gah, i need help |
 May 29 2007, 12:03 AM
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 just another girl  Group: Member Posts: 490 Joined: Apr 2006 Member No: 393,136  |
so this has to have been the worst week. a week ago, monday i was hanging out with my bf after school like normal. but then he started acting all pissed and stuff and when i asked him what was wrong he wouldnt tell me so i let it go for like ten minutes and asked him again... after a few more minutes, (i dont remember the convo word for word tho...) i got him to tell me that hes been backstabbed by too many people and that he thought that i would just use what he told me against him. so then i told him that i felt like he didnt trust me which he confirmed, saying "i dont trust anyone, not even my dad"
and then i was almost in tears and then mom came and picked me up and i had to go home... but over the last week, i've talked to all my friends. only one has succeeded in comforting me in a couple of really bad times. but no one knows what to tell me. his friends just tell me, that something happened in his past and that he cares about me and that eventually he would be able to trust me in the few times that i've been able to talk to him this last week i've gathered that something happened in his past and someone that he trusted alot betrayed him (i'm thinking his mom) and then he was comparing me to his mom saying that his mom had told him the same things before doing what she did(i was trying to tell him why he should trust me...and that i could never hurt him cuz i love him so much) and when i asked him if he could ever trust me, he said 'probably' and that he knew better than to say yes or no but i'm hurt, i'm hurt really bad... i know i shouldn't take it personally and that i didnt do anything and that it takes time to get over somethings..... but all the time, i still find myself asking, what did i do to make him not trust me after going out for almost 5 months?? some of my friends tell me hes not worth it...but i believe that in the end he will be...but now, i'm stuck on what to do....i'm so confused.... |
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May 29 2007, 12:20 AM
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 High Voltage!∞ Group: Official Member Posts: 4,728 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 29,157 |
I'm sorry to hear that.
 It sounds like he has insecurities because of whatver happened to him in the past. If he really does care about you, then I believe he will trust you. It might take some time, but maybe he will realize that he can trust you. Does he know that he hurt you by him not trusting you? If he doesn't let him know. Eventually he may change his mind. --oh and you might get more feedback in Relationships. Eventually a mod will move it. |
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May 29 2007, 12:28 AM
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just another girl Group: Member Posts: 490 Joined: Apr 2006 Member No: 393,136 |
okay... i mean, i'm pretty sure with time he will be able to trust me ....its just i'm scared how long it will take because i dont want to hurt like i am for too long.
and if a mod could move this, that would be great. |
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| *Mercy* |
May 29 2007, 12:39 AM
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^Sure thing
Moved to relationships. |
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May 29 2007, 12:54 AM
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You guys are dumb. Group: Member Posts: 1,252 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 25,094 |
How old are you?
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May 29 2007, 12:55 AM
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just another girl Group: Member Posts: 490 Joined: Apr 2006 Member No: 393,136 |
16
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May 29 2007, 12:55 AM
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You guys are dumb. Group: Member Posts: 1,252 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 25,094 |
He's not worth it.
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May 29 2007, 12:59 AM
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You guys are dumb. Group: Member Posts: 1,252 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 25,094 |
You're 16. If he doesn't trust you, if he doesn't WANT to accept your help, then whatever. Even you said, you didn't do anything. It's not your fault. You didn't do anything. He's trusted you up to this point, it's obvious something on his half. He has to figure it out himself. You can wait, but I wouldn't. Actually, it doesn't really matter if you wait or not. You're 16. Unless you've made promises that you haven't carried through on, it's not your fault. Repeat after me. "It's not my fault."
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May 29 2007, 01:04 AM
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just another girl Group: Member Posts: 490 Joined: Apr 2006 Member No: 393,136 |
hes never trusted me......*sighs*
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May 29 2007, 01:11 AM
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You guys are dumb. Group: Member Posts: 1,252 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 25,094 |
Then get over it. You've given this everything you've got I assume. If he doesn't trust you, then there is no point in pursing a relationship. A basis of relationship HAS to have trust. No trust, no point.
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| *steve330* |
May 29 2007, 11:12 AM
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Depends how much you like him, and how patient you are. If you really want him, and you have a feeling that he'll eventually come around, then stick with him. It will mean a lot to him that you put up with his bullshit and stuck with him through thick and thin. Eventually he will come to trust you, and when it does it will be more than anything he ever gave anyone else.
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May 29 2007, 03:26 PM
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 Hi, Im Brook. Group: Member Posts: 1,774 Joined: Mar 2007 Member No: 508,383 |
Dont take it personally, he might just be having a bad week. He will probably go back to normal soon.
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May 29 2007, 03:26 PM
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Hi, Im Brook. Group: Member Posts: 1,774 Joined: Mar 2007 Member No: 508,383 |
QUOTE(th5418 @ May 29 2007, 02:11 AM)  Then get over it. You've given this everything you've got I assume. If he doesn't trust you, then there is no point in pursing a relationship. A basis of relationship HAS to have trust. No trust, no point. Agreed. |
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