In need of a pointer Options

[dpl313]

I've been dating this girl for a month now. Things are great. I was going to leave and move back home. But because of her I'm staying. I feel great when I'm with her. I feel great when I'm around her. Because we have a great friendship, but there's feelings there too. We know it and we aren't denying it. It's crazy because we have so much in common. I've never met anyone like her. I'm just wowed when I'm with her and I already know she feels the same way.

Point being though. She has relationship experience and I don't. But she's never held hands with a guy before. I'm not really good at this sort of thing. Idk what to do. How does it work. Do I just grab her hand while we're walking? Or do I just suggest holding hands?

[Reidar]

This is a very good question. If you're poorly versed in hand-to-hand etiquette, the female may reject you as a mate and leave for other pastures.

When you are walking alongside her, begin to excrete your scent musk as a forward to her. If she doesn't turn away, maneuver the hand adjacent to hers into the neighboring palm. If you use the opposite appendage, you'll have to reach across your torso, which is a common beginner error.

Now begins the entwining process. Curl your thumb around hers (if you are unsure about which one you're reaching for, look down for a cue) and feel for any positive signs of acknowledgment from her. If she doesn't mace you (speaking from experience, this is a common response, so don't think you did anything wrong), then carefully put your index finger into position. Continue accordingly with each finger. If you want to impress her, you can mix things up by altering the order of reticulation. By this, I mean that rather than, say, leading with your thumb and following up with the consecutive finger, you can keep it interesting by using your middle finger before the index. This is an advanced method, though, so only attempt it once you have some experience, but when mastered, she will be driven into utter heat.

Once the entirety of the hand is clasped, exert just enough pressure to keep hers in yours comfortably, but not so much that the bones in her hand are fractured. I still do this by accident to this day, so don't be lax with your attentiveness.

[Harp]

If I were you, I would grab her hand at a random moment.
Or when you guys are just walking, grab it.
I wouldn't suggest you suggesting to hold hands...that may sound a little creepy.

Don't do it at a moment when you feel awkward.
Just go with the flow :D

[Castaway]

If I were you, I would grab her hand at a random moment.
Or when you guys are just walking, grab it.
I wouldn't suggest you suggesting to hold hands...that may sound a little creepy.

Don't do it at a moment when you feel awkward.
Just go with the flow :D

i totally agree.
don't be nervous about it either.

[applejaxkz]

Don't be nervous, just be yourself. She obviously likes you for who you are so relax. It's when you get yourself really tense and nervous, is when you do embarrassing things. Just grab her hand and take control. You'll be fine.

[yaamakoh]

This is a very good question. If you're poorly versed in hand-to-hand etiquette, the female may reject you as a mate and leave for other pastures.

When you are walking alongside her, begin to excrete your scent musk as a forward to her. If she doesn't turn away, maneuver the hand adjacent to hers into the neighboring palm. If you use the opposite appendage, you'll have to reach across your torso, which is a common beginner error.

Now begins the entwining process. Curl your thumb around hers (if you are unsure about which one you're reaching for, look down for a cue) and feel for any positive signs of acknowledgment from her. If she doesn't mace you (speaking from experience, this is a common response, so don't think you did anything wrong), then carefully put your index finger into position. Continue accordingly with each finger. If you want to impress her, you can mix things up by altering the order of reticulation. By this, I mean that rather than, say, leading with your thumb and following up with the consecutive finger, you can keep it interesting by using your middle finger before the index. This is an advanced method, though, so only attempt it once you have some experience, but when mastered, she will be driven into utter heat.

Once the entirety of the hand is clasped, exert just enough pressure to keep hers in yours comfortably, but not so much that the bones in her hand are fractured. I still do this by accident to this day, so don't be lax with your attentiveness.

That was awesome.

Or you can be creative. When you see her give her a hug, then right afterwards hold her hand and say, "cmon, we're going to be late", or something of that nature. Or if you drive stick, tell her to put her hand on top of your hand while you're gripping the shift knob, that way she can experience the feeling of changing gears... most girls have fun with that.

Or maybe I just had weird experiences...

[LittleMissSunshi...]

Reidar, that was really a good specific explanation! you know your stuff xD! but i agree with others and Reidar.. beee SPONTANEOUS! (;

[Smarmosaur]

Reidar, that was really a good specific explanation! you know your stuff xD! but i agree with others and Reidar.. beee SPONTANEOUS! (;

spontaneous! definitely. girls would kill for a spontaneous guy. whether you're walking or sitting or doing whatever...just grab it. or if it's a quiet moment be like "i think i want to hold your hand" and grab it before she has a chance to move or say no. this assures her that you're confident. :]

[Joss-eh-lime]

This is a very good question. If you're poorly versed in hand-to-hand etiquette, the female may reject you as a mate and leave for other pastures.

that made me laugh!


im not good at holding hands. last time i did it, it felt awkward, cuz the boy didnt commit to it. meaning like he wasnt really that into it. idk i guess i would say do it when it wont be uncomfortable to be holding hands.

[Castaway]

that made me laugh!
im not good at holding hands. last time i did it, it felt awkward, cuz the boy didnt commit to it. meaning like he wasnt really that into it. idk i guess i would say do it when it wont be uncomfortable to be holding hands.

Yep.
Example:
You two start walking for 3mins without holding hands. Then all of a sudden u grab her hand.

awkward.

[batman]

I've been dating this girl for a month now. Things are great. I was going to leave and move back home. But because of her I'm staying. I feel great when I'm with her. I feel great when I'm around her. Because we have a great friendship, but there's feelings there too. We know it and we aren't denying it. It's crazy because we have so much in common. I've never met anyone like her. I'm just wowed when I'm with her and I already know she feels the same way.

Point being though. She has relationship experience and I don't. But she's never held hands with a guy before. I'm not really good at this sort of thing. Idk what to do. How does it work. Do I just grab her hand while we're walking? Or do I just suggest holding hands?

SO HOW DID YOU HOLD HER HAND HUH?

[hypnotique]

[alohacaligirl]

I think you should just grab her hands, it's not that big of a deal.

[staardust]

If I were you, I would grab her hand at a random moment.
Or when you guys are just walking, grab it.
I wouldn't suggest you suggesting to hold hands...that may sound a little creepy.

Don't do it at a moment when you feel awkward.
Just go with the flow :D

LOL it's like 'uhhhh...shakjshrkajshas....UHHH do you wanna hold hands.'
girl: "uhhhh o_O sure......."

[staardust]

Yep.
Example:
You two start walking for 3mins without holding hands. Then all of a sudden u grab her hand.

awkward.

nah, just incredibly sexy

[staardust]

btw if you're nervous, really nervous, visualize yourself beginning to hold her hand, so you won't mess up or feel too nervous.