Advice, Friends with beneifits. |
 Jun 15 2008, 03:44 PM
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I kind of need some advice. Par-say
Me and my best friend have always been something 'more' you know? I was her first everything, and she was mine. We both always had a significant other. Yet me or her, would always still be each other. I'm kind of sort of falling in love with her. And I'm wondering if friends with benefits will ever be anything more than that. Or its it just sex, and comfort when me or her is alone. What do you guys think? 
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Jun 15 2008, 04:11 PM
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I think you guys need to quit whoring it up.
If you are with someone either be with just that person or break up with them, it's not fair to be with your best friend, too. And, if you want to be with her tell her. You'll never know until you try. |
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Jun 15 2008, 05:44 PM
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 yo yo yiggidy yo. Group: Official Member Posts: 1,606 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 108,591 |
awww. thats sweet. lol. the falling for her part.
you probably won't really know if you guys just have each other there or if you guys wanna be together until you guys actually give each other a chance. |
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Jun 15 2008, 07:53 PM
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 DDR \\ I'm Dee :) Group: Mentor Posts: 8,662 Joined: Mar 2006 Member No: 384,020 |
Maybe you should let her know how you feel? If she rejects you, so what, you'll move on. But it's better than you feeling like you're being used and questioning how she feels about you.
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Jun 15 2008, 09:54 PM
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 Cornflakes :D Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 4,541 Joined: Dec 2005 Member No: 322,923 |
See this is the reason why friends with benefits is never a good idea. You need to be honest with her, and if she rejects you, then you had what was coming.
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Jun 15 2008, 09:56 PM
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 /人◕‿‿◕人\ Group: Official Member Posts: 8,283 Joined: Dec 2007 Member No: 602,927 |
Trust me, the title change is going to kill you two. Its happened to me dozens of times, a friend becomes a girlfriend, and we stop talking until we break up.
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Jun 17 2008, 12:14 AM
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 Jake - The Unholy Trinity / Premiscuous Poeteer. Group: Member Posts: 1,272 Joined: May 2006 Member No: 411,316 |
QUOTE(hellosincerelyme @ Jun 15 2008, 04:44 PM)  I kind of need some advice. Par-say Me and my best friend have always been something 'more' you know? I was her first everything, and she was mine. We both always had a significant other. Yet me or her, would always still be each other. I'm kind of sort of falling in love with her. And I'm wondering if friends with benefits will ever be anything more than that. Or its it just sex, and comfort when me or her is alone. What do you guys think? If you can get away with friends with benefits no stings attached, then kudos to you. But it will always end up coming down to that fateful question. I tried it with my best friend, and for some reason she blames it on me all the time, when she first suggested it. So, it's a tricky game my friend. Tricky indeed. |
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Jun 17 2008, 02:32 AM
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 i've never wanted anything rationale. Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 8,449 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 19,045 |
You really can't be BEST friends with benefits. You can't really even be friends with benefits. Once you get into sex, emotions are bound to follow. Meaningless sex, is at best, with someone you don't even know.
My advice, test out the waters and see if she's feeling the same way. Ask her even, straight up, do you see us being more than just hooking up, because I do. Now know that your friendship probably won't be the same after this conversation, especially if she says no but it's better than wondering WHAT IF for the rest of your life. |
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