The Cycle of Violence., ...Please read... Options

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-Cycle of violence:

*Tension Building: Minor conflics and possible some physical abuse, spouse may think things will get better if they try to please the other more.

*Explosion: Some type of violence, may be triggered by an argument or fight, abuse may be phsycial sexual or emotional. Person left feeling worthless and depressed.

*"HoneyMoon": Abuser may become nice again, sorry/kind/loving/apolosive. Will promise that it will never happen again. Key word is promise, because it goes right back to tension building.

Sooner or later the cycle will start again, however the victem will not realize it because they feel they are in love, and they feel that if they try harder to please their "love" that things will get better, however it doesnt. It may be a few months or a few years, or the person may never realize this. A sad world we live in.


This is something we had to write down in my teen issues class and i thought i would share it with you CBers in this forum who are going through tough relationships. If you watch opra there was an episode a little while ago with a husband and wife. The husband treated her crap. He hurt her so bad, but never hit her. He would yell at her, make her feel worthless, make her think it was all her fault. Opra had a camera crew in the house and they actually taped it, it was bad. Both the husband and the wife came on the show and it was awful. The girl kept saying "i should have been stronger...it was all my fault" yada yada yada..he said he would change.

2 months later he was back to the old ways.

So you see people, if you see this happening in your relationship or a friends relationship, do your best to get youself/them out of it. It can happen to both guys and girls, and the results are devestating. The victem will litteraly loose all hope. they are brainwashed into a fall sense of compassion. they will LIVE for that person, i mean they will do anything to try and make the other feel better, just so they wont be yelled at, and once the realtionship gets that far..its very very very hard to get some one out of it, no matter how much they are beaten or abused.
Peace be with you CBers, and i hope all of you will take this advice and use it to keep you or your friends out of relationships that could destroy there life.


Love and happyness be with you all.

And a happy halloween.