We walk alone, we walk alone, Off to college! |
We walk alone, we walk alone, Off to college! |
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![]() Newbie ![]() Group: Member Posts: 7 Joined: Jan 2009 Member No: 707,195 ![]() |
Sorry for the Topic Title, UnderOath is stuck in my head.
Well here's my deal-io: My boyfriend and I have been together for a year in a half by now, and unfortuantly I'm a Senior and he's a Junior (in high school). Thing is I'll be going off to college which wouldn't be too far from where I live, I'm taking the cheap way out of dorms and staying at my house. He's so uneasy about it, I've tried talking to him about it because we both know it's going happen. Now I'm not saying I'm putting my life on hold for him, because that's just stupid. What bugs me is that he keeps avoiding the 'college' topic whenever we have the chance to talk about it, its getting on my nerve and he's being very immature about everything. I understand it's going to be hard without us pda-ing 24/7 at school anymore, but he expects me too take a year off before going to college (which were my original plans before I really thought about it) But I can't just not do anything for one year and wait for him to get out of school everyday. We don't even have plans on going to the same college. I think we could make this relationship work if he'd just listen, yeah dig? Idk what's your opinion? ![]() |
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![]() Senior Member ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Administrator Posts: 8,629 Joined: Jan 2007 Member No: 498,468 ![]() |
It's obviously bothering him if he keeps avoiding the subject but sooner or later you guys will have to talk about it. Just sit down with him & really talk to him about it. As for taking a year off because he wants you to is stupid, imo. You'll be wasting a year while you could be getting ahead with school. If he really loves you, he'll let you do your thing, right? And you can probably make your schedule so that when he's in school, you're in school. Then you can spend all afternoon together. So tell him to stop being such a big baby & deal with it.
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![]() DDR \\ I'm Dee :) ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Mentor Posts: 8,662 Joined: Mar 2006 Member No: 384,020 ![]() |
I think your head is in the right place. I know too many people who put their education on hold for someone. I think you need to let him know how important it is that you go to college and also stress to him that it's just a different school and that you will be still living with your parents. Let him know he only that will change is your schedule and where you go to school. It might take him a while to adjust, but eventually it will happen. It's an important time in both your lives (him being a senior and you starting college), even though it's two different things you can both enjoy them together.
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![]() The Resident Drunk ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Head Staff Posts: 8,623 Joined: Nov 2007 Member No: 593,266 ![]() |
I agree with dee. I might take it a step further though and maybe propose that you two take a break from being together so much when fall semester comes around. With him Getting ready for sat's, and you being in your first semester, some time apart may make y'all closer in the long run.
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![]() I love my babyboy ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 88 Joined: Aug 2005 Member No: 210,367 ![]() |
My boyfriend and I have been together for a year in a half by now, and unfortuantly I'm a Senior and he's a Junior (in high school). Thing is I'll be going off to college which wouldn't be too far from where I live, I'm taking the cheap way out of dorms and staying at my house. He's so uneasy about it, I've tried talking to him about it because we both know it's going happen. Now I'm not saying I'm putting my life on hold for him, because that's just stupid. What bugs me is that he keeps avoiding the 'college' topic whenever we have the chance to talk about it, its getting on my nerve and he's being very immature about everything. I understand it's going to be hard without us pda-ing 24/7 at school anymore, but he expects me too take a year off before going to college (which were my original plans before I really thought about it) But I can't just not do anything for one year and wait for him to get out of school everyday. We don't even have plans on going to the same college. I think we could make this relationship work if he'd just listen, yeah dig? Idk what's your opinion? ![]() You have to go to college whether he can deal with it or not, he'll be there in a year and beside, college kids have way more time off than HS kids, so PDA in the streets and not in front of your locker. Tell him you'll be with him every moment that you can and if hes allowed to come to your house, tell him to come over all the time. My "bf" and I won't be going to college together, he still has to get out of HS, but he has to deal with it and Im going to another state. He knows I love him, and I wouldn't cheat (well, lol) at least not sexually he can come see me. I always drop things to be with him even now I do that, so your bf will understand if you put him up on a thrown. |
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Senior Member ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 113 Joined: Dec 2008 Member No: 704,636 ![]() |
Yo if your man can't stand you going to college then you should flip him the bird cause he be denying you of your education and that's messed up man that ain't cool
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*BOSS* |
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you said hes immature so why are you taking his advice
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![]() Senior Member ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 4,665 Joined: Aug 2008 Member No: 676,364 ![]() |
Which comes first:
Education or Love? I agree with Dee. You need the education. He can always wait for you, if he really loves you. If he doesn't you can get relationships anytime. Even at your new campus. ![]() |
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![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 7,020 Joined: May 2008 Member No: 653,768 ![]() |
dont worry yall will probably go separate ways so you might as well cheat on him thats what i did and i couldnt be happier with my decision. it ended up ending anyway and that just means i got that much more ass, and now im getting ass from several people every week and they dont know damn im so lucky
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Newbie ![]() Group: Member Posts: 3 Joined: Feb 2009 Member No: 714,342 ![]() |
When you started your relationship, ( being a year apart ) you know this was going to happen. A year and a half later, your still going to college shouldn't change anything. Tell him that communication in a relationship is very important and you need to talk about this. Come to a compromise. Your still going to have weekends off together and college isnt like highschool a set time. You can pick the classes on how you want them scheduled. Your still going to be with your parents. Maybe he need to be assured that nothing going to change between you guys. hope it works out for the best.
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