how to act around your Ex, eeek. Options

[Joss-eh-lime]

so my ex boyfriend is "friends" with some of my friends, so i see him around. we broke up over a month ago, but he was really rude to me a couple weeks ago so i just stopped talking to him completely. Then when he heard i got my license he apologized (after i confronted him about how rude he was) and he wanted to be friends again. I keep him at a distance, but we still talk and I've given him and our mutual friends a couple of rides, but i cant help but feel I'm supposed to be mean towards him, even though most of the time i just want to be nice.

I dont want to be all nice and him be mean to me again. how should i act towards him?
what would you do?

[*absinthe*]

Do they give you gas money?


haha, being me, i probably wouldn't give my rude ex-boyfriend a ride at all.

quick question.why the sudden personality change from him when he found out you got your license? does he drive?

[Joss-eh-lime]

he doesnt drive, we werent talking before he found out i had my licesne, and he and his friend promise me gas money but havent given me any.

[*absinthe*]

Ohhhhhhhh. Ew.
Well, do you think you should be rude to him?
Is he rude to you when you`re nice to him? Yeah, right?

Personally, I probably wouldn't talk to my ex at all unless we were like forced to or something. I don't really see a reason to talk. Unless the break-up was completely mutual and there were no hard feelings whatsoever.

Buuuuut, that's just me.

[Joss-eh-lime]

when im nice he's nice, when i give him the cold shoulder he does the same. i just think hes immature.

[*absinthe*]

Do you think he wants to more than "just friends" again?

[Joss-eh-lime]

i dont know! hahaha
should i ask him?!

[*absinthe*]

haha, i`m not sure. It kind of seems like he likes you (again).

[Joss-eh-lime]

why b/c he is nice when im nice and stuff?
i dont want him to like me like that, i just wanted us to be friends but hes ruining it with his attitude.

[*absinthe*]

Hmmm. Then, just tell him? If I were you, I'd just tell him what you just said.

[Joss-eh-lime]

good idea :)
i think i will.

but im thinkin i wont be giving out rides anymore unless gas money is provided before hand haha

[queen]

treat him like you would treat an aquaintance. no special favors like you would give a close friend, but no need to go out of your way to treat him like shit either. if you two have a mutual agreement to remain "friends" then that is as close as it should get. if you get any closer or "buddy-buddy" with him, you run the risk of maybe falling for him again (or vice versa). if you're with someone new, i suggest just cutting off contact with him altogether, at least long enough to ensure avoidance of unnecessary drama.

[tokyo-rose]

I don't think he likes you again just because he's nice when you're nice. To me, that's him just following your act and not really treating you with the normal, post-breakup respect that you deserve.

But yeah, don't give him any more rides unless he gives you gas money beforehand. The advice synkro gave is good.

[Joss-eh-lime]

i like the idea of treating him like an aquaintance b/c he doesnt deserve any extra effeort on my part whether im being mean or being nice.

[shoryuken]

... .. he onlyy nicee da u cuz u drivee NUB..

[Joss-eh-lime]

^wtf. duh.
of course i knew that.
i was just wondering how to treat him b/c of this...

[Sandraaa]

Sounds like my ex. Ignore the idiot if you can. Like you said, he's friends with your friends so he's actually not your friend.

[shoryuken]

^wtf. duh.
of course i knew that.
i was just wondering how to treat him b/c of this...

eaz... justt say.. u winnaa ride.. 2 dollaa bietch... or 1 dollaa... dun mattaa...

y u hangg withh u exx aniiwaii.. NUB..

[mizzkewl06]

be indifferent. don't show any emotions. don't be friendly or mean, just learn not to care. you don't have to be mean to him but you certainly don't have to be nice to him either. & as expensive as gas is right now... i wouldn't drive him or your mutual friends around unless they're actually putting some money into my hands as they're getting into my car.

[Glamourouz]

be indifferent. don't show any emotions. don't be friendly or mean, just learn not to care. you don't have to be mean to him but you certainly don't have to be nice to him either. & as expensive as gas is right now... i wouldn't drive him or your mutual friends around unless they're actually putting some money into my hands as they're getting into my car.

Exactly...and that means more than 2 bucks a piece...2 bucks won't even get you a gallon these days...don't be a pushover so don't let your ex or your acquaintances get too comfortable...

[Joss-eh-lime]

yeah i've been doing fine being indifferent.

but now he's trying to become friends with my good friends.
paying for her food when we all went somewhere
ew he's just irritating me!

[vintage-toile]

have a word with your friends and let them know its bugging you?
or, show him you're the ex girlfriend he wishes he still had! (which is er...how it seems to be :|!)
and then move on, and go out with some other friends for a while and meet someone knew! just have a bit of fun, and maybe even try to be his friend.
if youre not ready its okay, you could always talk to him about it as well. one to ones are always good because if they say nothing, they will go away knowing theyve madeno effort

[Joss-eh-lime]

i have talked to my friends, and they just want him as a friend regardless of the history between us. but i really like the idea the post above has :]

thanks

[AnnahhbeL]

Hmm, just act normal.

My ex hates me because I broke up with him. Not my fault he called me a liar and a bitch. So it makes sense I broke up with him right? He was basically being abusive and when I broke up with him, he wouldn't accept the fact that I just did.