"the tables have turned", another teenage girl boy situation to read about Options

[mytangerine]

so; this past summer i had a fling with a guy that lives only a block away from me. it was amazing & we got really close & i don't regret it at all & value him as a friend so much. so we're back in school now & we still talk & such, still close; but...
found out today that his friend is trying to hook him up with someone else. i feel super threatened. although we never went out i still feel as though if .. let's say if he was mormon, i should be considered his most favored wife. i am protective i guess & don't want any other chicks raining on my parade. i know that he is looking for a longer term relationship & we both know that i can't do that at this point in my life. but the thing is, i really love what we have. we really should be dating, but i just don't want the title since i don't want us to turn into a stereotypical same highschool boyfriend girlfriend situation. i am just really against that.
anyways, point being i've told him i could see us having an actual relationship in the near future, just not anytime too soon. but i don't know if he will wait since he probably thinks i am so flakey since i can't decide what i want i really don't want to lose him he means so much to me. he even has told me that the new girl is pretty decent competition. i think he told me this so that i'd step up my game a bit & be more possessive. i actually think that's what he wants, but he is also the type of guy that goes for something new a lot, pretty adventurous/risk taker. i am so confused. any advice would be nice. i know this is difficult to reply to, sorry, i just had to let it out hoping maybe some of you can relate