Asians.. Blacks.. the gap??, No offense.. |
 May 4 2008, 03:54 PM
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Senior Member  Group: Member Posts: 80 Joined: Sep 2006 Member No: 460,948  |
Before I start let it be said that I'm not trying to be offensive.
For the Asian girls/women on this site has a guy ever called you stuck up or misleading? Just wondering, because I was having this conversation with my cousin, and we talked about characteristics of women of different races. He was saying how Asian women tend to be a little harder to get(relationship wise) and stuck up. I thought about this for a bit, and I looked back on every experience I've had talking to an Asian girl/woman. Ironically some of the same patterns have happened in most cases. Like at times it'll end up to be they'll be into me slighty. Then it's always some bs excuse as to why they don't want to go any further. It never fails.. The ones I recall most are.. "my parents.. you fill in the blank." Then the one where they go with the other guy who treats them like crap to try to change them. As my cousin said this.. it really had me thinking would an Asian male/female date a Black male/female, or is it something that wouldn't happen? I dunno maybe it's because I'm Black, and in my area you don't see Asians and Blacks together. Even when I moved to a few other states I didn't see it either. Then I was thinking how Black people do get stereotyped sometimes by some members of the Asian culture. I had this one incident that sticks out. I was at this Chinese Buffet restaurant, and this Asian teenager kept staring at me like.. What are you doing here?? I guess I'm losing the theme of my point. I'm not looking to be bashed, nor am I looking for someone to say... You're a nice guy.. poor you, etc. I just want the truth. |
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May 4 2008, 03:56 PM
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 ٩(͡๏̯͡๏)۶ Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 14,309 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 65,593 |
 wut. |
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May 4 2008, 04:04 PM
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 yo yo yiggidy yo. Group: Official Member Posts: 1,606 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 108,591 |
i'm an asian girl and i used to have the biggest crush on this black guy. but due to bad timing and all, we couldn't be together. i don't think i'm stuck up or anything and if i like the guy, i'll let him know. but if i don't, i'll let him know so i won't lead him on.
i hate people like that, its not that hard just to let them know right away that there'll probably be no hope between them. so to answer your question, i think it just depends on the person and how they think. i don't judge a person by how they look and i hate it when people do that to me. anyone and everyone could be together, it depends if they have that "chemistry". i know plenty of interracial couples, and asians with blacks are one of the many. |
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May 4 2008, 04:19 PM
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 The Resident Drunk Group: Head Staff Posts: 8,623 Joined: Nov 2007 Member No: 593,266 |
Up here, Asians date blacks all the time. Wait, Asian girls date black guys lol.
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May 4 2008, 04:20 PM
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yo yo yiggidy yo. Group: Official Member Posts: 1,606 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 108,591 |
QUOTE(DoubleJ @ May 4 2008, 05:19 PM)  Up here, Asians date blacks all the time. Wait, Asian girls date black guys lol. yeah that, lol. i've only seen like two couples of an asian guy and black girl in my lifetime. |
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May 4 2008, 04:28 PM
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The Resident Drunk Group: Head Staff Posts: 8,623 Joined: Nov 2007 Member No: 593,266 |
Yeah lol. I haven't seen the guys with the girls, but the girls with black guys, is very common.
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May 4 2008, 04:36 PM
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Senior Member Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 2,223 Joined: Dec 2006 Member No: 485,356 |
Why would a Black girl want to date an Asian guy?
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May 5 2008, 08:40 PM
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 torn Group: Official Designer Posts: 953 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 55,718 |
QUOTE(Sandraaa @ May 4 2008, 02:36 PM) Why would a Black girl want to date an Asian guy? Haha, good point. Even with white/asian relationships, it's mostly asian girl white guy. Yellow fever, anyone? I live in a mostly asian community, so I really can't say anything. The few black guys get a lot of attention, but I've noticed that it's mostly from nonasian girls. Hmm, that's interesting... never really thought of it before. |
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May 6 2008, 12:58 AM
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Only time I seen an asian get with a black dude is in a porno. Haven't seen it in real life. I seen this one porno where this asian chick couldnt' handle it though. Dude was putting it on her and she says "MOMMY"!!!!
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May 6 2008, 01:48 AM
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The Resident Drunk Group: Head Staff Posts: 8,623 Joined: Nov 2007 Member No: 593,266 |
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May 6 2008, 02:45 AM
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 in a matter of time Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 7,151 Joined: Aug 2005 Member No: 191,357 |
To be honest, I don't know enough black guys to know if I'm attracted to them or not. There are literally less than 20 black people in graduating class of around 500. I've also never seen an Asian girl date a black guy, but I honestly think this is just a matter of demographics. I'm sure if there were more black people here, it would be a more common site.
As for Asian girls being more stuck up...that's probably true. Culture's different. And our parents are extremely difficult. My mom once told me that she would disown me if I ever married a black guy. If that day ever came...I'd tell my mom to screw off. |
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May 6 2008, 02:53 AM
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٩(͡๏̯͡๏)۶ Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 14,309 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 65,593 |
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May 6 2008, 02:54 AM
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 isketchaholic Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 2,977 Joined: Apr 2007 Member No: 516,154 |
QUOTE(Tungster @ May 6 2008, 12:53 AM) that looks like ando! /edit. anyways gigi's comment on the subject of being "disowned" is not far off from what my parents would do. they're quite close-minded about things although my dad does have an obsession with how wonderful mexicans are. he's always like "omg they work so hard and diligently, the chinese people are too crafty and sneaky" etc etc. I don't have any issues with race as I live in a generally diverse area and come into contact with all sorts of people. actually, two of my most favorite people on this planet are black AND I LOVE THEM cause they are seriously the chillest people I know. understatement really. they are just so incredibly cool. and I've totally been attracted to black guys before HAHA. ahh 7th grade, good memories. |
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May 6 2008, 06:10 AM
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 JABBAWOCKEEZfan Group: Member Posts: 108 Joined: Mar 2008 Member No: 635,309 |
kinda weird but im asian and i do observe these kinds of things sometimes. i hardly see any black guy in this island. but since im more on hanging out at military bases, that's where i see the most black ppl. some r cute imma admit lol. as for asians being stuck up, i kinda of agree coz i think there r some that is... well no offense to other asians (i am asian too) i am not referring to all asian girls.... i think maybe most asian girls hav issues with "beating around the bushes" instead of gettin their point across, and they assume u'll understand them.
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May 6 2008, 08:40 AM
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 Sarcastic Mr. Know-It-All Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 2,089 Joined: Dec 2003 Member No: 29 |
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May 6 2008, 02:17 PM
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٩(͡๏̯͡๏)۶ Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 14,309 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 65,593 |
blak gurl hitt mee alllottt.... butt mee sayy NEEXTT!!
denn whitteee n asaiinn.. mee sayy NEEXXTT 2...  ...
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May 6 2008, 05:06 PM
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 That's what she said. Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 3,559 Joined: Apr 2005 Member No: 130,200 |
Yeah, the only black and asian couple I know of is...Trish and Brandon.
 But I live in small asiantown so what would I know?
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May 6 2008, 05:40 PM
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Senior Member Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 2,223 Joined: Dec 2006 Member No: 485,356 |
TRISH AND BRANDON? They're dating?
 Erm, on a serious note. If I should date an Asian, I'll get laughed at. Even the idea is funny. 
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May 7 2008, 06:58 PM
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My white/asian cousin married a black guy.
And I'm stuck up, but only towards people I dislike. |
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May 8 2008, 02:02 AM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 42 Joined: Apr 2008 Member No: 641,485 |
I don't care , I don't fuck with Asian chicks anyway. Light Skinned Black chicks and Latinas look better anyway and thats all I go after.
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Aug 17 2008, 11:59 PM
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 i call it love<333 Group: Member Posts: 134 Joined: Aug 2006 Member No: 448,479 |
I'm Asian and I used to have a huge crush on a black guy. He was my brother's best friend at the time. So yeah. Nothing happened. But I know a few asian girls dating black guys.
& I'm only stuck up towards people I don't like. |
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Aug 18 2008, 01:40 AM
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 asdfghjkl; Group: Official Designer Posts: 1,121 Joined: Jul 2008 Member No: 665,416 |
I'm an asian guy. &i know that there are a lot of prejudice people in our society. but a generalization can't be made cause well, its not really relating to everyone of that race, just the few who are prejudice.
&asian parents do have a reputation as being strict &all, i think that's why what "my parents blah" thing came up. &parents DO get racist at times. I WILL NOT LIE, i am COMPLETELY not racist, but, i do know some parent who are "racist." i know its horrible, sick, &disgusting. &these parents even kinda "brainwashed" their kids, as to believe that every person of that race acts a certain way &or whatever. its so wrong for them to believe that, &even to pass it down to their own children. &there aren't THAT many black people in my town, or w.e., so my friends don't really know any black people. So, they can't really date any, cause there aren't any around here. haha. |
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Aug 18 2008, 09:51 AM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 1,011 Joined: Jun 2007 Member No: 533,410 |
well .. i've seen asian and black couples ..
and it's a fact that an asian woman and a black man make the cutest babies !! |
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Aug 18 2008, 10:53 AM
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 Amberific. Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 12,913 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 29,772 |
It's more common than you think, especially in areas like the Phillipines where there's a long history of US occupation.
Other examples of Black-Asian mixes: Kelis Naomi Campebll Tyson Beckford Sean Paul Amerie Kimora Lee Simmons |
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Aug 18 2008, 09:46 PM
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 Mais je ne l'aime pas Group: Member Posts: 971 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 108,135 |
My best friend comes from an Asian woman/black man relationship.
I haven't seen another Black/Asian relationships since then, but then again, I don't have that many black friends here. The closest I've been to being in a relationship with a black guy is one date. Generally, I try to be up front with my feelings for a guy. I don't waste their time the same way I wouldn't want them to waste my time. My grandmother is very racist. She has no problem using the N word anywhere. Good thing I don't see her anymore, cause she's quite a bitch. My mom, well, when she sees a black person on TV, she'd be like, "Hey, Mel, it's your friend's cousin." or something like that. I just sigh and move on. There's not much I can do. Oh! One time, we were at an Indonesian restaurant, and I talked about taking my friend with us next time [the one from the relationship above]. My mom said no because she thinks that the Indonesian people at the restaurant would stare. Bottom line is, Asian parents are very strict and quicker to judge than other people. This means that once they're introduced to a certain stereotype, they tend to stick to that and refuse to budge. Dating itself is a weird subject between parents and kids, and interracial dating is even more...complicated, so to speak. |
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