Can I get some answers? Options

[dpl313]

I'm lost. Ok. It all started back in February. I started talking to this girl through a friend. We went out the 1st time, and it seemed ok. She said she wanted to hangout again. I was starting to gain interest in her. I told her, and on vday she gave me the let's be friends bs speech. We went out again a month later. During the 2nd date she mentioned this guy. He gave her a coat and some car parts previously, and she wouldn't stfu about this guy. It just made the atmosphere of the moment really awkward.

I tried making the effort to hangout with her, but she blew me off. So I cut off contact with her. I tried and tried to cut off contact with her. Finally I stopped thinking about her. Anytime someone mentioned her to me I was just disgusted. But then early Summer I was going through my day and I started thinking about her again. I called her, and she was happy to hear from me.

We went out again. I was looking forward to this, and I told her that. Once I told her that she told me it was just as friends. I was ok with it. I thought ok at least I'm going to spend time with her. So we were hanging out and I told her I still wanted to be with her. I was going to wait, because she told me she didn't want a relationship with anyone at the time. The way she acted when we went out was like she was over this dude. She said she wanted to hangout again, but everytime I turned around she was "busy." Then she didn't return my phone calls.

So I left it alone because I moved to a new state. Earlier this month we talked on aim, and we had a long convo. She told me how she had feelings for the dude that bought her those stupid gifts. We argued, because I felt like she was using me as a tv dinner option. She didn't even argue that. I just pointed out how she was wishy washy. One minute she acts like can't stand this guy and the next minute.

We talked again on aim today. I realized I still got some feelings for her. I asked her what's going on with her and the guy, and she said...

Me: What's going on with that guy you're chasing?
Her: It's a thing.
Me: A thing
Her: We're in an unofficial relationship. No need to rush anything. Haha.

When she said that I just made up a story about me turning a girl down. Just at the hopes that she'd get jealous. All she did was ask me why did I turn the girl down. I'm just confused. Was she telling me this to get me jealous? If you were in my shoes would you stop talking to this girl? I noticed I'm not even sad about this. I'm just really angry. I feel like I invested time for nothing. Just to be option b at best. It's making me think more and more. Do you have to be a douche bag to get the girl?