Need some help to settle down Options

[JonathanK]

K so if you guys/girls saw my last couple of posts awhile ago so many bad things have happened to me in the past week and a half. My girlfriend Broke up with me, she said she would still be my friend and talk to me. then a couple of days later my grandfather passed away. And then when i needed to talk to her the most she stopped talking to me and now ignored me somewhat. We talk sometimes but it's only for a short while now. I really wanna know whats going on in her head. I was thinking of like going in the same room as her and blocknig the door and say like * I wanna talk to you not this wall i have been talking to for the past 2 weeks*. Like i still have some feelings for her since she was my first girlfriend and i heard she still likes me too. Lately I've just been so pissed off. Like i feel like i'm losing control. When My cousin and I went boxing this guy was bugging us and if you have seen the movie fight club I basically pulled that. He punched me in the gut and I just basically kept asking for more like *No i didn't quite catch that man* then he hit me. Then I replied *still not getting it* he hit me again. lol then I was like * i got it, i got it, i got it.....shit I lost it* then when he tried to hit me again I tackled him and broke his nose. it's like i blacked out or something. I just get really frustrated with what has happened so far. So if any of you people have any words of advice or tips to help me get through this I would truly be greatful.

[*steve330*]

You should not try to force her to do anything. Don't trap her in a room and make demands. That will only end poorly. Get some time to your own and just think things through. Find out what went wrong, whose fault it was. As for the whole fight club thing, man I'd be pissed if I kept hitting a guy and he kept mocking me rofl.

But yeah, sounds like you have a lot of stress you need to relieve. Go running/work out til you're physically and mentally exhausted. Come home and sleep. When you wake up in the morning take a nice cold shower to get you alert and realize that it's a new day and that life will go on without her. That isn't to say that you just completely let her go. IF she said she still wants to be friends don't give up on her. Send her a text message, or better yet an e-mail. That gives her plenty of time to respond to it, and it's not an immediate thing she has to respond to. It gives her time, and you get your message to her.

If she's completely ignoring you then maybe you severely f**ked something up or she wants time to herself to think things through.

[JonathanK]

I honestly didn't do anything she broke up with me cause she had this long distance relationship with this guy. then he stopped callin her for liek 7 months. Then we started dating and out of the blue he calls and says all this shit. So then all i know is that she dumped both of us. She says she wants to concentrate on school and stuff which i respect. But she is also somewhat of a drama girl if something goes wrong she tried to push people away

[*steve330*]

Oh man I hate when they do that oO. Don't give up on her then, but don't try to push anything. Tell her how you feel about her, make her feel loved, and just be there for her. You can't force her to get back with you, so you might as well just try to be there for her whenever she needs someone.

[JonathanK]

Ya thnaks for the fast replies man. Like her b-day was on wed so yea i bought her a card and wrote some stuff in it sayin like *i don't care if your mad at me, hate me or ignore me I will always be there when u need me and yur always number one to me* But i'm tryin to move on I tried to ask this girl to a movie tonight but she was having some problems. So i was there just to comfort her and be there and give her advice and maker her feel better. Leats it worked lol

[*steve330*]

Err if you still like the first girl I wouldn't make any moves on anyone else. That will only push the first girl further away. Give it some time before you jump right into something else in my opinion. Make sure that things are final and y'all aren't getting back together cuz if things work with girl#2 then you just lost girl#1.

[pinayprincess]

DUDE; CALL HER.... TRY TO CONTACT HER ANYWAY YOU CAN AND TELL HER EVERYTHING-- NO IF'S OR BUT'S-- DNT BEAT AROUND THE BUSH AND TELL HER HOW MUCH SHE MEANS TO YOU AND HOW YOU'VE BEEN FEELING DOWN LATELY!!!

[JonathanK]

Well the way yea i said it sounded kinda bad but i didn't mean as like a date or anything. Just get like a group of people not just me and her to go see shrek or pirates like something fun to do. not me just sitting alone all night. But i have a party to go to later on anyways lol

[*steve330*]

Ah yeah. And don't call her if she's ignoring you. It will only make her want more space. Plus the whole all caps thing makes the idea seem a little less ideal (not saying all caps ideas are always bad, just this one happens to lose more merit due to it).

Ah kk no harm done then :D
Parties are great for forgetting about things. And I don't even drink! I just get really hyper rofl and laugh at all the people drunk stupid.

[JonathanK]

Nah man I don't drink either or do drugs I'm total clean. Sometimes people make fun of me for it but i'm always like well we'll see how you are doing 10 years ddown the road. i'm just a really fit person I work out at the gym daily and go jogging. But yea still kinda pissy cause i guess I don't know what's gonig on and can't control the situation. Plus this is ALL new to me since she is my first gf so i guess you have to go throught eh bad experiances to get to the great ones.

[*steve330*]

Yeah I never said you did drink/do drugs :)
I don't either, with the exception of getting high once every few months. I'm in great shape too, and I love using running to relieve stress.
I'm still w/ my first, but I'd wager to say I've been through some of the not so nice experiences.

But anyways, enough of me, lets talk about you. Haha.
There really isn't an insta-cure for this situation. You really just have to let things play out over time and give her all the space she needs, and when she's ready to talk she will.

[JonathanK]

I honestly appreciate what you have said man i've just been thinknig and stuff. There is no loss of love, there is no loss of relationship. The loss is of status. So yea just gotta keep busy and when she's ready to talk she will. Anyways thanks alot man I gotta go so maybe i'll be on l8er. Thanks alot

[*steve330*]

any time. I like to think of myself as, er who am I kidding, I'm just your friendly neighborho... I'm steven. Have fun and just relax :)

[deplorable]

take this from a girl... give her some space for a while.
i know it was sorta a knock down when she wasnt really there for you when you needed her. and yes. she does sound overly dramatic. but if she really cares for you (and it sounds like she does) she'll come around.

but close in on her, choke her, and youve messed up your chance.
if you back off for a bit it gives you some time to think as well and clean your mind of all the negativitism floating around...

[manaway]

f**k her she should have helped you in your time of need my ex girlfriend tried to do that to but she came back to me and we just broke up 3 days ago cause she is a selfish bitch and her parents r losers they need to be heavily medicated

dont talk to her any more tell people what she is about let people no what she did to you cause thats f**ked up

[*steve330*]

manaway you aren't in any position to be giving advice...
Also you need to learn to use periods, commas, etc.

[JonathanK]

Well today was a way better day than I expected. I woke up and it was a little bit of a rocky start. But i went to go get my haircut, I shaved a bit, had a ncie shower and felt like a million bucks. Plus i had to work so that helped me take my mind off things. For some reason I started to bop walk lmao. Thats honestly how good i felt and I made a ton of pople laugh today lol. Later

[JonathanK]

o....k wow now i'm just pissed off now. I feel like hitting someone or something. i went running and just finished working out but i'm all filled with anger about everything arghh somebody wake me from this nightmare

[EmoEyelinerx]

You should not try to force her to do anything. Don't trap her in a room and make demands. That will only end poorly. Get some time to your own and just think things through. Find out what went wrong, whose fault it was. As for the whole fight club thing, man I'd be pissed if I kept hitting a guy and he kept mocking me rofl.

But yeah, sounds like you have a lot of stress you need to relieve. Go running/work out til you're physically and mentally exhausted. Come home and sleep. When you wake up in the morning take a nice cold shower to get you alert and realize that it's a new day and that life will go on without her. That isn't to say that you just completely let her go. IF she said she still wants to be friends don't give up on her. Send her a text message, or better yet an e-mail. That gives her plenty of time to respond to it, and it's not an immediate thing she has to respond to. It gives her time, and you get your message to her.

If she's completely ignoring you then maybe you severely f**ked something up or she wants time to herself to think things through.

Well said.

[EmoEyelinerx]

o....k wow now i'm just pissed off now. I feel like hitting someone or something. i went running and just finished working out but i'm all filled with anger about everything arghh somebody wake me from this nightmare

Go buy a punching bag or go to the gym and punch a punching bag. It really gets out anger.

[JonathanK]

Looks like everythnig that has happened in the past couple weeks in my life turned from sorrow to now just plain pissed off at everything. Almost knocked someone out today cause i could not take all the pressure and they were just pissing me off. Please someone pinch me and wake me up

[Edwinbarkhordari...]

it's ok man..my girlfriend did the same thing to me...she broke up with me for no obvious reason..everything was picture perfect and all of a sudden her ex-boyfriend from like 2 years ago called her n stuff and apparently she still liked him and he had developed cancer. She lured me in and after everything just pushed me away as if i'm a toy with no feelings.