Should we get back together? HELP! asap! |
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 Jul 8 2008, 11:53 AM
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My boyfriend and I have been dating for 2 months and I broke up with him last night. I really don't know why..but it just seems like he isn't interesting enough or something. In a way I really want to still be with him but then I don't. I think we were both a little bored. I'm the type of person that talks alot and hes the type that isnt. When we would kiss and everything it was great but it just seems we were lacking in the talking and having fun part. Should I call him and get back together with him? He keeps calling me wanting to know if theres anythign he can change and I tell him I dont know and that i dont want him to change who he is for me because its wrong.
I need advice! please!!!!!! |
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Jul 8 2008, 12:09 PM
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 James killed the radio star. Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 2,095 Joined: Nov 2007 Member No: 589,855 |
To put it bluntly, if you're bored after 2 months, then you really do not have a long term future. Better to keep things broken off for now then try again and dissapoint him/yourself in a month's time, or whatever.
If you find you still have feelings for him in a few months or so, then maybe thing about getting back together. |
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Jul 8 2008, 03:33 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 35 Joined: Jul 2008 Member No: 664,193 |
Tell him exactly what you said in your post, and who knows.
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Jul 8 2008, 04:50 PM
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Banned Group: Banned Posts: 700 Joined: Jun 2008 Member No: 658,432 |
How about you grow the f**k up first?
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Jul 8 2008, 05:37 PM
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 never settle for less than what you deserve. Group: Member Posts: 485 Joined: Dec 2005 Member No: 328,920 |
well you guys are still in the starting/getting to know each other stage still. probably you guys need to talk about your hobbies and what not or find something you guys could do together. but i kinda agree the march hare, whatever you feel whats right --youll figure it out.
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Jul 8 2008, 07:35 PM
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Well it's not like I don't know him though...we have been talking since January..but we didn't start officially dating until May. It just seems like I need a different kind of guy or something. He's just really simple...and I'm not like that. Yeah, I know that I could get back with him and just see how it goes but I hate having to breakup with him because I know hes really upset. We were on a break once for like 3 days and he was horrible. His brother said he wouldn't even get out of bed. I just think that I'm not feeling like I should..I never miss him..and I don't really like talking to him on the phone. I love takling on the phone..just not with him. He's boring!
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Jul 8 2008, 07:46 PM
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If you dont have fun with him its not worth it... i have only had fun with one of my hundreds of boyfriends... and guess who ive been with the longest??? him... haha...
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Jul 8 2008, 07:53 PM
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 DDR \\ I'm Dee :) Group: Mentor Posts: 8,662 Joined: Mar 2006 Member No: 384,020 |
Honestly, you guys might be better off as friends. You've been talking with him since January and if he was boring to you then you wouldn't have kept talking to him let alone date him. Maybe you expected something different when you guys started dating, and if isn't that for you then maybe you should explain that to him. It has only been two months, and I think it's good that you're realizing this now, rather than two years down the road. Talk with him about it. I'm sure he'll understand.
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Jul 8 2008, 08:28 PM
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 <(^_^<) DANCE!(>^_^)> Group: Official Member Posts: 1,304 Joined: Nov 2007 Member No: 586,621 |
just be honest and tell him how you feel. if you both agree that things can and will work out and are both willing to give it a chance then go for it, if not then just stay friends. just talk it out and see what happens, although i agree ^ that it seems like you might just be better off as friends.
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Jul 9 2008, 12:14 PM
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never settle for less than what you deserve. Group: Member Posts: 485 Joined: Dec 2005 Member No: 328,920 |
QUOTE(Heartourbeat @ Jul 8 2008, 05:35 PM)  Well it's not like I don't know him though...we have been talking since January..but we didn't start officially dating until May. It just seems like I need a different kind of guy or something. He's just really simple...and I'm not like that. Yeah, I know that I could get back with him and just see how it goes but I hate having to breakup with him because I know hes really upset. We were on a break once for like 3 days and he was horrible. His brother said he wouldn't even get out of bed. I just think that I'm not feeling like I should..I never miss him..and I don't really like talking to him on the phone. I love takling on the phone..just not with him. He's boring! okay so you already know him and all that. but i think you already have the answer and the atitude youre giving off just shows it...just dont get back together with him. youre basically not INTO him, period. i mean its totally normal when anybody breaks up to have both sides or one person from that relationship to feel like shit, ya know? so i know you feel bad for a small amount just because he's down in the dumps about it. but youre not feeling bad as in the "i miss him and i shouldnt have done that" type of thing. i mean he needs to understand that yeah your heart, feelings, and mind are all hurt real badlly right now but it'll take time for him to get over it. i think the real reason why he feels butthurt about it is because he's gotten so comfortable w/ you by being in a relationship and that now you guys are broken up..it's something new and its a change. id reccommend you guys not get back together, in time if that ever happens again where you guys are getting your feelings back and theyre stronger then go ahead and start it up again. but for now, you both need time to yourselves. |
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Jul 9 2008, 01:28 PM
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Member Group: Member Posts: 18 Joined: Feb 2008 Member No: 620,027 |
QUOTE(StubbornFemme @ Jul 9 2008, 01:14 PM) okay so you already know him and all that. but i think you already have the answer and the atitude youre giving off just shows it...just dont get back together with him. youre basically not INTO him, period. i mean its totally normal when anybody breaks up to have both sides or one person from that relationship to feel like shit, ya know? so i know you feel bad for a small amount just because he's down in the dumps about it. but youre not feeling bad as in the "i miss him and i shouldnt have done that" type of thing. i mean he needs to understand that yeah your heart, feelings, and mind are all hurt real badlly right now but it'll take time for him to get over it. i think the real reason why he feels butthurt about it is because he's gotten so comfortable w/ you by being in a relationship and that now you guys are broken up..it's something new and its a change. id reccommend you guys not get back together, in time if that ever happens again where you guys are getting your feelings back and theyre stronger then go ahead and start it up again. but for now, you both need time to yourselves. Thank you! this really helped. you're right :] |
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Jul 13 2008, 12:53 PM
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never settle for less than what you deserve. Group: Member Posts: 485 Joined: Dec 2005 Member No: 328,920 |
hehe(: youre very welcome.
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