im a worrier, not a worrior Options

[mony0407]

ok ok ok i know most you people don't care about this but.. if any girls are like me then they are protective of their boyfriends and tend to worry alot about girls in the *past*. soo the story..

[ me and my boyfriend met about 5 months ago and we started "talking" and immediatly liked each other is seemed but before we could hang out he had to go to florida (i live in texas) for 3 weeks to a soccer camp. but he told me i was the only person he liked and same from me to him. but 3 weeks and i barely got to talk to him while he was gone my ex boyfriend came into the picture and well when my present boyfriend got back from florida i was suddenly caught up with my ex. okay but anyways a day later i broke it off with my ex b/c my feelings for this new guy were strong. soo me and him got together and he is now my boyfriend of *2 months* . but the past girls thing just came to be a problem because one of his friends Subcribed to my xanga and 1 of my friends who knows her told me so i went and looked and being bored read some of her posts from back when me and my boyfriend were just "talking". and the 3 weeks he was at the florida camp she said things in her xanga about him and how they talked on the phone and stuff while he was gone. so much for me bein the only girl he liked . and why arent they together? b.c she went out of town the day after he got back from florida.. lucky me what if she hadnt gone? i wouldnt have my boyfriend she would.. well anyways i've been sick 2 weeks with Mono and so i havent seen my boyfriend.. and when you away from someone so long its scary cause everyday you feel like your getting more and more apart and i WORRY constantly that im going to LOOSE HIM, my everything, to >her< .]

question: [ girls.. do any of ya'll have a similiar WORRYING problem!? how do you fix it? how do you reasure yourself that everything will be *okay* i know its possible.. i just havent figured it out yet.. ]

(sorry so long.. i like spilling my guts)

[inthemudhole]

I get very paranoid.
I couldn't fix it.
I guess it's somewhat good to worry, because that shows you care... But yeah..

[Falon]

I really don't worry - I trust my boy.

But I'm almost confused as to why you're upset with him...
1) You weren't together at the time of his soccor camp stuff.
2) You were with someone else then too...!

[jihae526]

yeah even though you should be annoyed, why were you with your ex while he was gone?!?!?

[mony0407]

well yah i understand where ya'll are comming from. the background info isnt clear. me and my ex had been on and off for about 6 months soo it was easy to think that i was in love with him and whenever he said he wanted me back i didnt even think before saying yes.. im a sucker for love, what can i say. and im not upset with my boyfriend im scared of loosing him. i mean i guess i am a lil upset but im more dissapointed.. cause i let him know i still had feelings for my ex and i guess he forgot to mention that he liked this other girl.. yah "forgot"

[Falon]

Have you considered talking to -him- about this? Just because he liked someone other than you before you two were together, doesn't mean he does now.

There is always a change in any relationship that you might 'lose' the other... Sometimes it's a big change, other times, it's almost immeasureable - but it's there. You can help minimise this chance by being honest and open with each other - I know it sounds rather stereotypical, but it's true. Talk to -him.- Don't make it confrontational though. Make it a rather neutral conversation, and let him talk, listen to what he has to say. If you interrupt him every 3 words, or act upset, it'll put him on edge and could result in a fight - remember to breathe...

Don't be afraid to talk to him - if he really cares about you, he'll want you to be happy, and will usually try to allay your fears. Just don't jump to conclusions.

[mony0407]

we've talked about it before. i guess its just my missing him and not being able to see him is bringing it up again. since im stuck at home sick i have nothing at all to do.. so i just think about stuff. thinking never gets me anywhere but trouble. i just always expect the worst. which can be good and bad

its good cause then even if things turn out badly they aren't the worst.. so theres a bright said

or its bad because until things are resolved your stuck being miserable only seeing the bad in everything.

love-lifes are a mystery

[Falon]

Call him. Invite him over. Email him...! *dies*

[enticing.]

i alwaysss worry about my boyfriend. but it's because when we were on a break he still had feelings for me and another girl too. so i guess that's when i started to really worry. it's been like 9 months since that happened. but i just can't help it.

[mony0407]

lol Falon im sorry if im stressing you. i do talk to him, every single day. he can't come over i have MONO its VEERRRYY contagious and i don't want to risk hurting my boyfriend! that'd be kinda cruel. i want to thank you for ur comments tho! i understand you completely.

and enticing. im glad to know im not the only worrier.. thank goodness

[Falon]

*laughs* No, 'snot your fault. I was trying to hide from my guy in the fridge behind the lead-disguised-as-mayo... And kept being thwarted. *laughs* (All via electronic communication, of course... I dun think I can fit behind the mayo, any more, IRL... o.O)

But he so COULD come over... You've seen ET, yea? *smiles* Okay, so maybe that's a bit extreme... But those little mouth mask thingies wouldn't work? How about if he comes over and stands outside your window, and you can write messages to each other via a pad of paper against the window... *giggles*

[mony0407]

HAHAHA u crack me up Falon!! ur so funny! yes thats true mouth-masks COULD work.. but i seem to have *mis-placed* mine.. silly me! and plus my boyfriend doesnt have his license right now so he really doesnt have a ride to my house. but good thoughts! lol thanks! you are officially my favorite person on createBlog. lol

[Maddie]

....you are officially my favorite person on createBlog. lol

She's my favorite person on here too

[conster]

i dont currently have a bf.. but yes i get that feeling too lols it sucks to be a girl cuz u always worry -_-

[Falon]

Awww... *huggles them both* I"m two people's official favourite person here at CB... ^.^

Anywho, Mony, the most obvious answer is to just go back in time and prevent yourself from getting mono. Yep. *nods* Or, like, get better.



...Wouldn't it be all sorts of spiffy if we could actualy go back in time?

[mony0407]

that WOULD be so awesome. going back in time.. i shall invent that!

oh and i get to see my Boyfriend tomorro!! so that should make things better!! seeing the person you care about always reminds you how much you really care// am i right? i think i am.

you guys are awesome! [ not as awesome as Falon hehe ]

[Maddie]

Falon is the awesomerest *smiles*

[juliar]

TELL him that you're worrying and watch his reaction. Uber-carefully.