untitled[no words can explain] the title, love,confusion, |
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 Dec 4 2007, 03:48 AM
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okay so lets start from the beginning. there was this guy i used to see when i was younger and i always thought he was cute..but never thought he would notice me. that was when i was 13. then we i was 16 i met him finally and come to find out he was interested in me. but come to find out what came along with being with him was a child and another one on the way by the same girl. when she found out about me and him she went banannas! but i could understand where she was coming from on that part. but neways i was so love stuck on this guy that it didnt bother me that he had a kid and another soon to be. so we were together and went out for about 4 months during those months..it was coo for me...he came over my house everyday and we went out to parties together too. he did take me to family events but not the ones where his parents would be. i would always ask him if he has told his parents about me and he would always say yes of course. but i never asked him to introduce me.i wanted him to do it. but ne ways then one day my mother seen him and his babysmomma together with his kids at a park and she got mad and told me i had to break it off with him because she didnt like the fact that he was still being seen with her like that. so i did. it hurt so bad but i moved on...well now i started hanging out with his friends and i seen him for the first time in a yr. and now he's trying to start things where they left off. my mom is okay with it just as long as he proves that he does care about me and isnt just using me...[and yes we did have sex] so that's what my mom thinks thats where the "using" is being done...well ne ways i really dont know what to do.and i just want some kind of advice it can be negative or positive i just want to see how you guys really think about my situation. sorry for it being so long...thanks
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Dec 4 2007, 03:51 AM
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Dec 4 2007, 03:52 AM
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huh ? what do you mean my pics first ?
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Dec 4 2007, 03:56 AM
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Dec 4 2007, 03:56 AM
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From your posts, I assume that you're currently a freshman in college. You've been crushing on this guy for a while and that's sort of a disadvantage to my following statement, but it seems as if this guy is very much ahead of you in years and experience. He has a kid, so I'm assuming he doesn't go to school.
I can't tell his intentions just from your story alone, a highly consolidated version, and one with sentences that hardly make sense to me. But, why don't you just ask him what he wants? Sit him down and stop playing this mind game bullshit. It's obviously not healthy for you as it leaves you guessing, and it leaves him looking like a jackass. |
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Dec 4 2007, 04:02 AM
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Dec 4 2007, 04:04 AM
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actually when we were together the last month together he had told me that he was falling in love for me. but besides that he is a football star at his college has a car and a job so to me he really isnt a jackass. :/
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Dec 4 2007, 04:06 AM
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Dec 4 2007, 04:07 AM
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QUOTE(nguoicasison @ Dec 4 2007, 04:02 AM)  I guess i gotta jump in on this and help her before misshygiene give her some BS advice. Neezy don't bother trying to sit the homo down and ask him what he wants. That kind of crap will only raise his ego. What you do is ignore that bietch and see what he does. He has a kid and a wife..? I didn't bother to read but bleh, if he does or doesn't have a wife w/e. I don't see who would be stupid enough to get in a relationship with a guy that got a kid. Considering you're in college, and got a whole life ahead of you. Are you really going to waste all the trouble just so you could get with this guy? I don't know what other ways to put it but... YOU ARE NAIVE/DUMB if you plan on getting with the guy. There are billion of guys out there who are better than him, YES I KNOW, don't ask how do i know, I JUST DO!! You don't gotta believe me but go ahead and take that chance, and in the end it's a WIN/WIN for him and LOSE/LOSE for you. Oh, shut up with all of this "you got your whole life ahead of you" bullshit. Get a reality check. This girl has been obsessed with this guy since she was 13; as if she's just going to dump him because some idiot on a forum told her so. If she chooses to stick with this relationship and it doesn't work out, then so be it. You can't change her mind, and a good way to go about taking this further is to ask him. People get into shitty relationships all of the time, and the way to solve it is by communication. You actually think I'm giving bullshit advice, when you're the one telling her to simply move on from some 5-year long crush? Get real. |
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Dec 4 2007, 04:10 AM
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to nguoicasison :
no she is just his baby's momma. i've asked his family and friends. but neways when i seen him for the first time in a yr the other day. he came up to me. trying to conversat and i would give him short answers and act dumb with him. and should you really judge someone just because they have a kid ? thats like saying you'd be dumb to be with someone thats black like that guy". |
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Dec 4 2007, 04:11 AM
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you gonaa gitt ownn
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Dec 4 2007, 04:12 AM
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QUOTE(neezy1126 @ Dec 4 2007, 04:10 AM) to nguoicasison : no she is just his baby's momma. i've asked his family and friends. but neways when i seen him for the first time in a yr the other day. he came up to me. trying to conversat and i would give him short answers and act dumb with him. and should you really judge someone just because they have a kid ? thats like saying you'd be dumb to be with someone thats black like that guy". Well, you wanted how I viewed the situation, and I can't say if it's positive or negative. You didn't provide enough information, so the only way I see is for you to ask him. Before you heed this clueless amateur's advice, read through some of his posts, and you'll know what I'm talking about. |
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Dec 4 2007, 04:13 AM
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to MissHygienic :
exactly...all relationships can go bad..just my situation..whether the person is a bum to the person being a celebrity. it doesnt matter what type of life the person has. its all about communication and how they feel about eachother. etc |
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Dec 4 2007, 04:15 AM
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Dec 4 2007, 04:17 AM
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to nguoicasison :
wow...you must not have a girlfriend. and if you say you do your lying because hey how would i know. you cant just go and judge someone by them having a kid. if they got there shit together and got a kid then koo ...i can see if he had a kid and was a bum low life who didnt do shit but sit on his ass. he has a job. a car nice house. and is on his way to the pros in football. stays in school and has never dropped out. he is just as good and any guy when it comes to that part of a guy. |
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Dec 4 2007, 04:22 AM
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Dec 4 2007, 05:51 AM
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 Cornflakes :D Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 4,541 Joined: Dec 2005 Member No: 322,923 |
nguoicasison - This is verbal warning to quit spamming, you will be receiving a PM.
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Dec 4 2007, 06:16 AM
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neezy1126; it sounds a messy involvement at best. This guy has a family (whether you want to refer to it as this or not) and he has responsibilities toward them - and toward you. So far, I don't think he's shown you much maturity, stability or love. Your mother is worried about him 'using' you - and rightly so I think. You may not like their advice, but parents are worldly wise and have been teenagers themselves! Young love can be particularly consuming and can blind you to the reality of your situation.
My advise? Stop hanging around with his friends, stop seeing him; and leave him to patch things up in his life before he gets involved with yours. |
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