BrokenHeart, Hurt Options

[Mzhoniedip]

Have anyone ever thought you was in a perfect relationship. Ive been in a relationship for 5 years with this guy and i really love him and we just recently broke up and honestly i dont know what to do...? Help

[AimeeLynn]

Aww hun I'm sorry to hear that.
But just try to move on. You don't need him to complete you. Just hang with your friends and go clubbing =]

[Sprague]

I can't say I can amount to five years yet, so I can't relate all too much, but I've been in a relationship for two years and a half years to have it just go down the drain like that. We were planning on getting married, also. So, in a way, I can relate. I'm sorry for that to have happened. *hugs*

Talking it out with friends seems to work well with most people. Try distracting your mind from it. Every time your thoughts start to wander towards him, immediately think of something else -- completely random, mind. I don't know if this would help for you, but grinding on MMO's really got my mind off of things and it helped me get over the afore-mentioned two year relationship I had. Go out and do things out of the norm that you wouldn't do if you were together with him. Go out with friends, go see a movie, anything that will get your mind off of it. It will take some time, but this will all eventually be over.

If anything, cB is here for you, as am I. If you ever need to talk, or want to just let it all out there, you can PM me.

Stay strong.

[karmakiller]

Aw, that's a long time. Don't feel the pressure to jump into a relationship, make sure that you give yourself time to heal. Healing doesn't mean locking yourself in your room. Like they've already said go out and try to have fun with your friends.

[aybaybay007]

i know how u feel. i went through the same thing kind of and its like we went from best best friends and a guy that i loved to worst enemies. and he'd always call me after the break up almost every night and try to make me jealose. i remember this like it was yesterday he broke up with me like 2 days before my schools homecoming and it was so painful that i smoked like 8 ciggerettes in 2 hours just to calm down. and i dont even smoke at all. and then it escaladed into doing addicting drugs and doing sexual things with every guy and just being a slut...i was a loser. now im all better. im 100 percent better. all i needed was to learn from my misteaks that i made to deal with the pain. sometimes thats what u got to do. now days im much more cautiouse about who im going to date. i havnt dated anyone since him. because i always see how the new guy could hurt me just like the last one.

[Glamourouz]

I know the feeling...it will be ok over time...all you can do is just live life, move on slowly but surely...hang out with friends, but please don't sulk, it'll only make you feel worse...It's weird how once you're used to having someone in your life, something messes that up & you end up feeling incomplete or something of that nature...Just know it's not the first time & probably not the last...be strong

[aaayotiffany]

this happened to me once. i had to move on though. try to keep your mind off of it, your friends are your angels around this period of time. just keep busy to keep your mind off of him.

you have to keep reminding yourself that you'll find someone else eventually, someone you deserves you. you also have to keep reminding yourself that you don't need him to live your life. don't waste your time mourning over him because you're just wasting away time from yourself. everything happens for a reason.

[NATTLEUNG]

yeah i agree with everyone. Its definitely hard to move on with someone you been with so long. your so use to them being in your life and when there not there anymore, you feel like your missing something. and truth is, your always gonna miss him. But also when your thinking about it, people are always gonna come in and our of your life, and you gotta get through it. I dont know full detail of your relationship, but life goes on. Who knows whats gonna happen right? i would say just go on with your life, be happpy, do things you wanna do, go find new things and experience. And meet new people! I know its all easier said than done. but you gotta try. love yourself. and surround yourself with people that love you and care for you. i wish you good luck =) ! listen to better in time by leona lewis that song will basically say everything out in a song!