now. Tell her to be happy for the gift of life, and if she ever does leave, she'll leave behind a broken family. Tell her never to talk or think like that again, and maybe get her some help?
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| *islandgirl4eva* |
Nov 28 2004, 11:54 PM
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I know how you feel...or at least how your mom feels. Suicide, it seems like it would be so easy. Who cares if I go to hell?! THIS IS HELL!...or at least it might feel that way. I know she won't want professional help, that'll just piss her off...having people think she's crazy. She might really do it then. Like everyone else keeps saying, tell her how much you love her. Flaunt your brothers in front of her, telling her that she'd be leaving you guys behind, and if need be, use some sort of force (my friend had to physically fight me to get me to submit to her) to get her to realize that she has no right to leave you. That right belongs to whatever deity you all believe in, if any at all. Good luck with everything...I hope it works out with you like it did with me.
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Nov 29 2004, 01:38 AM
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I had no idea there were so many of you here with this problem...
That sounds so scary... Maybe you're whole family can talk together? Well not your dad if that would be a bad idea... But keep reminding her about what you've already said. |
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Nov 29 2004, 03:11 AM
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~~Keiyko~~ One & Only~~ ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 101 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 52,324 |
uh.. my mom is like that too
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Nov 29 2004, 10:36 PM
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![]() Linny the dork. ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 178 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 35,258 |
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