cutting yourself... Options

[smoke]

It's a way of releasing stress and pain.. hmmm.. does that make it less stupid? I'm sorry, but those people DO need mental help. Plus, it's not assumptions.. it's the mere truth. Oh, and I regret to say that I have been in their shoes.

Excuse me... mental pain. I'm pretty sure you knew what I meant. At least, I hope so. You ever hear kids joke around when someone gets hurt and say "Come here and let me punch you in the arm and make it hurt worse so your leg doesn't hurt so bad." It's the same concept. It's their way of making themselves hurt physically instead of emotionally. Emotional pain is a lot worse than physical. Physical scars heal. Emotional scars don't. And since when is your opinion "mere truth"? Honestly, it doesn't make much sense to me but ridiculing them doesn't make any more sense.

I've also been in their shoes. And I'm proud to say I don't regret it. Those experiences made me a stronger person. It's all in how you handle it. That's how they handle it.

[AngelinaTaylor]

Excuse me... mental pain. I'm pretty sure you knew what I meant. At least, I hope so. You ever hear kids joke around when someone gets hurt and say "Come here and let me punch you in the arm and make it hurt worse so your leg doesn't hurt so bad." It's the same concept. It's their way of making themselves hurt physically instead of emotionally. Emotional pain is a lot worse than physical. Physical scars heal. Emotional scars don't. And since when is your opinion "mere truth"? Honestly, it doesn't make much sense to me but ridiculing them doesn't make any more sense.

I've also been in their shoes. And I'm proud to say I don't regret it. Those experiences made me a stronger person. It's all in how you handle it. That's how they handle it.

Saying that cutting is stupid is not ridiculing anybody, first of all. Second of all, it's not really "handling it" - it's rather running away from problems. I'm sorry, but I was one of those dumb, little bratty teenies, and I know what it's like. It's pathetic. Just another way of running away from your problems, and let's face it - there is always a solution to a problem. Cutting isn't a solution.

P.S. Oh and yeah, most of the physical scars don't heal.

[x_curse_of_the_c...]

yeah im sort of scared im going to start again since it's getting colder. actually im scared as hell. the times i would cut the most were in winter so im scared. but i just tell myself that cutting isn't an option. i just wish i would listen to myself.

[-sincerely]

don't let her cut!! seriously bad things can happen from it.

[rAwritsgWeg]

Been There. Done That. And now I realize how stupid I was for doing it. I now have scars all over my body becuase of it. Why? Becuase I was always blaming others for my problems. Being lazy about taking charge of my life. So I'd constantly be depressed. Even when I have to sleep outside sometimes, I just don't let the depression get to me. You gotta stay strong.

[xFaith]

P.S. Oh and yeah, most of the physical scars don't heal.


True. And it always reminds you of the problems you had.
I totally get why people do it, i really do. but in the long run - you'll regret every cuit youve made.

[elaboratedream]

I used to cut. In fact, on occasion, I still have relapses.
I call them relapses because for me, it became like an addiction.
it's never a good thing to start, its an even worse thing to continue.
and eventually, you will regret every cut.

I know what its like. it starts off with intense emotional pain. you search for an outlet. you find this. you make the first cut.
and then, the next time you feel that way, you do it again.
Soon, everytime anything goes wrong, everytime you dont feel wonderful, you do it again.
and then comes the point where you become dependant.
when it's all you can think about, even if you feel okay. when your life revolves around hiding it, when the cuts get deeper and deeper because you are no longer satisfied with the shallow ones. you draw away from people even more, afraid they'll find out your secret. And besides, you're so covered in self-inflicted wounds that it hurts when anyone touches you.
the obsession gets worse.
you start thinking about the potential of every object around you. you steal sharp objects, you dont care if they're clean, you dont care that you're stealing them. You just need to feed the addiction.
you start cutting in school, at work, at home... everywhere.
and then eventually, inevitably, someone finds out.
you freak out at first. maybe even contemplate suicide. They're going to take away the one thing that kept you from feeling like shit. you cant imagine living without it.
but then eventually, hopefully, you'll realize that it never did any good. it made things so much worse.
you've lost friends.
you've lost money.
you've covered yourself in scars that will never go away. you realize how ugly they are. everytime you see them, you're reminded of a time in your life you would be much better served to forget.
and then imagine explaining it to a spouse/significant other. imagine explaining it to your children someday.
they'll ask.
you're marked forever. set apart.

now, I know, this doesnt happen to everyone. this is only the most severe cases.

but anyone who makes it to that point never thinks that'll happen to them.
when they make the first cut, they dont realize what it might lead to.

even if you never make it to that point, if you stop yourself first, you still experience this to some extent.

just don't risk it.
quit before it reaches that level.

it may sound ridiculous.
I know it did to me.
but now, after a year of hospitals, therapists, and medications, there are still times when its all I can think about. there are still times when I break down and do it again.

its best never to do it at all. but if you do, if you can't find any other way, make sure you know your motives. and more than that, make sure you limit it. dont let it control you.

[rAwritsgWeg]

And yet I do it again...........
Im f**king pathetic.........
wth...

[PandaKnight14]

I tried it. It wasn't that great. I returned to my preferred methods sulking and took slight comfort in not falling into the emo stereotype.

[supermonke1]

I think that cutting was just started by someone a long time ago who was very desperate for a way out of their daily stress and since then it has built up to this idea that it relieves emotional pain. Call me a nerd or tell me I am wrong here, but emotional pain cannot be fixed by additions of physical pain, it usually only makes it worse. Emotional pain is usually, but not always caused by something along the lines of Social pain, something caused with another person..be it a dating break-up, a fight with a friend, or people teasing you. By cutting, people can trick their minds into thinking that this physical harm can fix their mental/emotional issues, but if this is true then it'd be just as easy to trick yourself that just calming down and unwinding is just as beneficial, am I wrong? Ok well I am just trying to help and anybody who wants to applaud me or yell at me go ahead...it is, after all, only my opinion.

Proud member of the Anti-Emo Army.

Peace.

[cutmeup1305]

I did that for like three years cause well yeah I'd rather not get into it but honestly it just hurts more in the long run. It stays with you for life and now that I look back it seems so pathetic. I might have had problems but that was NO way to deal with them. It's complicated but alot of people say it realives them and so and so which makes people not take them seriuosly. I dunno I guess I'm trying to say there are other ways to deal with probelms.

[rAwritsgWeg]

It goes on and off. I do it everynow and then. But not all big like I used too. I know I'll stop soon....

[*a painefull euphoria*]

Saying that cutting is stupid is not ridiculing anybody, first of all. Second of all, it's not really "handling it" - it's rather running away from problems. I'm sorry, but I was one of those dumb, little bratty teenies, and I know what it's like. It's pathetic. Just another way of running away from your problems, and let's face it - there is always a solution to a problem. Cutting isn't a solution.

P.S. Oh and yeah, most of the physical scars don't heal.

^^you are one rightious chick.
shes basicly sumoned up everything i feel about cutting.
if you dont like it.
go f**k yourself.
and cry.

i lack the capacity of pity and mercy for childishness.hurting yourself dosnt prove anything about reliving pain.and all that garbage.
stop listening to my bloody valentine.
and get out of the f**king rock youve been hiding under.
it dosnt solve jack shit.
all it proves is you like to feel bad for yourself.

Proud member of the Anti-Emo Army

^^well i am too. mo f**ker




and if you did do it and are trying to stop.
thats good for you and im not picking at you.,

[Harley Filth]

Cutting releases endorfins(sp) that cause the body to feel better when it's in deep emotional panic/pain/anxiety. It works for some people better than others.
*Sigh* Now this is the hard part. If she hurts herself too much . . . it gets risky. Just keep a close eye on her and let her know that you are there for her. She needs an escape. Let her know that she can talk to you whenever she gets sad. If she starts to threaten to kill herself, call the police.

Now, I know this sounds kinda stupid coming from a person who has cut for 5 years and has had continual counseling, but believe me, that's what I would want a friend to do for me. I hate people telling me not to cut or not. I hate people constantly getting mad at me for cutting. I want someone to talk to when I get sad. I don't want to have to hide it every day. Just let her know your there. She must be going through something really hard (either that or she just wants attention . . .) JUST BE A FRIEND.


(OH, and P.S. TO EVERYBODY . . . DON'T YOU DARE RIDICULE EMOS! I come from a very long ancestry of emo people so shut the f*ck up . . . you just need someone to pick on.)

[Back-up Battery.]

^
Exactly.

Cutting yourself helps some people. It only has one good side agaisnt an entire list of bad sides. Believe me, people who have been cutters do regret. I know; personal experience.

[pleasantlycrushe...]

well, i just wanna say that i had done it. and well. reading that some of you are saying, oh well, i knew this girl/guy who did it and well, i dont talk to them anymore, THEY HAVE SOME PROBLEMS.

and well. obv. they do. but when you see something like this, you cant just let it go. you have to help them. even though its NOT YOUR PROBLEM. its theirs. and if you dont at least talk to them. then you probly dont care about them. because they could eventually harm themself even more. and depending on who you are then you'd have that hanging over your head.


sry for ranting abit because i've had some friends who drifted with my problem. and i just wished that they showed the least bit of concern.

[MeanBastard]

Screw cutting yourself. Punch a wall. Has same effect of releasing adrenaline and endorphins. Just don't break your hand.

[eiltranna]

Cutting yourself is a way to remove emotional pain by focusing the person on the physical pain, in my opinion. However, it's a negative way to replace emotional pain. I wouldn't try to force your friend to stop, but you could definitely talk to them about it and ask them to stop for their family and friends. Pay attention to them and try to make sure they aren't doing anything else negative. If they are, I'd definitely tell an adult like their parent or something.

[RyanWasHere]

Cutting yourself isn't wrong, it just makes you incredibly emo and lame.

[*Insurmountable*]

^no it just makes you look stupid for trying to kill yourself in such a immature way. If you really want to die go hang yourself.

oh it makes you look like the biggest attention seeker that no one wants to put up with.

[alysaphobia]

I guess we're in no place to stamp an official 'right' or 'wrong' about it, but I personally think it's a really bad way to deal with your emotions. And I mean really bad, because I'm sure it hurts your friends to see you like that, too.

[mistah-slickz]

Seriously, when you cut plz cut somewhere around your cervical vessels. Or you try to cut around your neck instead of your hands.. for fucks sake just die. If you seriously just want some phyiscal pain, go find any black male, young or old and call him a dirty nigger.

[lalalalala12345]

for my vote i put 'i dont really know'
i used to cut myself but i stopped.
its hard to explain why people do it. if you are mentally in pain then sometimes it makes you feel better. i know what i am saying doesnt make any sence right now to you guys...but that was my perspective of it when i used to cut myself. ive stopped because...i just stopped...

[loveylovely]

I wouldn't do it. It hurts and it gives you scars.

[elaboratedream]

I've done my ranting on the topic. I think it's a stupid idea. It's addictive and the scars don't go away.

but I wanted to share a site for people who do. It's support for all kinds of self-harm (cutting or any other form of self-injury, eating disorders, and drug/alcohol use)
It's actually a cool site, and there are a lot of people you can talk to about things who have gone through/are going through the same things as you.

http://recoveryourlife.com