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 Jun 12 2007, 09:05 PM
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I have a friend. I'm 20 she's 19. I like her. I really care about her. I hinted towards it, she gave me her number, etc. We were scheduled to go out on a date, but her grandmother died. I'm not worried about the date. I'm more concerned about if she's ok, and what can I do as a friend to show her I genuinely care that she's ok. I called her home twice in one day. I spoke to this person who sounded like my friend to some extent, and the person was really angry. I left a voicemail too. I've been wondering how much time and space should I give her? What should be done on my part? My guy friend is suggesting I go to her job and see her. Which I do every now and then. My female friends are saying give her 2 weeks to a month. I have no idea what to do. I just feel like I'm being shut out.
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Jun 12 2007, 09:54 PM
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Just let her know that if she needs to talk that you're there and reassure her that you're there for her every now and then.
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Jun 12 2007, 09:54 PM
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 Tasty. Group: Member Posts: 471 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 21,784 |
hmm thats a toughie. well as a 19yr old girl myself, i'll just tell you what i would like a guy like you to do...
yes you can visit her at work but i'm sure she'll be busy and stressed out to talk, especially if she's in the middle of something. i would just spend some quality time with her, alone or with friends. what she needs right now is someone's shoulder to cry on. she needs support and love. she needs to know that you care. i wouldn't give her a ton of time, i would get a hold of her right now. tell her that you'll be there for her if she wants someone to talk to, and suggest meeting up with her to talk. but don't press the situation. she probably needs some time to think, yes, and needs time on her own. but i would tell her that you're here for her. so give her some time but call her, visit her maybe once a week or whatever. don't be to pushy. she'll talk about it when she wants to open up. otherwise respect her wishes and just wait it out. she'll be back in no time. and when she sees how great of a guy you are and that you've been there for her, you'll be on that date in no time. |
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Jun 12 2007, 10:31 PM
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 High Voltage!∞ Group: Official Member Posts: 4,728 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 29,157 |
^ That's great advice.
Call her, let her know that you're there for her. Maybe write her a little card too. 
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Jun 13 2007, 01:49 AM
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I would say to send her a card saying that you are there for her when she needs someone to talk to. Make a little something funny in the card to cheer her up.
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Jun 13 2007, 03:02 AM
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 omfg, rtfql. Group: Member Posts: 649 Joined: Mar 2007 Member No: 511,564 |
Tell her you're there for her, obviously. But, don't turn it into you just being a friend. Like, after the whole thing blows over, you don't want her to 'love you like a brother'. So, be there for her, but don't be afraid to make a move, if the mood is right.
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Jun 13 2007, 08:56 PM
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tell her how you feel, and make her feel comfortable and let her know your there for her..
she'd really like that.. and it would make you feel better too 
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Jun 13 2007, 09:00 PM
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 i less than three you. Group: Member Posts: 278 Joined: May 2007 Member No: 525,773 |
Dont suffocate her. Just give her some time.
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Jun 14 2007, 11:41 AM
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 Hi, Im Brook. Group: Member Posts: 1,774 Joined: Mar 2007 Member No: 508,383 |
If you give her 2 weeks to a month to settle down she might forget about you
 Give her maybe three days to a week. Give her some time but still be there for her.
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Jun 14 2007, 11:41 AM
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Hi, Im Brook. Group: Member Posts: 1,774 Joined: Mar 2007 Member No: 508,383 |
QUOTE(Chicago @ Jun 13 2007, 09:56 PM)  tell her how you feel, and make her feel comfortable and let her know your there for her.. she'd really like that.. and it would make you feel better too Agreed. |
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Jun 14 2007, 11:43 AM
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Support her and give her all the care that she needs for you
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