Am I Wrong?, ... Options

[vietbabiiix3]

Well my boyfriend and I have been together for about 9 months now, and I definitely can trust him, 100%... So no questions that we both trust each other...

But I don't know. Today, we were just talking on phone, and then we got into random topics, and suddenly he mentioned this girl that USED and STILL does like him. And I don't know I felt uneasy, but I just listened to him... And he was like complimenting her... He said that he thinks she's HOT and she's PRETTY and that he thinks she sings perfectly and has the most "greatest voice he's ever heard." I felt so... LOW and down at that point. I didn't know what to say, because I didn't wanna spazz out on him. Inside of me really wanted to say "Why dont you just f_Cking go out with her then." And he's talked about her to me before. And everytime she comes up, he either says he likes the way she dresses or she's super nice or pretty... I don't know... Am I right to feel this way? .. Usualyl I would just shout at him.. but all I said today was "Oh? That's kool." I don't wanna be a bitch and get jealous over that, but I dont know. Do you think he was doing that just to upset me? And I know that if I hadn't come along, he would have gone out with her . I'm sure of that, he even told me that...

[babecakes]

you should be like "well, i think so-and-so is a fucking sexy bitch, i wouldn't mind getting with him :)".

[Sabastian]

wow what a dick... you should tell him how you feel, and then break up with him. He's stupid for saying all those things to you. You're not doing anything wrong about feeling the way you're feeling.

[LoveToMySilas]

Wow, you're one of the few people I know whos kept their cool when that's ever happened to them. Of course you have a right to feel wrong about it. I mean, it depends on how you see it. Obviously it makes you uneasy so maybe you should tell him about it. He can't read your mind, maybe he just wants your input about her and dicuss different people and their tactics together. Communication is the key!

[katelynlingenfel...]

Worse Case: He wants in her pants, and you need to break up with him.

OOORRR: he could just be wanting you to react and tell him how you feel. maybe he needs more of your attention and wants to make you jealous just to see how much you care.

& yes, just talk to him about it.

[Becks539]

I'd be pissed. It's one thing to be like "Yeah this girl likes me, I think shes nice" but to start complementing her using words like "hot" would be crossing the line for me. And saying he likes the way she dresses? Yeah I'd be mad. I think you should say something to him that tells him you don't like him speaking of other girls the way he is.

[lilsnoopy]

you should be like "well, i think so-and-so is a f**king sexy bitch, i wouldn't mind getting with him :)".

words of wisdom! woo hoo! I agree 100%

[Insurmountable]

That's a little rude, but I mean you have every right to feel the way you do. So your not wrong

To keep it civil and hopefully not form a lot of fights, just tell him on the phone next time he brings up here that you feel sad about it because you feel like he doesn't think your special in many different ways because hes complimenting someone else so much and to his own girlfriend.

Don't yell at him about it, but be sincere and nice to him when telling him about it. Because if your mean to him and shout hes going to get mad and do the same to you, right?

I really hope things turn out for the best Just remember to be nice to him about, because maybe he doesn't know thats how you feel about it? Its best to share your feelings no matter how bad they can possibly be. Communication and honesty is the best policy

[xtwitchyx]

If I were you... I think I would put his balls in a vice and then ask him to choose if he likes you or the other girl best.

[Call911Quick]

I think you should dump this guy just because he's stupid.

Who talks about other girls like that to their girlfriend on the phone? Seriously.

He's a retard. Dump him, he doesn't deserve anybody.

[Insurmountable]

^Sheesh I think thats really wrong to say, people should learn how to fix their problems that they fall into, not just do something to run away from them

[S-Majere]

Ooo, I'd tell him that he made me feel incredibly insecure by mentioning this other girl all the time. See what he does.

[EddieV]

Be careful.

[RAWRstephishere]

you should be like "well, i think so-and-so is a fucking sexy bitch, i wouldn't mind getting with him :)".

Fersure. See how see feels about it.

[*jeanna*]

i did that ^

after he said basically the same things about a girl he was going to go out with but i kinda stole him away from her
"winona rider is hot" all the time, etc etc.
then he said, "[the girl] looks like her."

so i said a guy that he knew, was hot and blah blah.
we talked about it and i said, "so how does it feel now?"

never talked about her again.

[Kay-]

Say the same about another guy.
Or straight up tell him how you feel.

[nosylilme]

You could either:

Talk to him about it. Tell him how you feel.

or

you should be like "well, i think so-and-so is a fucking sexy bitch, i wouldn't mind getting with him :)".

That. Then talk to him and tell him how you feel.

[cyb3r0ptik]

why not tell him
"hey, when you talk about so-n-so, i don't know why, but it makes me really upset. can we not talk about her please?"

[S-Majere]

Something I missed when I replyed to this earlier is that if you trust this guy 100%...why the insecurities about what he might get up to?

[barbieeedollxo]

if i was you i'd either be a bitch and be like omg so-and so is so effin hot maybe i should date him and see what he says..
or just try and talk to him about him and tell him how it makes you feel and if he don't stop then dump his sorry ass and find a great guy who will actually appreciate you.

[Sandraaa]

Oh my.

You should definitely confront him. Don't let it go. You have every right to get pissed, I mean, he's YOUR boyfriend for the love of bananas!

[yaamakoh]

i used to do that too with one of my ex's, but in actual reality i didn't know it was hurting her that much until she pointed it out.
women are more towards the feel side, where they experience everything as it goes, forgetting vivid images from their past lovers. they tend to live in the moment with their current boyfriend, only thinking and loving them. when they get married, and bear our children, they think of us as the father of their baby, becoming more psycologically attached.
men on the other hand, even though we don't like them, we think about them, everytime we kiss we have an image of our first kiss in our mind. every time we have sex, we think about the feeling about the first time we did it. men are more towards picture, capturing images in our minds without us thinking about it.
war veterans can never forget about war.
men can never truly forget about their first lovers, whether she was a bitch or not. we won't develop feelings for them anymore, just that their images are engraved into our mind. not our hearts, so keep that in mind.

[littleswallow]

Okay, that's just insensitive of him really! But maybe, like the one above me, he doesn't know he's hurting you. I think you should tell him how you feel. He's your boyfriend for crap's sake! How would he feel if you suddenly talk to him about how you think that this guy who likes is hot?!