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[AlmostJDM]

And yet another bestfriend crush thread. I feel this is a more complicated situation though so i took the liberty of trying to explain some stuff first. Now before i say anything, I'm extremly overprotective of her. I don't want anything bad to happen to her. I would do anything for her if she needed it also. But also, I want to know what she is thinking before just coming out and telling her how i feel.

I didn't plan on having any crushes nor do we ever. I went most of my first year of college without one. Then comes along this girl- Kelly; I was extremely sprung over for her throughout most of the second semester. I hung out with her friends to try and get closer to her, complimented her, etc. everything to try and make her get the hint. it didn't work to say the least. she ends making out in front of me to make me jealous..

During all this, a friendship between me and a girl i graduated from high school with started to from. we hung out the entire year and still do to this day. when this incident with Kelly was going on she basically told me how to handle this situation being a girl and all. All that blew over and what not.

My high school buddy is a bit more experienced than me. She dated this guy for a few years and ended with a bad break up, came to college and had a crush on one of my teammates who isn't the most trustworthy person when comes to relationships from my observations. I didn't want to interfer with her love life, but then she began asking me stuff about him and how he is so i told her. eventually she stopped liking him after i told her what i felt. with this she began asking me about other guys and what we think about-of course i told her. From there we talked about relationships and our problems with the opposite sex. we became good friends.

We were at a party one night and one of my boys told me he was crushing on her. thinking he was a good guy and wouldn't hurt her i set them up. a few weeks later they were together, but ended up breaking up because he felt drugs were more important. the problem with this is, when they were together i began developing feelings for her...

NOW

Signs that make me think she wants to be more than friends

-See's me at a party. i'm getting ready to leave and she begs me to stay. then call me at 2:30 in the morning just to talk. compliments me on my appearance that night.

-Randomly calls me one day after swimming. compliments me on my looks and attepmts to make plans with me.

-Asks me to come apply for a job where she works. as i'm getting ready to leave, she questions me about it as if she wants me to stay around the job. then says 'you can text me later if you like'

-Invites me out for icecream. brags to her friends about me and the stuff we've been through up at school. brings up old crushes i've had in the past.

-Always tells me how 'amazing i am and any woman would be lucky to have me'

-Calls me names like 'love', 'babe', and 'lover boy'

Things that confuse me

-I text her sometimes and she doesn't respond

-Messages me on facebook and apologizes for not texting me. The same night, i text her goodnight and she doesn't respond

-Texts me and we engage in conversation and she radomly stops texting

-Hear from her every few days, but not everyday.

-Calls me 'man'

My beliefs are that if you like someone to give them as much attention so that they get the hint, but i could be wrong. Any thoughts?

[sixfive]

[emberfly]

Hit it then quit it.

[gojira]

LOL

why don't you just approach her? there may be a chance she feels the same way but speaking from her point of view, her actions may be just out of friendship. i have tendency to tell all my good guy friends that any girl would be lucky to have them, yet i know in my heart, i couldn't be in love with them.

[brooklyneast05]

for real, if she's a close friend it should be no big deal to approach her about it. that's like the whole advantage of this situation happening with someone you already know well.

[ley]

Signs that make me think she wants to be more than friends

[color="#4B0082"]-See's me at a party. i'm getting ready to leave and she begs me to stay. then call me at 2:30 in the morning just to talk. compliments me on my appearance that night.

-Randomly calls me one day after swimming. compliments me on my looks and attepmts to make plans with me.

-Asks me to come apply for a job where she works. as i'm getting ready to leave, she questions me about it as if she wants me to stay around the job. then says 'you can text me later if you like'

-Invites me out for icecream. brags to her friends about me and the stuff we've been through up at school. brings up old crushes i've had in the past.

-Always tells me how 'amazing i am and any woman would be lucky to have me'

-Calls me names like 'love', 'babe', and 'lover boy'

I do almost all this stuff with all of my guy friends.

[AlmostJDM]

for real, if she's a close friend it should be no big deal to approach her about it. that's like the whole advantage of this situation happening with someone you already know well.

The only problem with that is if i did decide to go ahed with it, there's the possiblity that she may feel that i can't seperate my feelings from our friendship and potentially ruining it. i understand this which is why i'm so tense about saying anything to her although there was this one time i made a joke about it, which leads me to ley's comment.

I do almost all this stuff with all of my guy friends.

We were talking about her situation with my friend. and she says something about it not working out. I said if all else fails we could date jokingly of course. she responds by saying she doesn't deserve me....?

[gojira]

from what i see, you're already having trouble separating your feelings if you think her actions cross the friendship line. you may fear that confessing your feelings might ruin your friendship, but you gotta weigh in what's worse, wondering 'what if' for rest of your life or possibly ruining a friendship. if she doesn't want to date you, then just move on.

[sixfive]

why are you taking advice from these people? you should be asking people who continually score with the ladies, like tung, or shanaynay

[iGio]

And yet another bestfriend crush thread. I feel this is a more complicated situation though so i took the liberty of trying to explain some stuff first. Now before i say anything, I'm extremly overprotective of her. I don't want anything bad to happen to her. I would do anything for her if she needed it also. But also, I want to know what she is thinking before just coming out and telling her how i feel.

I didn't plan on having any crushes nor do we ever. I went most of my first year of college without one. Then comes along this girl- Kelly; I was extremely sprung over for her throughout most of the second semester. I hung out with her friends to try and get closer to her, complimented her, etc. everything to try and make her get the hint. it didn't work to say the least. she ends making out in front of me to make me jealous..

During all this, a friendship between me and a girl i graduated from high school with started to from. we hung out the entire year and still do to this day. when this incident with Kelly was going on she basically told me how to handle this situation being a girl and all. All that blew over and what not.

My high school buddy is a bit more experienced than me. She dated this guy for a few years and ended with a bad break up, came to college and had a crush on one of my teammates who isn't the most trustworthy person when comes to relationships from my observations. I didn't want to interfer with her love life, but then she began asking me stuff about him and how he is so i told her. eventually she stopped liking him after i told her what i felt. with this she began asking me about other guys and what we think about-of course i told her. From there we talked about relationships and our problems with the opposite sex. we became good friends.

We were at a party one night and one of my boys told me he was crushing on her. thinking he was a good guy and wouldn't hurt her i set them up. a few weeks later they were together, but ended up breaking up because he felt drugs were more important. the problem with this is, when they were together i began developing feelings for her...

NOW

Signs that make me think she wants to be more than friends

-See's me at a party. i'm getting ready to leave and she begs me to stay. then call me at 2:30 in the morning just to talk. compliments me on my appearance that night.

-Randomly calls me one day after swimming. compliments me on my looks and attepmts to make plans with me.

-Asks me to come apply for a job where she works. as i'm getting ready to leave, she questions me about it as if she wants me to stay around the job. then says 'you can text me later if you like'

-Invites me out for icecream. brags to her friends about me and the stuff we've been through up at school. brings up old crushes i've had in the past.

-Always tells me how 'amazing i am and any woman would be lucky to have me'

-Calls me names like 'love', 'babe', and 'lover boy'

Things that confuse me

-I text her sometimes and she doesn't respond

-Messages me on facebook and apologizes for not texting me. The same night, i text her goodnight and she doesn't respond

-Texts me and we engage in conversation and she radomly stops texting

-Hear from her every few days, but not everyday.

-Calls me 'man'

My beliefs are that if you like someone to give them as much attention so that they get the hint, but i could be wrong. Any thoughts?

Sometimes friends don't want to cross that line, in this case I could be wrong. Maybe it's just that you're a really close friend to her that she wants you to be around her and things like that or she secretly likes you as much as you like her. I think the best thing you can do is just sit her aside and maybe just tell her how you feel because signals can be misleading.

[iExquisite]

Hit it then quit it.

worst advice ever
ridiculous!

[ley]

We were talking about her situation with my friend. and she says something about it not working out. I said if all else fails we could date jokingly of course. she responds by saying she doesn't deserve me....?

You said it yourself you were joking. She doesn't deserve you could mean anything. I would take it as your a good friend, always there for her and what not.

[fameONE]

One of my best friends is, in my opinion, absolutely beautiful, extremely sexy, funny, down to earth and unquestionably loyal. She and I are physically attracted to each other and its obvious. But we're also smart enough not to cross those lines until we're ready for something more than our already close friendship. Sometimes it pays to put it on the table, if she's truly your friend, she'll assess the situation without "freaking out" and pushing you away.

[DoubleJ]

^this

Plus...you don't want to press too hard and freak the girl out. Also if you two get involved make sure that it is worth it, because you don't want to lose a good friend if things go sour.

[kinkieone]

I do alot of the things to my guy friends that you listed that make you think this girl likes you. I honestly have to agree with the people who say to just talk to her. Two people can spend forever tiptoe-ing around the subject and wind up missing out. If she's really your friend she'll stick around after you tell her how you feel, just as a few people have said.
As B said, you can have amazing chemistry with someone and make the decision to not act on it. Having everything in the clear will make you feel better and may even strengthen your relationship. The longer you continue being confused you could wind up messing up the friendship by distancing yourself without meaning to.

Just talk to her!

[heyo-captain-jac...]

Sometimes friends don't want to cross that line, in this case I could be wrong. Maybe it's just that you're a really close friend to her that she wants you to be around her and things like that or she secretly likes you as much as you like her. I think the best thing you can do is just sit her aside and maybe just tell her how you feel because signals can be misleading.

Thanks for quoting that massive wall of text.

[smash]

for real, if she's a close friend it should be no big deal to approach her about it. that's like the whole advantage of this situation happening with someone you already know well.

One of my best friends is, in my opinion, absolutely beautiful, extremely sexy, funny, down to earth and unquestionably loyal. She and I are physically attracted to each other and its obvious. But we're also smart enough not to cross those lines until we're ready for something more than our already close friendship. Sometimes it pays to put it on the table, if she's truly your friend, she'll assess the situation without "freaking out" and pushing you away.

both of these are good. sounds to me like you two would be just fine if y'all decide to make the transition into a romantic relationship. i would say take it slowly and talk things through but it seems like you've got that part down. just some insight about the not responding to your text messages: it could have nothing to do with you. she may have been dealing with someone that upset her and she just didn't feel like talking. that's just a thought.