HATE .., my friends. Options

[to-devastate]

HEHE. It's a long one.. sorry but I really need to get this off my chest.-

Okay. So I have two friends- and they're really close with me. Together, we 3 are called "The 3 amigos" or whatever but that's not the point. Let's call one friend Sally, and the other Karen. So on Friday, it was a really good day until pd. 6 in school. During class, my 2 friends told me that my crush had a girlfriend. I was like "WTF...!" And of course, being "infatuated" with this guy, i totally freaked. Even before, when he told me he got a girlfriend, i went crazy and freaked out. So yeah. I was freaking out like crazy.. until like 20 minutes later, Karen tells me that "It was just a joke." I got mad at them and told them that I don't feel like going to the movies afterschool anymore. So I thought everything was fine. Oh boy was I wrong. I eventually got over the event on Saturday. But Karen just randomly ims me on aim and asks me why i didnt go to the movies and tells me that it pisses them off that i would choose a boy over them. and she told me that if i keep putting guys over friends then i have just lost their friendship. then she signed off. I got really pissed at them now. First of all, I never would put a guy before friends; and i never did. I wasn't mad at them because they put my crush in the picture, i was just mad at them because they would "joke around" with something like this. I mean, they know how much I got hurt when he got a girlfriend, so ytf would they do that? Did they want me to get a heart attack? I don't know. I know it's silly to be this much crazy about one boy; but this is a special boy and he's like my soul mate; just not together yet. And this may sound silly, but I didn't want to go to the movies because I didn't feel like going, and because my mom finally forgot to take away my keyboard :D.
So today, they totally ignored me. They even got my other friends in my class (also their friends too) to ignore me as well. I got all teary but I held in my cry during school. So when I got home, I cried a river and I don't know what to do. I don't want our friendship to end this way; but I don't want to say sorry for something I'm not sorry for. Please help me. Thanks :]

[sheepy]

aw eileen; yeah i told you this b4; but you know.
true friends will always be there no matter what you did wrong. and they will ALWAYS be there to catch you when you fall; not the ones that made you stumble on your way.
you know; its okay. its okay to be mad or sad once in a while. in fact; thats just part of life right? and i know you; and i know you'll never put a stupid guy in front of your friends. hey; you dunt need them to know the truth. they can go on and believe whatever shit they think but at least you know the truth. and of course at least GOD knows the truth. thats all that matters in the end. not that they think of you; but what your creator thinks.
and you don't have to say sorry; since.. what are you sorry for? for being hurt or offended by what they said? for being upset because they hurted your feelings? for thinking what they said isnt funny?
just give it time; they'll see through; well at least they should if they call themselves your friends.
lovee you<3

[xj_liana_tx]

girls.... *sigh*

[Rachel]

those girls sound like stuck up bitches. tell them what you told us and maybe then they will see how lame they were being. if not, do NOT apologize, you dont need to. they should be saying sorry to you.

[lil_shadow]

if they are good people and they are your closest friends ever, than slap them hard, cry, wail, then explain how you feel when u get the anger out of u. if they don't understand how you feel, ditch them and make new friends =)

[misoshiru]

you should talk to them about how you feel. yell at them whatever, tell them why you were pissed off and how true friends dont really joke about their crushes that way. hope they can understand

[ComradeRed]

Let's say that your preferences are:

Have Boy and Friends > Have Friends > Have Boy > Have Nothing

So you get 3 points for getting both, 2 for friends, 1 for boy, 0 for nothing. And you want to get as many points as possible according to your pure self-interest.

Now let's say your friends can either keep you or dump you. They would rather keep you, and have you choose friends > dump you and have you choose friends > dump you and have you choose boy > keep you and have you choose boy (because they don't want you to choose boy over friends).

Now, as you can see, you always perfer boy over no boy, but your friends perfer the opposite. Your interests are diametrically opposed. This yields the matrix:

----------------------------------------Friends
-----------------------------Keep You---------Dump You
You-----Choose Boy--------3,0-----------------1,1
---------Choose Friends-----2,3----------------0,2


Where the first number is how many points you get, and the second is the number of points your friends get.

Now no matter if your friends want to keep you or dump you, you get more points from choosing the boy. Your friends can see this analysis too, so they will choose to dump you and get 1 point instead of 0.

What I'm trying to say is, I just mathematically proved that you will lose all of your friends. Sorry.

[nyczinfamousz]

BOO, EILEEN. BOO. lol i hate getting confused buht i knowwww eveyrhingggg int this story. both sides.

[jennyjenny]

I hate my friends, too.

[miss barnes]

you just need to explain the situation to them because OBVIOUSLY they dont know what its about. if the refuse to listen, write a note