butterfudge nuts!, I hate him! Options

[ilikeyerrpants]

My ex boyfriend and I went out for almost a year on and off. We were in love and we planning to be married. I asked for a small break because I needed more time to spend on my school studies and I wouldn't have much time at all to spend with him considering I work as well as go to school. Well, about a month later, I find out he's talking to this girl named Krista, who's also my friend. Well, we had also been talking about getting back together and he said he truly believed I was the one for him and he still wanted to marry me. So when I found out that he was thinking about dating Krista, I told him that I was done with him for good and that I never wanted to talk to him ever again, and for him to never speak, text, or think of me again! That this was it! Well, that has been about a month or so ago, and just last night he texted me.. Any ideas why?

[batman]

I think you probably rushed into things when you decided to cut him out of your life.

Well, I also think taking breaks are stupid. If you've gotta focus on your schoolwork, why do you also have to push your relationships aside? I never tell my mom, "hey, Mom, I gotta focus on homework, so you wont be my mom for the next month, k?" It's ridiculous. Do you take breaks from your friendships as well?

I, personally, don't think he's in the wrong.

That's just me, though.

[Castaway]

I agree ^ with the breaks. If one person is busy with school work.. then they should go ahead and focus on it. No need to break up.. a couple doesn't have to hang out every single day. taking a break is a sign of weakness in the relationship most of the time.


i think you two rushed in the relationship.
Almost a year? On and off?
So you two basically went out for less than 12 months and it was on and off and within that period, you two decided to get married. Did he propose? (ok that doesn't matter)
But what made you guys go on and off anyways? I think you two fell for each other too hard (which is fine if that's how you two felt) but i think you two should've given it a lot more time before deciding on getting married.

[ilikeyerrpants]

I think you probably rushed into things when you decided to cut him out of your life.

Well, I also think taking breaks are stupid. If you've gotta focus on your schoolwork, why do you also have to push your relationships aside? I never tell my mom, "hey, Mom, I gotta focus on homework, so you wont be my mom for the next month, k?" It's ridiculous. Do you take breaks from your friendships as well?

I, personally, don't think he's in the wrong.

That's just me, though.

I do see your point. I just thought I was doing the right thing, you know, what was best for me.

[disasterx87]

I think you probably rushed into things when you decided to cut him out of your life.

Well, I also think taking breaks are stupid. If you've gotta focus on your schoolwork, why do you also have to push your relationships aside? I never tell my mom, "hey, Mom, I gotta focus on homework, so you wont be my mom for the next month, k?" It's ridiculous. Do you take breaks from your friendships as well?

I, personally, don't think he's in the wrong.

That's just me, though.

100% agreement.

[LittleMissSunshi...]

i believed he texted you because he misses you. obviously you guys have been together for like almost a year. and just because he was "thinking" about dating girl, doesn't mean he was going too.. you obviously jumped into conclusion cause your just stressed out. you really need to decide if you want to be with him.

[fameONE]

Fool. How dare you be so carelessly selfish! A man will stand by you throughout thick and thin, even if it means seeing less of you. Giving him the boot so you can handle your 'oh-so-stressful' life drove him into another woman's box. It's your fault. Oh, but you're in luck, silly girl! Him texting you just may be an attempt to give it another shot. Don't f*ck it up.

[carolannexbh]

^ So true.

I think you probably rushed into things when you decided to cut him out of your life.

Well, I also think taking breaks are stupid. If you've gotta focus on your schoolwork, why do you also have to push your relationships aside? I never tell my mom, "hey, Mom, I gotta focus on homework, so you wont be my mom for the next month, k?" It's ridiculous. Do you take breaks from your friendships as well?

I, personally, don't think he's in the wrong.

That's just me, though.

I would have to fully agree 100%. Breaks imo are pointless because they don't work.