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 Mar 6 2004, 11:20 PM
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 barbies token black friend  Group: Member Posts: 496 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 6,165  |
alright ladies my best friend has had a thing for his guy for the longest and she fnally put her heart out there on a limb and finds out that the guy she liked really isnt feelin her and he has put her through alot. now heres where i have my diliema... he tells me how he is into me any what not and how he wants to go to prom with me and blah blah blah. i havent told her what happend but shes told me she has a prom date and how she isnt on him anymore but i know her better than she knows herself and i know shes stuck on this guy and i dont want to show up at the prom with the guy he likes on my arm so im thinking about turning him down but i dont want to hurt his feelings so ... what in the hell do i do?
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| *CEP* |
Mar 6 2004, 11:22 PM
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Go to the prom with him.
If the girl gets pissed, tell her that she told you she was over him. It's evil, but it's better than going alone. - Chinkieeyedpnoi |
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Mar 6 2004, 11:42 PM
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Well if it was me... i would talk to her about it. I know some ppl just dont want to talk at all.. but if u really want to go with this guy and your bestfriend says that she's not in to him anymore. Then y dont u ask her... and if she says no she's not into him. Then tell her that "well... he asked me to go to the prom with him, and I know u really like him. But i won't go if u don't want me to go with him" of course she might say "go ahead and go" But then again if she gets mad then... slap her! hahah JP... nah.. seriously just talk to her.. and ask her to tell u the truth. I dunno but that's what i would do... GOOD LUCK girl!
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Mar 7 2004, 12:36 AM
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-moved- thought you would get more replies of advice if it was is the right forum. hope you dont mind
 depends. do you like this guy? i can see that you care for your frend alot, but if she truly treasures your friendship as much as you do, then she will be fine with it. talk it out with her, i mean, its just a guy... right? you guys are best frends, nothing should get in the way of that. |
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Mar 7 2004, 01:29 AM
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 doot doot doot Group: Member Posts: 1,803 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 1,954 |
i think ur friends feelings are more important than the guys feelings (no offense) i only said that cuz it tells me that ur friend is... more important lol so i think u should first talk it out with her and tell her how u feel about this whole prom thing and ask her to tell u truthfully if she'll mind to see u arm in arm wit the guy she likes, if she does then i think its worth hurting his feelings
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Mar 7 2004, 10:21 AM
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barbies token black friend Group: Member Posts: 496 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 6,165 |
yes i guess it would be good in the long run for me to tal to her about it first because i know if i show up to the prom with him she will just act an anus
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Mar 7 2004, 02:39 PM
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Newbie Group: Member Posts: 5 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 6,046 |
depending on if you think you have feelings for him in return, if you do, i'd say stay away because it will only bring more drama. if you don't and are friends with him to begin with, you should explain the situation to her and maybe she'll 'give you the ok' so to say. otherwise it could potentially do a lot of harm to your friendship and frienships are truly important especially after you graduate. it's important to keep your ties to your childhood.
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Mar 7 2004, 05:41 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 102 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 2,472 |
it sounds so much like mine
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Mar 7 2004, 07:55 PM
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advanced newbie... S2 Group: Member Posts: 3,504 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 752 |
listen to all this and dont forget to post what happens after you tlak/ listen to our advice!
 i wanna see what happens.. .sorry i a soap opera watcher so you can see that i like drama one thing, if you dont feel irght talking to her or you dont want to, dont talk to her, k? cuase like... if you ahve that uneasy feeling, its probably a vibe or sign that can lead to something bad... |
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Mar 8 2004, 11:29 PM
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 he`z gOt my heart*<3`o2.18.o1` Group: Member Posts: 1,662 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 6,338 |
QUOTE(thedilenquent @ Mar 6 2004, 11:20 PM) alright ladies my best friend has had a thing for his guy for the longest and she fnally put her heart out there on a limb and finds out that the guy she liked really isnt feelin her and he has put her through alot. now heres where i have my diliema... he tells me how he is into me any what not and how he wants to go to prom with me and blah blah blah. i havent told her what happend but shes told me she has a prom date and how she isnt on him anymore but i know her better than she knows herself and i know shes stuck on this guy and i dont want to show up at the prom with the guy he likes on my arm so im thinking about turning him down but i dont want to hurt his feelings so ... what in the hell do i do? if y0u really care ab0ut y0ur friends feelings that much and y0u are aware that she'll be crushed if y0u were t0 sh0w up at pr0m with him .. it w0uld be best t0 turn him d0wn .. y0u can explain the situati0n t0 him and i'm sure he'll understand .. if y0u find y0urself having feelings f0r him and y0u w0uld enj0y g0ing with him .. then talk t0 y0ur friend ab0ut it first and see h0w it works 0ut .. |
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Mar 27 2004, 02:18 AM
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QUOTE(chinkieeyedpnoi @ Mar 6 2004, 11:22 PM) Go to the prom with him. If the girl gets pissed, tell her that she told you she was over him. It's evil, but it's better than going alone. - Chinkieeyedpnoi there's nothing wrong with goin to prom alone!!! homecoming was funner going alone than with a date (unless that date was your boyfriend but whatever)!! but i'd go with him... as friends. |
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Mar 27 2004, 05:09 PM
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questions make me blue. Group: Member Posts: 2,608 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 3,796 |
she`s jus a derranged gurl on crack...bein` obsessed wit a guy fer how long?...PLUS...she needs to grow up and face the facts...HE DON`T LIKE HER...so you should stop worrying..she needs to accept the truth..
and jus go to da prom wit him jus cuz you`re desperate!!!as an excuse of course.. i mean...is dis guy HOT and/or CUTE?...do YOU like him? now that`s a problem... but jus DO WHAT YA GOTTA DO GIRL!
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Mar 28 2004, 04:02 AM
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QUOTE(chinkieeyedpnoi @ Mar 6 2004, 8:22 PM) Go to the prom with him. If the girl gets pissed, tell her that she told you she was over him. It's evil, but it's better than going alone. - Chinkieeyedpnoi :( how sad?! =p silly boy.. haha here's my advice Always remember that boyfriends and girlfriends may stay awhile, but true friends are forever. |
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Mar 28 2004, 09:03 AM
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hmmm i hate these type of things!!! well if i were you i'd talk to her about it, and talk to her other friends too... she might tell you she doesnt care then tell her other friends she cant believe you're doing this to her... my "best friend" went to homecoming with the guy i dated all last year. its a well known fact that im still completely head over heels for him, but she asked him to homecoming... and he was the one to aske me if i cared. i didnt cause i know he still likes me , but i was really mad at her...
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Mar 28 2004, 03:02 PM
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 durian Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 13,124 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 3,860 |
Yes, chinkieeyedpnoi, that is evil! lol, is that what GUYS would do in this type of situation?! HUH?! lol jk
anyways, you should talk to her about it, like everyone else said. And the fact that she said she didn't like him anymore, she deserves to at least KNOW that he likes you. If you two are friends, you both need to be true to each other. She needs to admit her feelings, and you need to tell her what's up with him. And if you do like him (somewhat), then the feelings the guy has towards you is mutual. Maybe you should go with the prom with that guy, but you should also try to get your friend to go with another guy, that way, she won't feel entirely left out and wont feel the fact that you betrayed her and left her dateless at the prom. |
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Mar 31 2004, 06:30 PM
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 Hi! I'm Dani :) Group: Member Posts: 5,637 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 3,369 |
well i think that u should stio go with hym but if u dont realli lyke hym n stuff then u shouldnt but if u do wanna go with hym n stuff jus make sure that ur fren ish ok with it.
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Apr 21 2004, 03:49 AM
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 i'm susan Group: Official Member Posts: 13,875 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 5,029 |
QUOTE(chinkieeyedpnoi @ Mar 6 2004, 9:22 PM) Go to the prom with him. If the girl gets pissed, tell her that she told you she was over him. It's evil, but it's better than going alone. - Chinkieeyedpnoi hahahaa bad jose! lols... wait shes over that guy...like she stopped liking that guy, right? well if u wana go...then go...... i mean ur friend is already going with someone^^ |
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Apr 21 2004, 03:51 PM
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been there. say no. dont go with him to prom. break it to him gently somewhow, but your best friend will be crushed. one of my good friends came between me and my girl, and thats how we're not dating anymore right now, and they arent either. and it got really uncomfortable, and i kinda seperated myself from the group junior year till things got back to normal. im in my senior year now, and it only got comfortable again this semester. all of us are still friends, but YOU DO NOT WANT TO GO THROUGH THAT. This will break a circle of friends, believe me. So just say no.
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Apr 23 2004, 11:43 AM
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awwwwwwww don't go for him girl. friends over boys :-)
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May 21 2004, 10:34 PM
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 Live Your Own Party Group: Member Posts: 1,261 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 7,489 |
i think you should talk to her about it and if she says she doesn't have a problem with it then just go for it. even if she is lying, you gave her the chance... but she decided to hurt herself. it wouldn't be your fault.
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May 22 2004, 10:39 AM
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 blah Group: Member Posts: 313 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 16,360 |
Ask yourself this question. Is this guy worth risking your friendship, cuz that is exactly what you'd be doing if you go to prom with him. And nother thing...what do YOU feel for him?
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