Views on Sex Options

[Insurmountable]

What are your views on sex in relationships and outside of relationships.

[queen]

i was raised by very traditional parents, who are blatantly against premarital sex. although i grew up with this mindset, i am currently a believer of sex being an act of love between two people who love and care for one another, with or without having to consummate a marriage.

i am very against "one night stands" or having sex with someone with whom you aren't in a serious relationship. however, i do recognize that people just have different lifestyles, and if having sex with a bunch of people without actually loving them is something they feel they need to do to be happy, then i'm no one to judge them.

[transcendentalis...]

i feel like sex in a serious relationship is pretty hard to handle, at least at my age. it gets difficult to balance other aspects of the relationships sometimes when i'm being distracted like that. however, if you can handle the balance, then it's a great way to get close to your significant other.

outside of relationships, i wouldn't have sex. sex in general makes me feel really vulnerable to the other person, and for the most part, i'm not into being vulnerable, not even with some of my closer friends. my friends are pretty used to me being some invincible pillar of strength + mother teresa figure, so it's weird for them if i do anything that remotely 'weakens' my base of what i believe in and my personality - which would include sex. it's really a crazy emotional/physical thing for me.

i'm not going to be vulnerable without reciprocation.

[Tung]

I think you should have as much sex as possible before you get married. I really do. I honestly, I admit I've had sex with over 20 different girls, and I enjoy it. Once you are in a deep relationship, you won't have that urge to sleep around, and will be happy with that one person forever. So let all those temptations out now before you go in a deep relationship.

[transcendentalis...]

Once you are in a deep relationship, you won't have that urge to sleep around, and will be happy with that one person forever.

werd.
i try not to indulge often in anything though, and i personally think that resisting certain temptations long enough often gives way into getting over them completely.

just opinions, as always :)

[brooklyneast05]

i think sex should be inside a relationship. i think it's better that way.

[MissHygienic]

outside of relationships, i wouldn't have sex. sex in general makes me feel really vulnerable to the other person, and for the most part, i'm not into being vulnerable, not even with some of my closer friends. my friends are pretty used to me being some invincible pillar of strength + mother teresa figure, so it's weird for them if i do anything that remotely 'weakens' my base of what i believe in and my personality - which would include sex. it's really a crazy emotional/physical thing for me.

I'm with you on this one. I can only have sex with people that I trust, which is usually the person with whom I'm in a relationship.

Sex can be a highly manipulative tool, and if you don't know what you're getting yourself into, it can always be used against your favor. A lot of the time, it is used against your favor. I'm not into being manipulated or humiliated because some jackass thought it would be funny to share with the world.

So, there are a lot of unspoken gestures to people that would make them believe that I'm not interested in engaging in a one-night stand. If that's acting overly self-assured, well, so be it.

[aznraver396]

I imagine one night stands are just repeats of the awkward first timer with the person you're in a relationship with. You know what I mean?
You don't even need to refer to sex. For example, the first kiss in a relationship. You guys are kind of wondering which way to lean, when the perfect time is, if you'll use tongue, where you put your hands, if you're too tall, etc. Sex is kind of like that new territory and one night stands are just replays. It's like making yourself relive walking up the hill of awkwardness to get to the comfort zone on the other side...and then just starting over again.
I like sex in relationships. It's more comfortable and more passionate ;) You know what they like and that leaves room for different, more interesting things.

[livwho]

i was raised by very traditional parents, who are blatantly against premarital sex. although i grew up with this mindset, i am currently a believer of sex being an act of love between two people who love and care for one another, with or without having to consummate a marriage.

i am very against "one night stands" or having sex with someone with whom you aren't in a serious relationship. however, i do recognize that people just have different lifestyles, and if having sex with a bunch of people without actually loving them is something they feel they need to do to be happy, then i'm no one to judge them.

I feel the exact same way.
My parents always told me to wait. Sex is an act I'd much rather perform out of love rather than lust, and that's all I've ever done. C:

[datass]

i think sex should be inside a relationship. i think it's better that way.

i think so too. and if you're in a relationship, dont go having sex with other people, that's just wrong.