I can't just be friends with him anymore |
 Aug 20 2008, 12:01 AM
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Senior Member  Group: Validating Posts: 60 Joined: May 2005 Member No: 134,567  |
I told one of my very close guy friends I liked him a few weeks back.
We've been really close, but he said he didn't like me like that ANYMORE. Lately we've been hanging out constantly, texting from when we wake up until we go to bed, and within the last couple days we've been cuddling, holding hands, and flirting way more in public. I already told him I liked him once and got shot down, what should I do? I don't want to bring it up AGAIN and make him feel bad or anything, but I like him so much and we already act like we're dating. I want to be more than just friends with him. Help? |
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Aug 20 2008, 12:10 AM
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 DDR \\ I'm Dee :) Group: Mentor Posts: 8,662 Joined: Mar 2006 Member No: 384,020 |
Well, I think it's pretty clear from the way that he is acting that he does still have some interest in you. If you're the only person that he acts like that with, then I'd say why not go for it. If he does turn you down, then I'd suggest you cut your losses and not let him mess with your head anymore.
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Aug 20 2008, 12:18 AM
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 poison Group: Official Member Posts: 4,806 Joined: Mar 2008 Member No: 629,020 |
Just give it time. Guys can be confusing.
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Sep 1 2008, 10:27 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 388 Joined: Aug 2008 Member No: 682,013 |
Its sounding like 'friends with benefits'..you should let him know whats up and talk about it...don't wanna get led on and start building feelings and don't know whats going on between you two...
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Sep 1 2008, 10:39 PM
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 asdfghjkl; Group: Official Designer Posts: 1,121 Joined: Jul 2008 Member No: 665,416 |
Tell him that if he likes you then admit it, &if he doesn't end this. End all the flirting &all that. If he doesn't like you, then he's just leading you on, to well, nowhere. So, forget him if that's what his intentions are.
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Sep 1 2008, 11:35 PM
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 Cornflakes :D Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 4,541 Joined: Dec 2005 Member No: 322,923 |
So you guys have been hanging out constantly and stuff since you got shot down? I think that's a little weird, perhaps he's formed feelings for you again, or he feels bad and is trying to make up for it by being really close to you.
Personally I would be kind of distant from him, because I've seen situations like this that go sour. I would confront him, and just say "hey, we've been really close recently and you told me a few weeks ago that you didn't like me anymore, and not I'm just getting mixed feelings and I would really appreciate it if you were honest with me and told me how you felt about me." |
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Sep 2 2008, 06:01 PM
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 That's what she said. Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 3,559 Joined: Apr 2005 Member No: 130,200 |
There's no harm in bringing it up if he returns your affection. I think you should talk to him about it and get the guts to take it to the next level officially. And if he turns you down, pfft, dump that, he shouldn't be playing with your feelings like that.
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Sep 2 2008, 08:16 PM
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 Mais je ne l'aime pas Group: Member Posts: 971 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 108,135 |
Don't get sucked into a "friends with benefits" situation because you will be the one who ends up getting hurt.
He's sending mixed messages if he's holding your hand and flirting with you but saying that he doesn't like you anymore. Don't play that game. Let him know that if he wants you, he needs to be fully committed. All or nothing. You shouldn't be playing with your emotions like this. |
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Sep 2 2008, 08:45 PM
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 Fellatio. Group: Official Member Posts: 2,122 Joined: Mar 2007 Member No: 511,775 |
He just doesn't want to admit that he likes you, because he doesn't wanna be in a relationship.
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