What the hell is he thinking? Options

[runforfun529]

So, I've been having problems lately with my boyfriend. The basics: He's 18 and I'm 17. We've been dating for nearly 7 months. We haven't had sex but done basically everything leading up to it. He's going off to college next year about 2 hours away from me.

Our relationship followed the path of rocky in the beginning then smooth sailing, but it it beginning to get rocky again. We haven't broken up but it seems as though he wants to do so. He doesn't have any problem with me, and says he is happy with me- I'm perfect, that kind of thing. But, I'm only his 2nd relationship and he's not sure if I'm right for him without any other experience. His first relationship shouldn't even be called such because she only dated him because she wanted attention (this is what she admitted).

Anyway, he says that if he would have dated a few more people before me, he would be much happier because he would know what it were like. But he's not sure if MAYBE there is someone better out there for him (even though he continues to say that he can't think of any other trait I could possess).

I kind of see where he is coming from, but at the same time I don't. I understand that MAYBE there is someone better out there, but maybe not. If he's happy with me, he should continue to date me, even if there's a chance he would be better off with someone else. If he happens to find this person, he can break it off with me, and go for them.

Any advice you have for me, or him for that matter, would be greatly appreciated.

[pinayprincess]

honestly; u guys should just break up.... college... theres a lot of things up in college for him [other than girls] and probably hard to keep a relationship with him, meanwhile you're going to be a senior in HS...... there is an oppurtunity right there, but who knows-- u can take the risk of staying together or break up and experience other oppurtunities in your last year of high school.

[ashleybby]

i am dealing with the exact same thing
well my bf was talking to me about how he has only had one other gf and he isnt sure if he really loves me
so we went on a break
then he decides to move to san deigo to earn money for "our" future. we were perfect and he kept telling me he loved me and he couldnt wait to marry me
then a week later he tells me he wants me to move on, forget about him and date other guys
and a couple days after that he starts dating some other girl
it broke my heart and its still broken. its really tough because
how can your feelings change in a week?
well my advise, break it off or go on a break
because if he is wondering if there is someone else out there, then eventually he will want to date around,
its hard but i think that would be the best thing to do
i dont think someone that loves you should be wondering if there is someone better out there
but if they are even thinking about another person out there,
break it off.
take some time off and in the end you get back together, it really was meant to be.
if not...well then it wasnt meant to be
its hard...
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[EmoEyelinerx]

honestly; u guys should just break up.... college... theres a lot of things up in college for him [other than girls] and probably hard to keep a relationship with him, meanwhile you're going to be a senior in HS...... there is an oppurtunity right there, but who knows-- u can take the risk of staying together or break up and experience other oppurtunities in your last year of high school.

I agree.

[*steve330*]

You can't make a serious call on this one without actually knowing the guy and the exact situation. There is only so much words can explain. I had these issues but it only lasted a very short time. He has to come to his own realizations, and if you break it off from him it could throw him out of whack and leave him confused and very perturbed. On the flip side, he shouldn't have to go through multiple women to find out if you are or are not the right person. It should be something he feels, and just knows, not something he uses reasoning to deduct.

[RyanWasHere]

Go with your gut instinct.

[*steve330*]

^I would recommend against that, as there have been several cases where if either one of us went with gut/initial feelings things would have severely f**ked up. Some people aren't very trusting people as well, and their gut tells them not to listen to anyone, while you have to break down that barrier of mistrust.

Think things over, then decide what you want to do. Is he really worth it? Are you willing to wait on him to make a decision and risk losing him even after that? How much does he mean to you?

[MeanBastard]

Break up.

[KayleighKins]

Break up.

Yup.