Unrequited Love with Friend |
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Unrequited Love with Friend |
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I've been liking my guy friend for more than half a year now.. we just met this year at school & i told him back in October.. things were fine , we even got closer & he started calling me etc and we would talk on the phone every Friday for HOURS.. it was like a set thing.. however he never told me directly if he liked me or not.. until during winter break i asked him over text telling him that he still hasn't told me striaght out if he likes me or not.. & he says that he only seems me as a friend.
I was REALLY upset but just hid the pain? our friendship continued.. however now it feels like there's something wrong.. i know its been like a good 4 months since that day of rejection but .. for SOME reason for the past month our friendship hasn't been as great as before.. he doesnt call me every friday anymore..& the last time he did, i had to tell him to & we ended up talking for almost 2 & a half hours & he even mentioned that we dont talk on the phone anymore.. Im the type of girl who gets jealous VERY easily.. its just REALLY upsetting when he treats me so different compared to everyone else.. because we're " close " so its okay to be a bit rude to each other sometimes.. but sometimes when i see him SO nice to other girls.. it makes me really upset & at that moment i don't realize that its because we're just so much closer.. what should i do..? T______T being friends with him hurts me so much.. but every time i'm upset & i ignore him or act rudely to him i end up being upset at myself for being mean to him..i always tell myself that i wont answer his messages on MSN but when he does do it.. i cant help but give in T_____T is it really THAT hard being friends with someone you like so much.. |
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Hey girl. I know how you feel... I'm going through the same thing, except the guy I like has a girlfriend... our relationship is on and off. We've come so close... even when he has a girlfriend... to the point where I'm the third person in the relationship. I hope that I could give you good advice that I should follow myself. Right now I'm on the same path as you... trying to ignore his calls, his messages, etc. It's HARD. But you HAVE TO. He's playing around with you, and what's worse is that.. you KNOW it. If a guy is really willing to be with you, he would sacrifice everything to be with you. This guy just doesn't sound like he's worth your time. Plus... since he KNOWS that you like him, it's easier for him to control your feelings, intentionally or unintentionally. I suggest you forget about him and move on. It's hard, you'll be sad.. but you do what you got to do! Good luck<3
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![]() Senior Member ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Human Posts: 1,152 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 2,239 ![]() |
no, its not hard to be friends with someone you like, if you can control yourself and your emotions and be civilized in this situation. no im lying, its really hard, yes. its hard to control emotions sometimes, especially romantic ones. BUT!!!! when you can overcome it, and learn to control and fight urges and temptations, it can be really easy. try forcing yourself, thats how i control my temptations and emotions sometimes.
and appreciate your friendship with him. vietbabii might be wrong that he's playing you. maybe he JUST ONLY WANTS TO BE FRIENDS. rejection is a part of life. you learn from it, it makes you a lot stronger. it really does. but if you do find out he really is playing you, you should handle it with maturity and not make the situation more worse. my main point is, appreciate your friendship with this guy. ps- you'll never know a yr from now or so, if you two cross romantic paths one day. so i dont think you should lose and take this friendship so grantly. |
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*BOSS* |
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he got bored of you
Im the type of girl who gets jealous VERY easily.. its just REALLY upsetting when he treats me so different compared to everyone else.. because we're " close " so its okay to be a bit rude to each other sometimes.. but sometimes when i see him SO nice to other girls.. it makes me really upset & at that moment i don't realize that its because we're just so much closer.. what should i do..? lol no way in hell are you ready for a relationship |
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![]() Ley <3 ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 579 Joined: Jul 2008 Member No: 664,894 ![]() |
Im the type of girl who gets jealous VERY easily.. its just REALLY upsetting when he treats me so different compared to everyone else.. because we're " close " so its okay to be a bit rude to each other sometimes.. but sometimes when i see him SO nice to other girls.. it makes me really upset & at that moment i don't realize that its because we're just so much closer.. what should i do..? T______T being friends with him hurts me so much.. but every time i'm upset & i ignore him or act rudely to him i end up being upset at myself for being mean to him..i always tell myself that i wont answer his messages on MSN but when he does do it.. i cant help but give in T_____T is it really THAT hard being friends with someone you like so much.. Ok, so not trying to sound rude but it seems your the one making it difficult. So yall talked alot..dont all friends? You asked him and he said he didn't like you so just let it go. Its all in your head, you making all these little situations up. Be cool and be his friend. |
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![]() Sarcastic Mr. Know-It-All ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 2,089 Joined: Dec 2003 Member No: 29 ![]() |
HE HATES YOU BECAUSE YOU USE T______T
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![]() Senior Member ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 550 Joined: Mar 2007 Member No: 509,557 ![]() |
Well i've been there, still there, haha. Honestly, maybe he just doesn't want to cross that line? I mean my bestfriend he's amazing, and like he liked me at first, but I chose someone else. and we became really good friends and then I wanted to be with him after I got out of a relationship and he said it was bad timing. But everytime I bring up us, he doesn't say much he just changes the topic or he tells me if we're meant to be it'll happen. Best thing you can do is, cherish your friendship. Or ask him straight up and don't let him avoid it.
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![]() ◕ ◡ ◕ ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Official Member Posts: 4,779 Joined: Jun 2006 Member No: 416,697 ![]() |
get a puppy
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