Sex, why'd he stop asking? |
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 Jan 19 2008, 01:10 AM
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 DeadlyKitten  Group: Member Posts: 100 Joined: Jan 2008 Member No: 612,383  |
me and my boyfriend had sex for the first time a few monthes after our one year. he didnt tell me he loved me the first time and i felt used. i told him how i felt and we continued to have sex for about 2 packs of condom worth...lol...and we just stoped. the last time we had it was about 2 monthes ago right after i told him i feel used any time we do that typa thing. since then he hasnt brought it up but one and said he didnt have enough money for condoms when he has if he really wanted to have sex with me. previous to this i told him i wanted to wait for marrige or until i KNOW im in love. so why did he want it so bad and now he doesnt mention it? does he respect how i feel and is he waiting for me to say i want to? what does this mean in guy terms?
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Jan 19 2008, 01:12 AM
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im sure he respects your choice.
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Jan 19 2008, 01:17 AM
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 sleep now, moon Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 2,540 Joined: May 2007 Member No: 526,212 |
^optimistic much? geez.
or, he doesn't want to have sex with someone who takes it so seriously. |
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Jan 19 2008, 01:19 AM
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 ٩(͡๏̯͡๏)۶ Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 14,309 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 65,593 |
QUOTE(sparrowdust @ Jan 18 2008, 10:17 PM)  ^optimistic much? geez. or, he doesn't want to have sex with someone who takes it so seriously. LOL. Damn I miss you so much Ruth. Hahaha. You deserve a 1up for pwning two members at once. Killing two birds with one stone. 
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Jan 19 2008, 01:20 AM
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 Melieized Group: Official Designer Posts: 1,372 Joined: Nov 2006 Member No: 478,715 |
it could also be that he might feel hurt that you said that you felt used.
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Jan 19 2008, 01:20 AM
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QUOTE(sparrowdust @ Jan 19 2008, 01:17 AM) ^optimistic much? geez. or, he doesn't want to have sex with someone who takes it so seriously. well you cant always be pessimistic about everything |
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Jan 19 2008, 01:21 AM
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sleep now, moon Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 2,540 Joined: May 2007 Member No: 526,212 |
would that be more pessimistic or truthful? don't suggest that guys don't ever think that way.
and thanks, tung :) |
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Jan 19 2008, 03:51 AM
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 (′ ･ω･｀) Group: Official Designer Posts: 6,179 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 72,477 |
hes tired of you telling him that you feel used.
no money for condoms made me laugh though. |
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Jan 19 2008, 03:06 PM
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 Addict Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 3,918 Joined: Jun 2007 Member No: 538,522 |
Either he feels guilty for 'using' you.
Or he's used you and had his fill. Sorry to be so blunt, but that's all that really springs to mind. |
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Jan 19 2008, 03:10 PM
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in guy terms this means that he wants sex, and he is gonna have to wait for you if he wants it
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Jan 19 2008, 03:23 PM
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showw me u boyyfriendd pic../
i cann telll watt he thinkinn if i c sum pic.. |
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Jan 19 2008, 10:36 PM
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Either
1. He felt awkward when you said he felt used and didn`t find it much fun (if it ever was). Or 2. He just doesn`t enjoy it altogether. Ask. It never hurts to, right? 
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Jan 19 2008, 10:53 PM
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 That's what she said. Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 3,559 Joined: Apr 2005 Member No: 130,200 |
Well, you really won't know unless you ask him, right?
 It could be that hes dying on the inside.
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Jan 19 2008, 10:54 PM
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 DDR \\ I'm Dee :) Group: Mentor Posts: 8,662 Joined: Mar 2006 Member No: 384,020 |
He's getting it somewhere else!!
Honestly, though, maybe he feels a bit guilty. I mean, how would you feel if he told you he felt like you were using him (for anything, not just sex)? Maybe he feels bad so he's just not going for it. Maybe you should make the moves. If you want to have sex with him don't sit around and wait for him to initiate something. |
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Jan 19 2008, 11:37 PM
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DeadlyKitten Group: Member Posts: 100 Joined: Jan 2008 Member No: 612,383 |
he's only been with 1 other girl then me and believe me...he enjoyed it...ALOT. lol as of right now we're not in the position to be having sex because he lied to me a few times and just in general...i dont feel he deserves to share that with me. i just want to know whats making him not mention it at all.
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Jan 20 2008, 05:02 AM
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guys are push overs
i'd know im one of 'em nah hes probably nervous coz he wasnt expecting you to feel that way Edit// wat ever use your brain |
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Jan 20 2008, 06:10 AM
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 ^_^ Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 8,141 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 91,466 |
QUOTE(sparrowdust @ Jan 19 2008, 12:17 AM) ^optimistic much? geez. or, he doesn't want to have sex with someone who takes it so seriously. with the fade-away jumper, at the buzzer, she scores! |
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Jan 20 2008, 03:07 PM
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muhfucka yo mama's a bitch Group: Banned Posts: 1,461 Joined: Feb 2007 Member No: 506,674 |
QUOTE(JCLore @ Jan 20 2008, 02:02 AM) guys are puch overs i'd know im one of 'em wtf is a puch over? |
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Jan 20 2008, 03:18 PM
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maybe as a pull over
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Jan 20 2008, 03:27 PM
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DDR \\ I'm Dee :) Group: Mentor Posts: 8,662 Joined: Mar 2006 Member No: 384,020 |
I think he meant push over.
After your last post, I agree with the people who say that you take it too seriously. Most guys (and girls) I know don't take it that seriously. If it's going to be such a huge issue that he has to ask you for it, instead of you mentioning it, and that you're going to decide that you're not going to have sex with him because he told you a lie maybe you should assess your relationship. |
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Jan 20 2008, 09:53 PM
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 Ms. Granger Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 735 Joined: Jul 2005 Member No: 165,238 |
Why do you care if you don't want it anyway?
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Jan 20 2008, 10:48 PM
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Senior Member Group: Official Member Posts: 682 Joined: Oct 2007 Member No: 580,818 |
my bad
i meant push over |
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Jan 20 2008, 11:06 PM
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DeadlyKitten Group: Member Posts: 100 Joined: Jan 2008 Member No: 612,383 |
it just worried me that he was doing OTHER things, so to speak. we still do other things so i'm going to stop worryin about it
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Jan 20 2008, 11:19 PM
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 The Resident Drunk Group: Head Staff Posts: 8,623 Joined: Nov 2007 Member No: 593,266 |
QUOTE(S-Majere @ Jan 19 2008, 03:06 PM) Either he feels guilty for 'using' you. Or he's used you and had his fill. Sorry to be so blunt, but that's all that really springs to mind. He got his fill! Sarah ftw with that one. QUOTE(nguoicasison @ Jan 19 2008, 03:23 PM) showw me u boyyfriendd pic../ i cann telll watt he thinkinn if i c sum pic.. Please hang yourself. Your little gay undertones are seriously a bit much. QUOTE(ersatz @ Jan 20 2008, 09:53 PM) Why do you care if you don't want it anyway? Agreed. QUOTE(DeadlyKitten @ Jan 20 2008, 11:06 PM) it just worried me that he was doing OTHER things, so to speak. we still do other things so i'm going to stop worryin about it I agree with the people who said that you are caring too much. You are definitely drink dumb dumb juice if you think he is going to stick around and beg you for sex. Trust when I tell you, that no box is that good to be begging for it, NO BOX. Like somebody mentioned before, he is probably beating something up on the side since you want to play keep away with your pussy. Assessing your relationship is definitely right. If you are going to hold stuff against him and then get mad when he doesn't give into your demands, then you have bigger problems and your relationship isn't healthy. Like Eden's Crush said, Get Over Yourself. |
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Jan 21 2008, 12:22 AM
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DeadlyKitten Group: Member Posts: 100 Joined: Jan 2008 Member No: 612,383 |
Your mean.
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