Ex Boyfriend...problem...?, It's Lenghtly but i really need advice Options

[LostInMyKryptoni...]

This is a detailed thing, but it helps you better understand the sitiuation, I need a lil advice…

I moved to Alabama from Georgia about 4 months ago (on Friday it’ll be 4 months) and well, when I started school in august, I met a guy named Sean, he’s 14 and we started “talking” and getting to know each other grew really close, I mean I could tell him a lot that I couldn’t tell anyone else, we talked on the phone and he even helped me realize to be a better Christian, he brought me to FCS and just totally changed my life around, and I don’t think he knows it. Well on September 3rd not even a month of knowing each other, we started going out, well that all happened because that day our coach/teacher wasn’t at school so we had to go out where the freshman team practice’s football during 4th block cause the teacher watching us was the 9th grade coach, well I saw Sean and everyone that I talked to knew I liked him a lot, he was sweet, made me laugh, and most of all he helped me realize a lot of things that I never would have seen, well he saw us out there and since it was Friday they only practiced during school and not after school like usual, so he waited till I could catch up with him from the “band field” (next to the practice field) and he walked with me to the front of the “field house” and well his buddies and his older brother all were asking who I was, and then his brother goes, this must be the girl your always talking about, is she your girlfriend? Well he said I don’t know, it depends if she’ll say yes and he looked at me and said so will you go out with me? And I of course said yes, well I met his mom a week later at a See You at the pole rally (that happens in the morning once a year) and she liked me, she said I was really sweet and seemed like a good person for Sean to “date” that was until someone told his mom how old I am. We had only been dating 3 weeks when Sean’s mom found out. Well I think I forgot to mention I am 17. See I think age is just a number, and Sean did act really mature for his age when I met him (but that isn’t my whole needing advice part it’s coming. Lol) well Sean kept saying he wasn’t going to break up with me cause he “really cares” so after I found that out the following Monday I told him I needed to talk to him, as the smile faded from his face, we walked into the band hallway (we have guitar class together every morning) and well I told him I didn’t want him to lie to his mom, and I didn’t want him to go behind her back, so I thought it would be best if we were just friends, well after I said that, he was like “…yeah, I was thinking the same thing” but he didn’t seem like he meant it, well now, it’s been about 2 months and I’m still single, so is he, well here’s my problem and needing advice, when were in first block he keeps trying to sit near me and when we have free days he’ll want to dance and pick me up and basically flirt, and sometimes he’ll grab my hand, and I’ll pull away because I like another guy in there I try not to seem like I’m pushing away from Sean, but should I? And I do give him a hug every once in a while, but I give all my friends hugs. It just gets annoying because people sill think we are dating or we got back together and honestly I just like him as a friend now, and I’ve told him that, I wrote him a 3 page note telling him that. And well my problem is he still acts like that and I don’t know if it’s because he’s 14 and still likes me or he just thinks what we had was serious when in reality it wasn’t and we only “dated” for only 3 ½ weeks and we never kissed, or even went out on a date, so I’m just kind of confused with the way he’s acting and I don’t know what else to do without totally hurting him and telling him what I want to which is “back off” (I’ve tried to but in a nicer way) so does anyone have any advice? If so it would be greatly appreciated, thank you for your time.
Sincerely,
LostInMyKryptonite

[Oreo_bro]

hmmm....

very intreging this is.


well let me tell you this. you did 2 things, one you broke his heart, its obvious, and 2 you mostly did the right thing.

I dont think age is important unless your like 20 and hes 11, i mean people get together that are like 9 years apart it doesnt matter. If you truly did like him i would have kept it going, eventually his mom would have said yes *its happend some girls i know, but they were really persistant and so were their bfs*. Its gonna be hard but u just gotta be firm with him if u dont like him that way anymore. Try and find some one eles but i mean if he really does care about you, and u start to like him again, just go with it, u never know.

all in all he's done some good things for you, and u broke his heart, but it was needed if u felt it was the rigth thing to do to tell him he shouldnt lie to his mom *i may have done that if i was in your shoes*. Life sucks some times but u have to take it as it goes.

hope things get better

[LostInMyKryptoni...]

see i know if i would have kept persisting that it may have ended out with she saying yes, but i went through that with my parents not letting me date my now ex boyfriend aj (only broke up cuz i moved) because he was 20 and i was 16, and it lasted for over 5 months with my parents saying no no no, and the gave in and i didn't want him to go through what i went through with losing my parents trust, and lying and all that.... ur right sometimes life does suck. i just hope i can find a guy that i can just be happy with and me being older wont affect anything


If there are any more opinons please keep them coming, i could really use some more. though this other one helped me alot :-)

[houjin_himo]

maybe you should explain to him out you guys arent really "together" anymore...so he'll stop being like a stalker...but you did break his heart and its hard to forget a loved one...give him some TiME to cool down

[LostInMyKryptoni...]

yeah ur right i mean i still care about him and everything, it's just different,...we used to be close and now we barely talk and when we do, i just end up getting mad cuz he trys to hold my hand n stuff.... i hate being confused...