My friend's problem and shes asking me for help that i think its hard to do... Options

[Smilessss]

Okay, I have this friend,who has broken up with her ex last year and is going out with her current bf for four months. AT first she was fine without her ex, but then later, she started to look back and misses him more and more. She then started to feel regretful and wanted him back in her life again. Her ex at first was waiting for her to come back to him, but then, he couldnt wait anymore and gave up. She is going to break up with her current bf just to wait for her ex. Her ex literally told her that he would never come back and plus he already has a girl, but she still doesnt give up and still waits. She asked me to help her bring him back to her, which i know it would be hard to do. Should i at least try to help her out? or should i just tell her to forget the past and move on with the new guy? Has this ever happen to you?

NOw this is what i call "Love Karma" he waits for her, now she waits for him, what can i say? what comes around goes around

[MissFits]

I'd tell her to move on. If he doesn't want her he won't come back to her.

[Melie]

well, i would continue to tell her and reassure her that there are others. but if she's very deicated into trying to get him back, then there's no harm in that. unless she wants you to do something dangerous then that's a different story.

[MissHygienic]

You can't force people to love you, even if you're waiting for them. Tell her to give up, and this isn't even a healthy start to a relationship because one doesn't want the other all of the time.

[miyashu]

It seems she just isn't ready for a new relationship considering that she still has feelings for her ex. However, just tell her to move on. When a guy says he's done with the relationships....then that's it. He's done. And if she even tries to go back to him, it will make the situation worse and her ex will probably be pissed off.

Just talk to her and let her vent/cry/whatever, because she might feel bad for a while.

[Smilessss]

::nodds:: talked to her about it... hmm.. it turned out that she kinda played with his heart(the ex's),, she told me that she had promised him to go back to him, instead she just went out wih this guy tthat shes going out with now...and when i told her that shes playing with his(the ex's) heart, she didnt say anything, and like she had this regretful look and pain in it... and when i told her ex, what she had said to me, he just said "I dont care".... i told what he said to her( i felt like their messenger) and she just cried. I told her its okay to cry, and just tell her to move on slowly with the new guy. She told me, she finally realized who she loved the most, which is always her ex... :: sighs:: so much drama...

[jovdub]

Your friend needs to realize that sometimes there are no second chances. Sounds like she was in a rebound type situation with this new guy and was never really over her ex to begin with. If she wants to go back all she can do is say her piece to him and let him decide what he wants to do for himself.

[Smilessss]

::nodds:: thats true, hmm for all i know is that he hates her and that he doesnt care about her pretty much... but eh i told her to wait and if he really does want to talk to her he'll call or sign on to tell her, but otherwise than that, just wait and move on little by little and we'll see whats going to happen. If he happens to miss her back and wants her back, then yayy for them happy ending, if not, well then she'll just have to move on without him. Thats all i could said to her right now, hopefully i did okay? *n.n*

[absinthe]

She's desperate -- she asked you to help. The most you can do is go to the guy and ask him to make it painfully clear that nothing is going to happen between them -- or -- try to explain that to your friend yourself.

[LittleMissSunshi...]

i would tell her that, he already said that he will not come back for her. i think you should tell her to stick with her current boyfriend. don't ditch him for some ex, that doesn't like her anymore. i think thats really bad, like something that should move on. no offense, but i believe she should just go back to the way it was. (: i think that would help. if not, i'm sorry ;]