Separation Anxiety ;; My Baby's On Vacation ♥, How do you feel when your "significant other" goes away? |
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 Aug 6 2007, 05:22 PM
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 Hablamos Espaņol.  Group: Official Member Posts: 1,283 Joined: Jul 2007 Member No: 549,364  |
So my boyfriend left for a retreat yesterday, he'll be back on friday but i have
[HORRIBLE and TERRIBLE] separation axiety, depression.. THE WORKS! its been a month straight that ive hung out with him all day everyday.  im so sad.The question at hand is: How do YOU feel when your significant other has to go away for "X" amount of time, and how do you cope? THIS TOPIC ISNT ABOUT ME! LOOK AT THE QUESTION ITS ASKING, How do you feel when your "significant other" goes away? |
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Aug 6 2007, 05:23 PM
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 Naomi loves you. Y'all may call me NaNa Group: Official Designer Posts: 2,925 Joined: Jun 2006 Member No: 427,774 |
Make yourself busy. Clean the house.
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Aug 6 2007, 05:25 PM
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Hablamos Espaņol. Group: Official Member Posts: 1,283 Joined: Jul 2007 Member No: 549,364 |
QUOTE(1angel3 @ Aug 6 2007, 06:23 PM)  Make yourself busy. Clean the house. Theres nothing to clean. I tried, everythings clean (all thanks to my mother) 
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Aug 6 2007, 05:40 PM
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Naomi loves you. Y'all may call me NaNa Group: Official Designer Posts: 2,925 Joined: Jun 2006 Member No: 427,774 |
QUOTE(N3RDYY @ Aug 6 2007, 02:25 PM) Theres nothing to clean. I tried, everythings clean (all thanks to my mother) Read a book, get on cb! |
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Aug 6 2007, 05:49 PM
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Hablamos Espaņol. Group: Official Member Posts: 1,283 Joined: Jul 2007 Member No: 549,364 |
QUOTE(brownsugar @ Aug 6 2007, 06:40 PM) Yeah, my boyfriend was gone for eight days. He just got back on Saturday. How long have you been with him? This could test your relationship, so it might turn out to be a good thing. Just keep up the communication. Keep texting him/calling him...keep talking. And when he comes back it will all be better. :) 2 years. I know this sounds so silly but mannn. We havent been apart for like a whole week in AGES! Oh and i really dont feel like reading because ill be doing plenty of it in december. 
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Aug 6 2007, 05:52 PM
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 forgive & forget Group: Member Posts: 176 Joined: Jul 2007 Member No: 551,100 |
QUOTE(brownsugar @ Aug 6 2007, 05:40 PM) Yeah, my boyfriend was gone for eight days. He just got back on Saturday. How long have you been with him? This could test your relationship, so it might turn out to be a good thing. Just keep up the communication. Keep texting him/calling him...keep talking. And when he comes back it will all be better. :) YEAH i agree with her.. 
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Aug 6 2007, 05:58 PM
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Hablamos Espaņol. Group: Official Member Posts: 1,283 Joined: Jul 2007 Member No: 549,364 |
its actually kind of hard because theyre really busy doing things so he'll call maybe 3 times a day for about 10 mins.
Ahhh this is UN-FAIR! |
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Aug 6 2007, 06:16 PM
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i feel scared... but i try to trust him... im away at the momment, while hes still back home..
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Aug 6 2007, 06:27 PM
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Hablamos Espaņol. Group: Official Member Posts: 1,283 Joined: Jul 2007 Member No: 549,364 |
^^^^ i trust him i just miss him terribly.
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Aug 6 2007, 08:48 PM
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 i've never wanted anything rationale. Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 8,449 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 19,045 |
Wow get over it. I have spent a total of 3 weeks with my boyfriend the entire summer.
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| *Programmer* |
Aug 6 2007, 08:53 PM
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well one thing is for sure when ever you meet up you both already know what's going to happen. so rather then dwell on it. look forward to the occasion.
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Aug 6 2007, 09:55 PM
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 Mais je ne l'aime pas Group: Member Posts: 971 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 108,135 |
Keep yourself busy, 1angel3 said.
Just do stuff. With him gone, consider it a chance to do whatever you want. Go shopping, go paint, go be creative! Absence makes the heart grow fonder. But while he's absent, you gotta find something to occupy your mind with. The reunion will be sweeter. Be sure to maintain some communication, too, though. |
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Aug 6 2007, 11:45 PM
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 livin up to the name. Group: Member Posts: 1,594 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 54,539 |
i dated this kid for over a year
and i went maybe 3 weeks in all without seeing him liek he went on a trip for a week and like another 4 day trip and ten i guess 10 days jus here and there without seein him and we broke up and i went from seein him every day to never. now thats shit was hard i dont really have any advice for you btu i wanted you to know jus - youll be fine i got really f**kin bad anxiety , not separation but i understand |
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| *Insurmountable* |
Aug 6 2007, 11:58 PM
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Well considering I'm in a long distance relationship...we only see each other ever 5-6 months..
So we use other types of communication. You know, the phone, letters, etc. Believe me you don't have it bad. Keep yourself busy and your mind off things and you should be just fine. |
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Aug 7 2007, 02:56 AM
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Stop being so selfish and get over it. 3 times a day 10 minutes each is PLENTY. You and your boyfriend should both have your own lives.
I've been with my boyfriend for two years and the entire last year he was away for school. I saw him at winter break and at reading break. It was hard, yes and it will be this coming year but you need to learn to live your own life anyway. That's the only way your relationship can be healthy. Maybe it's just how I am as an individual, but as much as I miss my boyfriend, I enjoy it when he goes away for little retreats and things. Having extra time to spend with my friends, by myself... I feel it energizes myself and makes me even more happy to see him when he does return. |
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Aug 7 2007, 04:55 AM
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 Like i care. ♥ Group: Member Posts: 780 Joined: Apr 2005 Member No: 124,706 |
i would feel very down
and would be worried he would cheat or something |
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Aug 7 2007, 03:45 PM
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Hablamos Espaņol. Group: Official Member Posts: 1,283 Joined: Jul 2007 Member No: 549,364 |
QUOTE(jennypie @ Aug 7 2007, 03:56 AM) Stop being so selfish and get over it. 3 times a day 10 minutes each is PLENTY. You and your boyfriend should both have your own lives. Shut the f**k up and YOU get a life, i miss him and how the f**k is that wrong? I dont give ashit how long youve been with your boyfriend its not about HOW LONG you've been with someone its about how you feel. and right now im f**king pissed off.  ok. sorry about that. |
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Aug 7 2007, 03:51 PM
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 tell me more. Group: Official Member Posts: 2,798 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 35,640 |
My friend was attached to her ex boyfriend like nothing I've ever seen. And since I've never been in your shoes I'll just give you some off topic advice
if you choose to spend time with your friends while hes away DO NOT obsess about him and call him every other hour.  Maybe call him once a day, and spend the rest of the time doing things you cant do when hes around. |
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| *Michelle* |
Aug 7 2007, 03:56 PM
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Considering I'm usually the one that goes away, I just try to KIT as much as possible :] And also, Steven and I always write each other letters before we go on long trips that we can re-read while we're away :] And we always keep a token of each other... He kept my class ring on a chain around his neck, and I had his beanie and a stuffed animal he gave me.
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Aug 7 2007, 05:04 PM
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i've never wanted anything rationale. Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 8,449 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 19,045 |
QUOTE(N3RDYY @ Aug 7 2007, 01:45 PM) Shut the f**k up and YOU get a life, i miss him and how the f**k is that wrong? I dont give ashit how long youve been with your boyfriend its not about HOW LONG you've been with someone its about how you feel. and right now im f**king pissed off. ok. sorry about that. How bout you shut the f**k up and realize how good you have it? |
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Aug 7 2007, 06:35 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 2,343 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 17,767 |
QUOTE(Rachel @ Aug 7 2007, 05:04 PM) How bout you shut the f**k up and realize how good you have it? Exactly. I'm just telling you that you should really be more grateful when there are those of us who go for substantially longer periods without our SO's. Before you blow up and be all immature about it I suggest you realize how good you have it, don't be so whiny and imply that I do not love my boyfriend as much as you love yours just because you miss him more. |
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Aug 7 2007, 08:51 PM
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Hablamos Espaņol. Group: Official Member Posts: 1,283 Joined: Jul 2007 Member No: 549,364 |
sorry its just SOFAKING harrrrd for me and i know its hard for you too but, [fdjghsdfghkfd] <- thats how i feel.
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Aug 7 2007, 08:52 PM
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 here, here, and here Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 3,301 Joined: Aug 2005 Member No: 206,103 |
Hang out with your friends.
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Aug 7 2007, 08:55 PM
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Hablamos Espaņol. Group: Official Member Posts: 1,283 Joined: Jul 2007 Member No: 549,364 |
QUOTE(stolen @ Aug 7 2007, 09:52 PM) Hang out with your friends. i still think about him all the time. i wonder what he's doing, and if he's eaten... im so lamee.
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Aug 7 2007, 10:05 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 310 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 74,834 |
I haven't seen my boyfriend in over two months so stop complaining.
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