christianity n sex Options

[angelbaby317]

Its sorta like this:

You have a beautiful rose. It all red with silky petals. This rose resembles your virginity. So 2 guys have this lovely rose(virginity). They both meet girls. The first guy says to himself. 'Its just sex. God will forgive me.' and the other guy says 'No. I can wait till marraige.' Since the first guy had sex he pulled a rose petal off his beautiful rose. Now, the first guy continues his actions in having sex before marraige and pulling of a rose petal each time. The second continues to say no. They both get married. The first guy hand his new wife a rose with no petals on it because he's already lost them all from giving it to all the other women. The second guy gives his rose to his new wife that is filled with the prettiest rose petals you've ever seen. Now which rose do you want to give? Which rose would you want to recieve? The dead rose or the alive rose. Think about it.

Religiously, we weren't even supposed to be attracted to the opposite sex. Jesus never was. So God wants us to wait for marraige to share somthing that sacred. Because if Jesus were to get married, thats what he would of done.

I'm highly religious in my Roman Catholic faith. I've already made the promise and have gone to the retreats. I've already promised God that I'm going to wait til marriage to have sex. And I intend to to keep that promise. If you go to a retreat they will explain it a whole lot easier and it actually makes sense why you would want to give it to your special someone and not just anyone on the streets.

[dani41790]

Ok... the easiest way to explain this is... if you had sex before marriage, there is an emotional bond that goes with it. Just like you will never forget your first love, you're never going to forget your first sexual partner either. (And if you say that you're positive you're going to marry this dude, so what's the big deal? How do you know what the future brings? I've seen many many many people break up after long engagements... just keep that in mind) So after you have your first love, and after you have your first sexual partner, in a sense you give a piece of your heart away to them. Think about it. You will never forget about them, from time to time, you'll even think about them. Is that going to be fair to your husband? When you get married, don't you want to be able to give your WHOLE heart to him and only think about those memories ABOUT him? How special do you want sex to be with the person you marry? How much do you want to be "the one" with him or her- instead of five or eighteen or thirty? It's easy to say "I love you". But only "I do" says you're really one, for always.

God just wants you to save your whole self for your husband and most importantly, God wants you to save yourself for HIM. He put you on Earth to serve HIM and to do good for the glory of God. Does that make sense? He wants you to remain pure until you are ready for sex. And until then, you can fill up your time serving Him. The temptation that you feel when you want to have sex, is Satan's work. Don't give into temptation. Instead, fill your heart and soul with God's words and work to serve him better. If you have any questions, objections, comments, you can PM me if you like.

For those of you who disagree because of some reasons of your own, I just wanna say, that with this topic, there is no way to please everyone. And i'm telling her what I, as a Christian, was taught. I'm just responding to her question. So, if you disagree or dont' like my answer or whatnot.... don't read it then please. Because this was not meant to offend anyone nor was it meant to please anyone. It was meant to answer her question. Point blank.

O_o wow. that waz really well put. i agree

[swtxcatastrophe]

I'm Roman Catholic, and I may wait, I may not. I'm probably gonna wait till I'm not a teen, and know that I'll eventually marry the person. True story. My friends ex-girlfriend got pregnant. They were using a condem, and it broke. She had a shot that was supposed to make her have a miscarriage. He just told me today that the shot didn't work.

Now it goes into a whole mess of problems, like whether they're gonna abort it, or keep it.

It's just better to wait until you're ready. In the above story, the guy is turning 17 in January and the girl just turned 15 in July.

[gnawxela]

i'm against premarital sex too...being a virgin means that you're 'pure', you're not supposed to have sex until you get married according to the bible...that should be clear enough...

QUOTE (MusicalAngel @ Oct 24 2004, 6:38 AM)
Ok... the easiest way to explain this is... if you had sex before marriage, there is an emotional bond that goes with it. Just like you will never forget your first love, you're never going to forget your first sexual partner either. (And if you say that you're positive you're going to marry this dude, so what's the big deal? How do you know what the future brings? I've seen many many many people break up after long engagements... just keep that in mind) So after you have your first love, and after you have your first sexual partner, in a sense you give a piece of your heart away to them. Think about it. You will never forget about them, from time to time, you'll even think about them. Is that going to be fair to your husband? When you get married, don't you want to be able to give your WHOLE heart to him and only think about those memories ABOUT him? How special do you want sex to be with the person you marry? How much do you want to be "the one" with him or her- instead of five or eighteen or thirty? It's easy to say "I love you". But only "I do" says you're really one, for always.

God just wants you to save your whole self for your husband and most importantly, God wants you to save yourself for HIM. He put you on Earth to serve HIM and to do good for the glory of God. Does that make sense? He wants you to remain pure until you are ready for sex. And until then, you can fill up your time serving Him. The temptation that you feel when you want to have sex, is Satan's work. Don't give into temptation. Instead, fill your heart and soul with God's words and work to serve him better. If you have any questions, objections, comments, you can PM me if you like.

For those of you who disagree because of some reasons of your own, I just wanna say, that with this topic, there is no way to please everyone. And i'm telling her what I, as a Christian, was taught. I'm just responding to her question. So, if you disagree or dont' like my answer or whatnot.... don't read it then please. Because this was not meant to offend anyone nor was it meant to please anyone. It was meant to answer her question. Point blank. 


O_o wow. that waz really well put. i agree

[vivieeeen]

ever heard of the "True Love Waits" Campaign?

If you really wished that making a commitment like that, you have to understand that it's not only about yourself.

It's about God, yourself, your family, your friends, your futuremate, and your Furture children.

Yes. That's how big it is.

[I.Luff.Emo.Boys.]

I think pre martial sex ISNT wrong, as long as the two are ready its okay. No stupid peice of paper will do anything about sex. It doesnt make it more enjoying. It doesnt make it worse. Its a stupid peice of paper. What does that have to do with the process of making love?

[houjin_himo]

im a christian so i'm against premarital sex too...being a virgin means that you're 'pure', you're not supposed to have sex until you get married

[ArtificialBlonde]

well we had this discussion at church for a while..having sex before marraige is taking away that special gift you are giving to your future mate..there is a reason to save it..thats something amazing that i really have the patience for

[espionage]

How about a moral reason?

Naturally, love causes jealousy because we may want the same person. Since animals supposingly don't "love", but just mate, then it implies the same effect on us - As love causes jealousy, sex may cause jealousy.

Marriage is the concrete bonding between two people. The reason for marriage is to prevent that kind of "free-for-all", as doing otherwise is so-called "adultery", and so sex should come only with marriage.

[rockmyx]

its a moral values among christians. lf a guy ask you to have sex prove your love, he does'nt love you coz he did'nt respect you at all. true love can wait l am a christian and i am againts with premarital sex. lts a sin in the eye of god and in human.

[nuhtim4capun013]

the reason why is ... sex is a special act between 2 people... and it signifies love between the 2 people and love either other enough to get married and understand that they will be together forever.. and will always be together and i guess "enjoy"... they sed that sex was primarily for reproduction... but now its an act that signifies true intimacy with the one you love... marriage only binds you and your spouse together .. sex is another way of showing that bind and love...

[sikdragon]

If you wait until you are older, it's more pleasurable. pre-marital sex is wrong, but if you, like me, define marriage as a divine coupling with or without legal documentation, then it's not pre-marital at all.